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OsideGirl -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 8:46:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sassy252 I am trying to please my Sir and do what he has asked of me. I'm not hear to be called names are to be put down but for help plain and simple and as subs we are all sister and i am one sister to another asking for help. #1 - We are NOT all sisters. Where do people come up with that shit? #2 - He has set you up to fail at something that he won't even deign to do himself. #2-A - Most submissive women don't want to talk to the submissive first. They want to talk to the person in power because their life is literally in that person's hands. They need to know that the Dominant isn't bat shit crazy....and submissives notoriously wear rose colored glasses when it comes to their D/s relationships. #2-B - The number of bi-sexual women that are willing to join an existing relationship is about 1000:1. That means your competition is extremely stiff and your chances of failure far outweigh your chances of success. #3 - The history of your relationship is not appealing.

ivone1 -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:05:29 AM)
join your local BDSM group .... there you will find real people that are into whatever you are into .... trying to find a real person online is like trying to find some needles in a haystack... sorry good luck on your journey

GreedyTop -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:14:40 AM)
I have found LOTS of REAL people online. A couple of them, I attend annual birthday parties, several of them I attend campouts (schedule permitting) and other events with. The thing is that I use common sense, and practice discernment in deciding who to let into my life. Yes, there have been failures in that (some, catastrophic), but to say that online is akin to needles in haystacks is inaccurate.

OsideGirl -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:20:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ivone1 join your local BDSM group .... there you will find real people that are into whatever you are into .... trying to find a real person online is like trying to find some needles in a haystack... sorry good luck on your journey I would recommend that too..... however, if the Dom's MO has been to repeatedly dump the old submissive after she's found the new submissive, he most likely already has a reputation in the community.

GreedyTop -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:29:22 AM)
Thanks for addressing that, Oside. I wasn't able to figure out how to say it as gracefully as you did.

OsideGirl -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:35:44 AM)
I always find it funny that people think that just because it's BDSM, you can't get a bad reputation. I know of a lot of people that use the internet because their local community thinks they're a flaming asshat.

GreedyTop -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 11:44:17 AM)
yeah, I have seen that as well, no matter where I have lived/visited.

ivone1 -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 12:28:17 PM)
yeah there are asshats everywhere ....even in the local groups.. .i know a few... but i truly believe that the chances of finding someone is better in real life than online.... remember online you can be anyone you want to be ..... just saying

GreedyTop -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 12:32:37 PM)
and I am not disagreeing that that face to face is better. I am saying that to discount online connecting isn't necessarily needle in a haystack. PLEASE notice that I said CONNECTING, not CONNECTION.

graceadieu -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/8/2012 8:05:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sassy252 Then i met my now Dom ( 8 ) months ago and his sub and yes i join there family and she became my sister sub. He released her months ago and since then its just been him and i till last week we did play with a sub but that is not leading any where. I have never looked for a female sub are a women to be honest so all of this is very new to me. I am trying to please my Sir and do what he has asked of me. So, it sounds like 1) you don't really want to date another woman, you just want to please your man, and 2) you've only been looking for a couple of months, max. Finding a woman that wants to join a relationship is something that can take years if it happens at all. And if you don't actually want it for yourself, it's just going to be stupid drama anyway.

nvfemale -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/9/2012 9:07:07 PM)
Not looking for any more sisters but do have a couple brothers out there I've never met. Neither here nor there for the topic though. It does sound as if she's seeking her own replacement. Perhaps that's something she subconsciously wants though.

sexyred1 -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/9/2012 9:38:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sassy252 Since being in the lifestyle 5 years now. It has always just been me the sub. I've never played with a women and theres never been another sub in the pic .Then i met my now Dom ( 8 ) months ago and his sub and yes i join there family and she became my sister sub. He released her months ago and since then its just been him and i till last week we did play with a sub but that is not leading any where. I have never looked for a female sub are a women to be honest so all of this is very new to me. I am trying to please my Sir and do what he has asked of me. I'm not hear to be called names are to be put down but for help plain and simple and as subs we are all sister and i am one sister to another asking for help. Actually, no, we are not all sisters just because we are submissive women. I don't even have a real life sister, so I certainly do not consider a stranger online to be my sister. Please do not make this into a spiritual kumbaya thing; all that is happening is your guy is lazy and sent you out to find another chick for him to hang out with. Gonna be a hard one to find. And no, I don't imagine weight has anything to do with the issue; most women do not want to be part of a threesome.

autumnember -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/10/2012 2:46:10 AM)
Yeah i am going to have to concur with most others in that i am not your sister. I already have many sisters and can't really be bothered with add any at this point, especially ones i do not know. Most women would prefer to be in a relationship with a man than a woman even if they list themselves as bisexual and as such you arent coming up on her their radar. The whole "booting his last submissive to the curb when you came along" would concern me. Does it not concern you? And finally, make a couples profile and both interact with women at the same time. If one isn't feeling it, both walk away from her. It is important that you and she get along but will he pretty much take anyone you approve. Eww to me that is gross.

Bimbofied -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 12:22:57 PM)
I get a lot of messages from subs similar to the OP asking me to come "Play" with their master. It irritates me as a sub but as the average girl, I feel sorry for you; you are looking for your replacement, its been just 8 months so you are still very much "discardable" I met a Dom for coffee and on our first meet he told me he wanted me to create another profile on CM ans actively start looking for another sub. Let him find the sub, I can bet a million box you are doing this for him and not for you.

secretlyDS -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 2:37:16 PM)
I understand why you are doing this - because I am doing the same thing! This is impossible, though....ugh.

Killerangel -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 2:55:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: secretlyDS I understand why you are doing this - because I am doing the same thing! This is impossible, though....ugh. Yes, it's so hard to find indiscriminate submissive women who would dare to want to be something more than a guy's second best playtoy. Of course these women have to be young and attractive and accept whatever you want them to. It is absolutely incomprehensible to understand why women aren't lining up for the chance to be someone's bit of physical relief on the side when there are a shit ton of available men that aren't in a relationship looking for submissive women as well, and have no dynamic in place to fit into.

OsideGirl -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 3:09:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel quote: ORIGINAL: secretlyDS I understand why you are doing this - because I am doing the same thing! This is impossible, though....ugh. Yes, it's so hard to find indiscriminate submissive women who would dare to want to be something more than a guy's second best playtoy. I think that's an inaccurate description of poly.

MissAsylum -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 3:14:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nvfemale Not looking for any more sisters but do have a couple brothers out there I've never met. Neither here nor there for the topic though. It does sound as if she's seeking her own replacement. Perhaps that's something she subconsciously wants though. +1 to all posts thus far, and +150 to the bolded above. changing some terminology around, i've seen this situation too many times, primarily in high school (which should be a big indicator). If the person can't even take the time to enjoy his rather new relationship, then OP, that should be the cue for you to take your leave. Not going to sugar coat it, but he left another submissive for you. What, praytell, makes YOU so special where it won't happen to you as well?

sunshinemiss -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 3:33:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel quote: ORIGINAL: secretlyDS I understand why you are doing this - because I am doing the same thing! This is impossible, though....ugh. Yes, it's so hard to find indiscriminate submissive women who would dare to want to be something more than a guy's second best playtoy. I think that's an inaccurate description of poly. I agree with you Oside. However, what she is seeking isn't what I would consider poly. She's looking for a submissive woman who will be a playtoy (at best) or a replacement for her (more likely). If it looks like a duck and it swims like a duck and it quacks like a duck, you can bet it's not an armadillo.

OsideGirl -> RE: Sir is looking for another sub/ sister sub (10/11/2012 4:01:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel quote: ORIGINAL: secretlyDS I understand why you are doing this - because I am doing the same thing! This is impossible, though....ugh. Yes, it's so hard to find indiscriminate submissive women who would dare to want to be something more than a guy's second best playtoy. I think that's an inaccurate description of poly. I agree with you Oside. However, what she is seeking isn't what I would consider poly. She's looking for a submissive woman who will be a playtoy (at best) or a replacement for her (more likely). If it looks like a duck and it swims like a duck and it quacks like a duck, you can bet it's not an armadillo. I'll agree with that assessment of the OPs situation. But, that is not the case of how every third into a relationship should be viewed.

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