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aldompdx -> RE: Humiliation vs Degradation (5/20/2007 9:36:22 PM)
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Faramir, thank you for the actual English language definitions. Sometimes, some people believe that protocol requires them to speak BDSM instead of proper English. I personally find that to be intellectually insulting, and thus disrespectful. You cannot mean what you say, if you do not say what you mean.
Unfortunately, I find that too many people falsely assume that humiliation teaches humility. Humiliation creates shame, fear, repression. This adds more layers which cover up the ego, like an onion. Learning humility is the process of peeling away of those subconscious issues which obfuscate one's ego and impede it's transparency. That is, imposing subconscious reaction does not cause the conscious intention of ego transparency and humility.
It is also unfortunate that "de-grading" another does not "up-grade" one's self. While degradation increases the relative difference between partners, it does not produce an absolute rise. Pushing one's partner down only tends to drag one down along with their partner. The more productive method is to show one's partner the path to upgrade. Upon seeing how far they have to go, they become consciously aware of their actual position as a lower grade from their objective.
Without erasing or degrading, how does one make shorter, a line drawn on a paper? Draw a longer line.
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