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How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:06:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Is there any way you can understand a slave is not a switch? It happened to me and did not know how to cope with it cause he was also a lover.
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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:09:16 PM   
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Is there any way you can understand a slave is not a switch? It happened to me and did not know how to cope with it cause he was also a lover.

One can be both.

I'm not sure of the question actually.  But the only way to know a person is what they say they are is to get to know them over time, and use your good judgement- nothings perfect though.



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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:09:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think there is a special birthmark or anything. Maybe just ask? Communicate openly and understand people evolve and needs change sometimes?


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:11:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		People change over time. There is no way to determine, at a given point in time, what someone will grow into months or years down the road.

Unfortunately, that is a fact of life. Everything in life changes, and sometimes, the changes are not what we were hoping for or expecting. We can either chose to cope, or choose to walk away. If we choose to cope there will be challenges, if we chose to walk away there will be challenges.

This is the reason that I will not promise "forever" to anyone. I have no idea what I will become or what they will become over time, and whether it will remain healthy for us to continue to be together -- why promise on what we cannot control?

The best way to handle life is with a lot of hope, a lot of joy, a healthy measure of self-respect, and a whole LOT of flexibility. BDSM life or not, these are the keys to thriving instead of just surviving.

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:14:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well speaking as a switch myself, other than asking and trusting them there is really no way to be sure. It is as always a trust issue, but then again if you find them looking at the wrong sort of picuters on the internet it may be a small indication.

But also one point I would like to make is that as switch myself for the right person I could be a 24/7 slave, just as for the right person I could be a 24/7 Dom. But it tends to be different for every switch.


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:19:06 PM   
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I don't think there is a special birthmark or anything. Maybe just ask? Communicate openly and understand people evolve and needs change sometimes?




That would be so awesome if everyone had a birthmark you could just check...

Who knows, with the magic of science anything is possible.


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:21:03 PM   
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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:22:39 PM   
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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:54:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think you could define it, perhaps it is only possible to give examples.

However one could define it by what it is not, as in a switch is everyone who isn't just submissive or Dominaint.


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:56:56 PM   
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I don't think you could define it, perhaps it is only possible to give examples.

However one could define it by what it is not, as in a switch is everyone who isn't just submissive or Dominaint.



Did you see the (j/k)?


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 4:58:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry I forgot to add one to mine 

I was just joking too, but I can never back down from a logical challange....


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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 5:09:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NikoB

Sorry I forgot to add one to mine 

I was just joking too, but I can never back down from a logical challange....



Well firstly, Niko - welcome to CM, the place of - well, enlightenment and on most part fun.




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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 5:15:02 PM   
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Is there any way you can understand a slave is not a switch? It happened to me and did not know how to cope with it cause he was also a lover.


I'm going to read a little between the lines here. You got a newbie that told you they were a slave. You played a little, had some spanky fun and a roll in the hay or three. Then he becomes bossy, inconsiderate and demands to be in charge? Anywhere close?

I see that you're in Turkey, by many estimates a patriarchical society. I would think that finding a sub there would be hard enough. Slaves especially male ones are extremely extremely rare taking a mans word for it that they're a slave is about as reliable as that birthmark. Most porn that I've seen promotes male no limit slaves as the ideal. As we've proven here time and again no limit is fiction. Even the hard core can find SOMETHING that they will say no to. Reliable references from previous partners would be the only way that I would start to believe them.

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:05:12 PM   
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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:12:05 PM   
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a slave wont try to top from the bottom. its a simple as that.

Well I've known many slaves who did, and what does that have to do with being a switch?

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:37:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		a true slave doesnt switch.thats what that has to do with that. otherwise it souls be a switch. duh!

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:38:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW
a true slave doesnt switch.

And you think this why?

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:48:26 PM   
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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:51:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

because i am entitled to my opinion and I  dont have to answer to you. I have alot of experince and have a life outside the computer.

So do I, that's not what I was questioning.

I know no reason a person can't be an owned slave to one person and own and/or dominate and/or top another- ie be a switch.

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RE: How can you be sure a slave is not a switch?? - 6/13/2006 7:58:47 PM   
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