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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 3:20:04 PM

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It's okay, shave his whole body, he HAS NO LIMITS !!!!!!!!!

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 3:20:44 PM

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A man walks by a group of women on a coffee break and they check him out and make comments about his body, loud enough for him to hear. Is he offended? Does he get mad at this? Is he flattered? Does it matter to him if he turns around and these are old women, or "ugly" women? I'd be curious to hear the answer.

Not offended, not flattered, just very embarrassed. It's just uncouth behaviour.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 3:22:25 PM

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It's okay, shave his whole body, he HAS NO LIMITS !!!!!!!!!

Um. Woohoo!!

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 3:33:09 PM

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The wallet is SACRED! It's like an external prostate or something.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 4:20:35 PM

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There's a guy in intros who is all butthurt that his deeply specific profile post was not well received. It was explained repeatedly that women are not fitish delivery systems, and are not items to be chosen off a menu.

Whenever these gender type discussions pop up, I try flipping the genders to see if the argument works in the other direction.

So, mens: are you items on the menu? If I made a post saying that I wanted a six foot tall redhead with green eyes, Useful Bits of a certain dimension, an Edinburgh accent, and who loved being beaten with a sjambok, what would you think?

I would think you knew what you wanted, and that I wasn't it (which is irrelevant for me because I'm not looking, I'm taken, yanno). It doesn't bother me when people limit themselves, it affects them more than anyone else. If they whine about it, though, you have to tell them to put a sock in it - responsibility, after all.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 4:29:50 PM

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As per the original post, how about....... dye my hair, slip in my green contacts, put on me built up shoes, and get practicing my Scottish accent.........

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 4:30:50 PM

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See, TYPICAL MALE.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 4:44:17 PM

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I don't endorse this thread.

That is all.
-Aries

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 4:46:17 PM

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Aww, Aries! No fair copping out! Are you the hot young beachmaster or would you rather be loved for your mind?

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:15:59 PM

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I would rather be able to love.

As arrogant as this will sound, I have no problem
getting people to love me, the problem is I don't
love them back.

I doubt many of you would know what it's truly
like to look at someone as nothing more than an
object, saying someone is a sexy hunk of beef
doesn't come close.

I tell myself I'm a monster for the pain I cause
and mourn the feelings I see as being lost.
It should be lonley not being able to connect to
someone... but I'm not.
I wonder if a lone wolf gets lonely... Every lamb
it gets close to, it kills.
I wonder if it feels like a monster... It doesn't.
It doesn't feel anything.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:26:55 PM

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See, TYPICAL MALE.

LOL

I see it like this: people objectify you (and me, and everyone) every day, by design or accident. You are reduced to "that girl at the cash register"; "the guy who slouches as he walks down the street". We are taken in as snapshots, not known or digested, just sampled and filed away. This is just how people process things. You can't know everyone. Just understanding the people you do know can be difficult.

So, if a lady objectifies me, there's a good chance that it's just how I'm perceived, which has nothing to do with who I am. Yeah, I can live widdat.

(Then again, the smartass in me would respond to some quaint comment like, "You dirty slut!" with, "Well gee, clearly you know me, but I don't remember you. How much did we drink?".)

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:28:07 PM

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I would rather be able to love.

As arrogant as this will sound, I have no problem
getting people to love me, the problem is I don't
love them back.

I doubt many of you would know what it's truly
like to look at someone as nothing more than an
object, saying someone is a sexy hunk of beef
doesn't come close.

I tell myself I'm a monster for the pain I cause
and mourn the feelings I see as being lost.
It should be lonley not being able to connect to
someone... but I'm not.
I wonder if a lone wolf gets lonely... Every lamb
it gets close to, it kills.
I wonder if it feels like a monster... It doesn't.
It doesn't feel anything.

-Aries

Sounds like this.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:29:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: ARIES83

I would rather be able to love.

As arrogant as this will sound, I have no problem
getting people to love me, the problem is I don't
love them back.

I doubt many of you would know what it's truly
like to look at someone as nothing more than an
object, saying someone is a sexy hunk of beef
doesn't come close.

I tell myself I'm a monster for the pain I cause
and mourn the feelings I see as being lost.
It should be lonley not being able to connect to
someone... but I'm not.
I wonder if a lone wolf gets lonely... Every lamb
it gets close to, it kills.
I wonder if it feels like a monster... It doesn't.
It doesn't feel anything.

-Aries

My issue is exactly the reverse...and I tried keeping a pet monster once...but that's another story.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:30:03 PM

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what would you think

Hmmm.... I know.... How I could fool you into thinking I was everything you wanted just so I could get nude pictures of you...

Butch

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:30:38 PM

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I have to admit I enjoyed this read... Men don't seem to take to objectification very well overall. I don't mean that as a slam against men, since I do quite love them, but I can't help but laugh at seeing them on the flip side of a thread like this!

LadyHibiscus, your external prostate comment STILL has me laughing!

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:33:53 PM

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what would you think

Hmmm.... I know.... How I could fool you into thinking I was everything you wanted just so I could get nude pictures of you...

Butch

Was this directed at me? Anyone wants pics has to come and take their own! I love modeling!

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:54:32 PM

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Going against the tide on the thread.

Let Me start with saying that nothing is absolute and this isn't an "all men are the same" type of area.

Why do men advertise themselves the way that they do? It's because they think the same things that turn them on turn women on. That's why they post cock shots, even though anybody who has ever been on the net knows that women aren't usually interested in seeing them. Men are generally less invested emotionally with their fantasies. If the "connection" between the two people isn't present, that doesn't mean the acting out of the fantasy is necessarily bad. Run a poll and ask guys if they could have their wildest dream for one night, but they didn't have an emotional feelings for the woman, if they would go for that wild, hot, fiery, kink sex. How many wouldn't care a rat's ass about lack of emotional attachment?

This is very much why books like "Men are From Mars/Women are From Venus" and "The Five Love Languages" become best sellers. <Uses the Lewis Black voice, "Yes, there really were books before "Fifty Shades of Crap." Oh, sorry.>

Those interested in objectification would be THRILLED to be in that situation in life. Like Otters said, a lot of men don't get to experience that. Being taken, used, wanted on a primal level is something some men dream about, but never get. It's the stuff they fantasize about. Most men react to it VERY WELL when their dream of it comes true.

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 5:56:17 PM

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As long as she's hot (Or he's had enough beers) men don't care about being objectified one damn bit,
They just want some pooty

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 6:02:16 PM

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Well we KNEW that, Kana!

(So do the wimmins...shhhh)

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RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? - 10/3/2012 6:03:22 PM

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It amazes Me some days how much Kana and I think alike.

< Message edited by LadyPact -- 10/3/2012 6:04:05 PM >

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