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SilentSlade -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (9/30/2012 12:05:29 AM)

Degradation is an interesting concept. A lot of people have issues with it because it can imply many things, many of which are extreme and toe the line of what is mentally safe for most individuals.

That said, degradation could be a lot of fun when done in a way that IS safe and there is good communication.

One of my favorite forms of degradation, has to do with degradation of character, ie through corruption. Its a slow process that takes time, but can have a huge impact. A good example is corrupting the innocence of your partner. Changing their viewpoints on a topic, making them love pain, anal, wearing their collar at all times, these things are degrading the innocence of the person. Pointing this out at key times can bring upon feelings of shame and humiliation that could be quite erotic when handled appropriately.

"Aren't you ashamed of the things I make you do? Yes, but you do love them don't you? Now beg me to spank you again and tell me how much you need it. If you're a good girl maybe I'll give you the release you so desperately crave."




crazyml -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (9/30/2012 12:23:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

I will not degrade someone I care about....AT ALL. I also don't do humiliation. I just....don't. There are so many things other than those to do.

NBMG


And that's wonderful. For you.

What I would say, though, that over the years I've had some really lovely, nurturing, relationships with some very happy, confident and self-aware sub women who really love being degraded.

So, like many terms in the BDSM world, it means lots of things to lots of people....

To the OP... the point of my first post on this thread to point out that "degradation" implies different things to different people.



autumnember -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (9/30/2012 11:56:13 AM)

I agree crazyml. I was a bit taken aback from the whole "so many things other than those to do" but for me .. that is what i crave and love to do in a nurturing relationship. I do know it is not for everyone though



graceadieu -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (9/30/2012 2:45:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: noellesdestiny

This question is ridiculous. I'm sure you mean humiliate and not degrade; yet its still ridiculous.


Kink terms are often very subjective, so I can't say 100% what the OP means, but I personally do make a distinction between the two.

In my mind, humiliation is when something is arousing because it makes you feel embarrassed or ashamed, while degradation is when something is arousing because it makes you feel trashy or debased or inhuman. The same act (say, peeing your pants like crazyml mentioned) could be either or both depending on the person receiving it.



AnimusRex -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (9/30/2012 7:56:01 PM)

I've been told that being seen with me in public is degradation enough.

*rimshot*



peeves -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/1/2012 8:36:06 AM)

Haha
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ORIGINAL: merge9

Point out her Dom's lame posts on CollarMe.




LaTigresse -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/1/2012 8:39:58 AM)

Or, per a recent thread I read about the moon........let her voice his opinion about certain issues, then read other people's opinions of his opinion...[:D]



Rumtiger -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/2/2012 9:03:17 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
Lie to them. Cheat on them. And then continue to let them think that you still love them even though you don't.


that's some bad juju T.



Char2688 -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/16/2012 8:35:00 AM)

Look, some people crave, at times humiliation or degradation....it happens no matter how much others think it is wrong.....I did know a gal that craved such a thing....but verbal abuse did not do it for her......I sat and drank coffee with her, lots of coffee. We talked about what would do it for her and she could not decide or articulate....so we had more coffee, and more coffee. When she finally realized I would not let her use the restroom, panic set in, but she did not go. She begged to go and I refused.......we went outside, and in the parking lot, standing, no one was close, but the place was not deserted, she relieved herself fully clothed.....then next day was when I found out she found what she was seeking........to each their own.



antipode -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/20/2012 7:33:26 PM)

You first



catize -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/20/2012 10:52:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Kana


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ORIGINAL: Someone542

I'd like some ideas on your favorite ways to degrade a sub.

Call it a sandwich

I'd call that a downgrade!!



autumnember -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/21/2012 9:39:54 AM)

I don't know about that... a great sandwich outweighs an okay sub



GrandMasterChet -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/28/2012 4:38:44 PM)

all subs are different...for example, while some subs would be humiliated if forced to do the following my sub "loves" me and does this with great GUSTO. I have him wash my feet, trim my nails, scrub any callouses, apply lotion, apply medicinal salves.

some subs get humiliated just being undressed, some as footstools, some as nude house cleaners, some by being forced to serve Master's friends sexually, some piss-play ON or IN them, etc ...find out what your sub dislikes...really dislikes



FrostedFlake -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/29/2012 12:00:28 AM)

Keep all the Sailors hands 'busy' to keep them out of trouble.



DOM68005 -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (10/29/2012 12:14:39 AM)

While it was not my intention, a former sub of mine found it too degrading to go around a play party and pass out supplies for the next mixer game. She was properly attired for the event. Those present did not see anything special while she did so. She was just not comfortable approaching people she did not know. My intent was simply to have her help the host. The assignment could have easily been at a vanilla party. In my eyes, the function was no different.



Footstoolnyc -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (11/7/2012 9:38:35 PM)

You're all vanilla. I am a total bottom and I respect a dom who will totally degrade and humiliate me. I want a master who will show me who's boss, no matter what. I need a man who can break my will. The more this happens, the more respect I have for him. Slavery is slavery. Physical and emotional. You are either into or not. As a bottom, there is no negotiation. This is the definition of a slave.



GreedyTop -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (11/7/2012 9:41:33 PM)

glad that works for you, dude. but when I bottom you can bet your ass there are negotiations!!!

eta: and humiliation/degradation are totally off the play list, for me.



Footstoolnyc -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (11/7/2012 9:43:14 PM)

Not to be disrespectful but it means you are not a total bottom.



GreedyTop -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (11/7/2012 9:44:30 PM)

maybe not by your standards, but I've certainly not had that complaint from those that top me.



sexyred1 -> RE: Favorite way to degrade a sub (11/7/2012 10:23:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Footstoolnyc

You're all vanilla. I am a total bottom and I respect a dom who will totally degrade and humiliate me. I want a master who will show me who's boss, no matter what. I need a man who can break my will. The more this happens, the more respect I have for him. Slavery is slavery. Physical and emotional. You are either into or not. As a bottom, there is no negotiation. This is the definition of a slave.


I love when someone comes here and pronounces that everyone is wrong because we don't agree with what you think.

Try to comprehend that there are all flavors of kinks and stop telling people what they are.



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