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searching4mysir -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 6:06:01 PM)

DS,

You have Cmail



Missokyst -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 6:21:12 PM)

I have a profile on the otherside and I am not seeking a thing. I closed it for nearly 9 months earlier because it seemed silly to have it up considering the most I look for on that side is mail from people who were searching for local munch. I kept it open because I was the leader but I no longer run the group and thought it might be better to turn off that side.

THEN I found out that if your name is available and someone happens to create a new user they might end up with your old name. Nope.. not gonna happen. I keep it up now because this is the nic my friends know, this is the nic that is contacted if people find old munch info on the web (my name still comes up). I keep it up because even though I am not looking I DAMN well have the right to keep it up. I have no obligations to answer mail from people I don't know and honestly I opened up that junk mail thingie maybe once to find a lot of stuff from years back that I never knew was there because my mail is filtered. Never saw it, never heard of it, never realised there was such a thing until someone mentioned it and told me how. lol course now I have totally forgotten how to get there again, but I don't care because I have no obligation to respond to anything.

Rude? Oh well. Life is too short to let an imagined slight create a ruffle of annoyance or a hissy fit because people are not behaving as you or your idols choose to behave.
And I can say that because I too wrote to a few old tv star's... sometimes they wrote back and sometimes they did not. Their behavior never dictated how I THINK others should act.





littlewonder -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 8:42:07 PM)

First of all, I rarely get cmail these days so this isn't really a big deal to me anymore but when I do I only answer the person if they are someone I know from this side and they just wanna small chat or ask a question or something or someone who just wants to chit chat about ordinary stuff or ask for info where I live because they are visiting. But anyone else? Nope...never. My non response IS a response.

I don't answer every single email I get on my regular email either. If I did I would end up being phished or end up getting tons of junk email. I don't answer the snail mail I get either for the same reasons. Then again I can go weeks and months without a single piece of snail mail.

If you are a sensitive soul you may wanna think twice about being online if something this small hurts your feelings.



descrite -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 10:58:52 PM)

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If a person can't be bothered to read a profile and to find out the parameters of the person they are writing to before casting their nets? It certainly is not up to the person they picked at random to explain that to them.


Yeah, this qualifier I'll agree with (and I think I mentioned it before)-- if you have a given parameter, and it's posted on your profile, and it's violated, then I can see not responding.

Still, putting up a profile with severe limitations is like putting up a Home For Sale sign in your front yard, but then slapping the "No Black Guys" label on it.

Tacky.


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He has to keep wanting people to buy those books. What good is another novel/screenplay if he has alienated his fanbase to the point that they won't buy/see what he produces? It is called sales and marketing.


You've....never done sales, have you? Let me give you a hypothetical: you're the owner of Coca-Cola. You have an existing customer base. In order to grow your brand, and maintain your base, do you A) individually call every current Coke drinker or B) use mass advertising to build cultural acceptance and goodwill?

Hint: the answer is B. Any would-be artiste who thinks replying to fan mail is the way to riches deserves both poverty and hand cramps. Read my point about celebs who don't answer any mail: the difference is a matter of style and grace, not wealth.

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You seem to keep insisting that I've invited strangers to communicate with me. Just because I have a profile here doesn't make that true.


I disagree. What other purpose does it serve?


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Also the last person who i responded to thanks but im not interested was when i had an actual picture here.. came to the town i had in my profile... And put up missing pictures of my self to find me...

Thats amid the death threats, the insults, and the stalkers..


Okay. This...caught my attention.

Yeah, that would give me pause.

Still...I'm not sure that refusing to reply to email would obviate the inherent risk (indeed: as we've seen, at least one quasi-creepy stalkeresque person is at least as piqued by reply-refusal as a negative reply (alledgedly)).

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Spew your gibberish all you want you're not worth the time to come back here to see what more idiocy might come from you


And yet...you did. Like, five posts later. Untwist the panties. Get some grammar skills (third to last use should be "your," not "you're"), get off the meds, and be prepared to offer support for your arguments instead of invective.

This is a matter of opinion: I think it shows a great deal of impoliteness and lack of class to solicit communication but then ignore entreaties. You have a different perspective. Swell. The grownups are trying to explain to me why ignoring other human beings is not the act of a churl; why don't you let us have our discussion, mmm'kay?







littlewonder -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 11:19:00 PM)

I have a profile on the other side but it's not to talk to total strangers or hook up or anything else. I'm owned so I'm not seeking anything at all. I keep it up to have conversations with those I do know or those who are seeking information on Baltimore. I seem to get a lot of emails from people who are in the area on business or vacation and want to know what to do in Bmore, where to eat, best places for shopping, best hotels, etc....and I like to be of help like that. I like helping people who want to visit with us so they can see what our city has to offer.

Otherwise though, yeah, I don't see any need to respond to every mail I get. It's a waste of time.



myotherself -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/10/2012 11:43:07 PM)

I have a profile on the other side too.

I like to talk to people, and I have several semi-regular 'pen pals' with whom I chat. I make it clear in my profile that I'm here for general chit chat, not to provide wank fodder to strangers. Those people I chat with will talk about the many, many interesting things that are going on in their world, my world and our world, but they have class enough to avoid chat of a sexual nature.

I tend to reply to many of the messages I get, as long as they have shown the level of class I expect. I tend not to respond to 'hi' and 'how are you' messages, simply because there's really very little to respond to. On the rare occasions I have responded, I can usually predict the course of the conversation:

Him: hi
Me: hi
Him: how are you?
Me: Fine, thanks.

*sound of wind whistling over the sands of the desert*

Him: what would you like to talk about?
Me: the implications of string theory on our fundamental undestanding of entropy in the macro universe.

*sound of wind whistling over the sands of the desert. Again*

I don't mind the odd chat with friendly, intelligent people. I refuse to cater to lazy people.



OwnerExtreme -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 12:07:55 AM)

@JanahX: I am sure you are right: Many people on this forum may not like me. Some of them even called me a sicko and pervert (I take this as a compliment) but thats not the point.
I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy. I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria. The fact that I am aMaster does not mean that I lose my courtesy - even if I don't like the one-word-mail of a wannabe or fake.



crazyml -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 12:11:02 AM)

Do you reply to the junk mail you get at home?

You know, the pizza places, the insurance companies, etc etc?



stef -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 1:05:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: OwnerExtreme

I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy.

Bless your heart.

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I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria. The fact that I am aMaster does not mean that I lose my courtesy - even if I don't like the one-word-mail of a wannabe or fake.

Choosing to not answer unsolicited email is not indicative of a lack of courtesy, no matter what you think.

Get over yourself.



littlewonder -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 1:12:51 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OwnerExtreme

@JanahX: I am sure you are right: Many people on this forum may not like me. Some of them even called me a sicko and pervert (I take this as a compliment) but thats not the point.
I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy. I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria. The fact that I am aMaster does not mean that I lose my courtesy - even if I don't like the one-word-mail of a wannabe or fake.


You obviously like to be phished then I guess or you sincerely think that if you respond to enough of the fake ones, one will actually turn out to be real. Uh huh...yeah, just keep writing those emails lol. [8|] Please let us all know how that turns out.



LadyPact -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 3:00:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OwnerExtreme

@JanahX: I am sure you are right: Many people on this forum may not like me. Some of them even called me a sicko and pervert (I take this as a compliment) but thats not the point.
I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy. I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria. The fact that I am aMaster does not mean that I lose my courtesy - even if I don't like the one-word-mail of a wannabe or fake.

Do you know why you do that? Because your mail doesn't even come close to the volume of any female on the site. When was the last time you received more than twenty emails in a twenty-four hour period? How many days did that number of emails coming in continue?

I'd put money that you haven't received as much mail since you opened your account in 2005 that I do in a year. Hell, I'd bank on it.



wnyThroatLover -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 6:19:52 AM)

Ooh ooh, I got more than 20 yesterday!!!!!

Granted...they were all from the same person and we were having lovely funny conversations...

And yes...I responded to every single one!! [:D][;)]



LaTigresse -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 7:31:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OwnerExtreme

@JanahX: I am sure you are right: Many people on this forum may not like me. Some of them even called me a sicko and pervert (I take this as a compliment) but thats not the point.
I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy. I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria. The fact that I am aMaster does not mean that I lose my courtesy - even if I don't like the one-word-mail of a wannabe or fake.


Then you are a fool.

It doesn't matter what you believe, the reality is different than your belief.



pyschosubmission -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 7:35:48 AM)

Personally I always found reality to get in the way of life anyway



GreedyTop -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 7:36:40 AM)

yeah, but you're livin' the dream now, aren't you? *grin*



pyschosubmission -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 7:39:50 AM)

[Bane voice] OF COURSE!


Yeah, Imma lucky lil' psycho [:D][:D][:D]



OsideGirl -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 8:14:21 AM)

What's funny is I can tell you exactly when I decided to stop answering emails (it was before this site):

A man emailed me and said if I belonged to him, he'd keep me pregnant all the time.

I responded that I was a cancer survivor and couldn't have children.


His response was: Well, you're useless then.


If men have a problem with women that won't answer emails because of how your fellow males have behaved....I suggest you take it up with them rather than blaming us for not wanting the abuse that comes with telling someone "No, thank you".



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 8:36:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OwnerExtreme

I believe that we are living in a civilised world and to me it is a question of civility, of politness to answer a mail of common courtesy. I myself get a lot of mails and I even answer those with obvious fake pictures of girls from Ghana or Nigeria.



I guess I don't live in the same world that you do. The one that I live in ISN'T quite so civil. In my world, people aren't obligated to reply to messages from complete strangers.

Do you realize that there is a difference between civility and stupidity? Answering unsolicited messages from Nigerian scammers is just stupid.

No woman is obligated to respond to your messages. They didn't ask you to write to them, so why should they feel obligated to reply? Does every woman at the night club that you ask to dance with you say "yes"? Does every woman that you offer to buy a drink accept your offer? Does every woman that you ask for her phone number give it to you? If you can acknowledge that rejection is an acceptable part of face-to-face interaction, why can't you accept it from total strangers who never asked you to write to them in the first place?

Your sense of entitlement is awe-inspiring.



GreedyTop -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 8:48:29 AM)

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Do you realize that there is a difference between civility and stupidity? Answering unsolicited messages from Nigerian scammers is just stupid.

No woman is obligated to respond to your messages. They didn't ask you to write to them, so why should they feel obligated to reply? Does every woman at the night club that you ask to dance with you say "yes"? Does every woman that you offer to buy a drink accept your offer? Does every woman that you ask for her phone number give it to you? If you can acknowledge that rejection is an acceptable part of face-to-face interaction, why can't you accept it from total strangers who never asked you to write to them in the first place?

Your sense of entitlement is awe-inspiring.



THIS should be a sticky.



LaTigresse -> RE: Why do people ignore mails (10/11/2012 8:49:26 AM)

Hell, it should be a huge banner scrolling across the top of the screen no matter where you are, on the site.



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