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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 3:49:47 PM

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Metal knickers and lots of aspirin can help........

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 5:24:16 PM

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Warming up helps a bit - starting out with lighter blows to get used to it and building up gradually. It's also easier to take if I'm already turned on, if I know in advance it's happening so I can prepare, and if I'm lying down or otherwise in a position where I don't have to hold myself up. Being restrained seems to help me accept it, otherwise I tend to leap out of the way.

Warm ups and being restrained helps me too, as does knowing how many strokes I'm going to receive.

While I've had great success using breathing techniques while having dental work, the effectiveness of pranayama to process pain has been hit or miss during BDSM.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 5:58:27 PM

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I'm a masochist and fairly extreme one who is owned by a Sadist. One of the things I've learned over time is to never anticipate the feel of the implement that will cause the pain, or the location of the pain, or the intensity of the pain. When one anticipates any or all of these things muscles may tense and all that does is increase the amount of pain. I found that my anticipation also interfered with my ability to turn my Master's pleasure into my pleasure. I've developed a breathing technique similar to the one I use in self hypnosis and that helps prepare me mentally and physically to accept the pain and assimilate it in to pleasure. Of course, always knowing how much pleasure you bring to your Dominant when you accept His pain makes any technique you develop more even effective.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:00:31 PM

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If I can remain composed enough, I find slow breathing (almost like meditation) to be beneficial.
Try to relax the area that is being hit (tense muscles hurt more).
Focus on the person administering the pain.. think about that moment of connection between Top & bottom, think of how much they are enjoying it.
And make noise... I am noisy during sex and I've found the noisier I am during sensation play the more enjoyable it is and the more I can 'release' all my emotions. I don't swear, but moans, groans, cries and screams really do help.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:36:59 PM

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Take an oxycontin - you wont feel a thing.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:40:40 PM

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These are such great answers. I am finding them so bloody helpful! There is so much useful stuff here I've directed him here to read it all as well. A little awkward, but definitely less awkward than "Well I asked the Internet and it replied that we should try all these different things!"

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:43:05 PM

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Take an oxycontin - you wont feel a thing.

Haha even though I know you're joking I did that last time and it didn't work :(

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:45:57 PM

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Wow - he must be fucking you up left side way of Friday then. I could walk through a burning house and not feel anything.

And no - I wasnt kidding.

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Take an oxycontin - you wont feel a thing.

Haha even though I know you're joking I did that last time and it didn't work :(

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:47:59 PM

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1. Expect your pain tolerance to increase over time. My sub and I are part of the spanko world and every single bottom has said that when she started out, she could hardly take anything.
2. Have him ease up at first. Start off gentle and slow. That's called a warmup. After a minute or so, your rump will get a bit desensitized and you'll get turned on, both of which will increase your pain tolerance.
3. Your body has all kinds of places. Have him stimulate more than one at the same time. Stroking your nipples or ladyparts while spanking... you get the idea.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/4/2012 6:50:22 PM

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In fairness, I felt amazing and even though I could feel the pain hurting I didn't care that much because I was high as shit. Still, as fun as they are it's just not sustainable!

Breathing, being restrained and relaxing it is!

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 2:35:06 AM

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1. Don't tense up. Tense muscles will feel it more.. intensely. (Same thing if you're getting a needle at the doc's. If you tense up it will hurt a lot more.
2. Exhale at a long slow steady pace. This will relax you and help you transcend the pain.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 5:19:43 AM

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My thoughts on this might not help much if you're truly not into pain, but here goes -

I've found that a minor change can make a huge difference. For example, for many years (at least 15!) I thought I disliked wax play - it always hurt. Turned out I was too thin and the only place it felt good was on my butt and thighs, where I have some padding. I like getting whipped on my back (not padded), but the wax was too hot there.

A very long warm-up can work wonders. My partner plays with a lot of novices and it can take 20 minutes or more to get them to take a "real" cane stroke (for example). Like someone else said, being aroused first helps, too.

I can take a lot of pain, but the implement and technique matter. Even though I like the idea of submitting to pain regardless of what it is, I have very strong preferences and would rather get the type I like (and where I like it), even if it's too intense to take easily.

Like at least one person already said, don't tense your muscles.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 5:32:12 AM

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I am not a masochist, and a hard core sadist would piss me off in a major way. So please take my advice with this understanding.

The more aroused I am, the more pain I can take. I get so deeply into sub space, pain is felt as sensation.

This is very good advice:

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1. Don't tense up. Tense muscles will feel it more.. intensely. (Same thing if you're getting a needle at the doc's. If you tense up it will hurt a lot more.
2. Exhale at a long slow steady pace. This will relax you and help you transcend the pain.

I'm all about the control Himself exerts. So even though I don't remember not to tense up, him telling me in that oh so commanding voice: "Relax !! Stay still !!" does it for me.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 7:48:24 AM

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Start slow and soft, only a few light hits, and build up from there.

The more often you do that, the more your tolerance for pain will increase, that's worked for me. Although of course, never do anything you're not comfortable with, know your limits and most importantly PLAY SAFE!!

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I am a rookie though so really take whatever I say with a generous pinch of salt

I agree with PS...start slow and build up (rookie here too)

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 10:27:44 AM

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One of the benefits (and there ARE downsides) to being involved in a large public scene is you get to see people who do things in VERY different ways and enjoy VERY different things. In other word, "typical" kinda goes away.

For both sadists and masochists there are VERY different motivations/turn ons.

You do not get turned on by pain easily, if at all but you do enjoy taking it to please him. He seems to enjoy himself with you now, and important thing to keep in mind.

That is AWESOME as a place to start.

Warming up someone who isn't a pain slut is important, as a few suggested, getting them sexually excited before AND during can work wonders. Nothing like torturing a clit and then enveloping it in your soft lips to kiss it and make it better.
Pain comes in different forms, stingy and thuddy are the more common ones but how you take pain is also affected by the environment. If its cold, its harder to process, if you are distracted, again, harder to process.
Associating pain with orgasm is a way to move someone's pain threshold, twisting their nipples hard, forcing too many fingers in their ass as they come ties the pain to orgasm and builds an association
Not everyone feels pleasure/pain the same in every area, some people's nipples are so wired to their clit, just twisting them hard makes them go goey, others, its a no go and still others, its yawner. Experiment with torturing your whole body...

Learning to breath is important, learning to exhale the pain and let it go takes time but works.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 10:30:35 AM

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Also remember, being female, the closer you are to your monthly cycle due the hormones in your body your skin & tissue will also be more sensitive.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 11:13:46 AM

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Painkillers can lead to severe personal injury, through taking much more then your threshold allows, I have experienced this in my vanilla endeavours. I would highly recommended against it.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 11:26:50 AM

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Janah was being facetious.

. Sort of. Playing while the sub is under the influence can be big fun, but I would only do it with someone whose normal reactions were VERY familiar.

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 1:52:51 PM

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RE: Tricks for taking pain! - 10/5/2012 2:38:02 PM

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Heres the deal - if someone is desperate enough to be with someone they are not sexually compatible with and actually goes and uses painkillers to be with that person - have fun. Whatever.

I myself, wouldnt be with someone who is going to be doing something that isnt turning me on in any way shape way or form. Ive been with a sadist - and it wasnt my thing at all. It was just a huge turn off - and got me wicked upset. I actually really liked the person too - but if it wasnt going on in the bedroom for me - then Im moving on. Im not about to compromise my sexual happiness to do something that is going to get me all freaked out.

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Painkillers can lead to severe personal injury, through taking much more then your threshold allows, I have experienced this in my vanilla endeavours. I would highly recommended against it.

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