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Nice photos pity about the character.

How odd. I always had it the other way around with poise. "Nice character. Pity that there isn't a photo of her so I can put a face to the nice character."

Oh well. Tastes vary I guess.

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

Definition of FETISH

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a : an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence
b : an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : prepossession
c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression

2
: a rite or cult of fetish worshipers

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: fixation

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If by Fellow Fets, you mean Fetlife, this is an entirely different site. If you mean Fellow Fetishists, I am not one and why would you make assumptions re: other people that you don't know? Thirdly, I am not your "fellow" anything and don't want to be.

As for arguing over the word "fetishist," if a person has a fetish, they ARE a fetishist. So you are, in fact, calling people fetishists when you say they have fetishes.

Also, when you come on a public forum and post, you can't pick and choose the answers you will receive. I think people were actually being pretty mild-mannered, considering you came on here making assumptions about people an then got all uppity when those people told you that you were wrong.

NBMG

ETA: Just because a person has kinks, it does not mean they are fetishes that person can't live without.

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ORIGINAL: thexxxxmaster
Nice photos pity about the character.

How odd. I always had it the other way around with poise. "Nice character. Pity that there isn't a photo of her so I can put a face to the nice character."

Oh well. Tastes vary I guess.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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Nice photos pity about the character.

How odd. I always had it the other way around with poise. "Nice character. Pity that there isn't a photo of her so I can put a face to the nice character."

Oh well. Tastes vary I guess.

My first thought.........ANYONE that does not find Poise completely beautiful, smart, charming.........and hundreds of other wonderful qualities......really is so fucked up they are not worth debating. That would be the OP.

I have seen a photo of Poise and yes, she is just as lovely outside, as her brain is completely deliciously lickable. The man that has earned her devotion is a very lucky man. And, I imagine, one to be admired for having the qualities that earned it.

I must have a Poise fetish!

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Well actually no, one doesn't expect to find a majority of "vanilla" people here. However Since Fetlife is the majority kink site and there is no significant difference between the users, many of whom are members of both sites, in no way would one expect that certain people would be so obsessed and mentally disturbed by being referred to by the words "Fellow Fets"that they would then make irrational and illogical attacks and then turn round and whine about being corrected about their misconceptions. Further to this it is irrational to make out that you are speaking on behalf of all the users here. "Folks" should be "SOME folks".

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Now, not knowing that people at my local munch are mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife since it is part and parcel of the lifestyle, yes I would walk in and say "Hi fellow fets" and if anyone objected I would stand my ground in the same way as here, and respond in kind. I doubt that anyone would actual get on their high horse in real life. Your example is itself stupid because nobody would walk into a munch the first time and announce to EVERYONE that they had arrived.

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Ah, you are confirming the impression you give, one of those type of people who thrives on cliques and contrived hierarchy. Ego boosted by looking down your nose at others who are not in your minority clique. Whine all you like about the differences, the big wide world says you're a fetishist in your love of leather and the obsessive profiling you have for it. Wah, wah wah I know more than you do. No you don't. Pathetic.

Where your argument falls apart totally is that everybody has a right to their opinion as you and if they wish to believe that you have a fetish there is fuck all you can do about it, except to agree to differ. Going on and on about it just lends weight to the argument that you have a tendency towards obsessive behaviour. As Shakespeare put it "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

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There you go again, jumping to conclusions. The formatting is as it is for a specific reason and because that is how we wish it to look.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ah, so if somebody finds it a misconception or an insult to be included in a particular term, that makes them mentally disturbed.

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Are you really deciding that I have a leather fetish because of the pictures on the profile?

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And, frankly, I'm damn proud to be a leather person. I've got no qualms about saying so.

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But, I do want to wish you the best of luck in your search. While I was surprised at first that you weren't able to find what you were looking for in a city with such a population, I'm beginning to understand why. My very best from My poly family to you in your goals.

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Now, not knowing that people at my local munch are mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife since it is part and parcel of the lifestyle, yes I would walk in and say "Hi fellow fets" and if anyone objected I would stand my ground in the same way as here, and respond in kind. I doubt that anyone would actual get on their high horse in real life.

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Now, not knowing that people at my local munch are mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife since it is part and parcel of the lifestyle, yes I would walk in and say "Hi fellow fets" and if anyone objected I would stand my ground in the same way as here, and respond in kind. I doubt that anyone would actual get on their high horse in real life.

I would just roll my eyes, thinking how lame you are and ignore you the rest of the night.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

In real life, I have two 'high horses' I can get on......

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Now, not knowing that people at my local munch are mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife since it is part and parcel of the lifestyle, yes I would walk in and say "Hi fellow fets" and if anyone objected I would stand my ground in the same way as here, and respond in kind. I doubt that anyone would actual get on their high horse in real life.

I would just roll my eyes, thinking how lame you are and ignore you the rest of the night.

So being acknowledged as part of the Fetlife community with a smile and a friendly greeting would mentally disturb you, bizarre. You do have a profile there do you not?

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Now, not knowing that people at my local munch are mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife since it is part and parcel of the lifestyle, yes I would walk in and say "Hi fellow fets" and if anyone objected I would stand my ground in the same way as here, and respond in kind. I doubt that anyone would actual get on their high horse in real life.

I would just roll my eyes, thinking how lame you are and ignore you the rest of the night.

So being acknowledged as part of the Fetlife community with a smile and a friendly greeting would mentally disturb you, bizarre. You do have a profile there do you not?

Yup but rarely use it. I go there only when my email says a friend has messaged me there. He only has an account there and nowhere else. Otherwise I don't really go there much. Just because someone has a profile somewhere does not mean they actually use it. I probably still have profiles on lots of singles sites from when I was single. I don't use them either.

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In real life, I have two 'high horses' I can get on......

Stallions or Fillies?

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Nope, my words were quite clear, specific situation, mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife. Single instance not a general trait.

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Nope, I made no reference to your photos, my comments were quite clearly related to the words you used in the post I was replying to, where you said that there were three different levels of "leather" showing you have a fixation (strong interest) on all aspects of the leather community. I did however make a mistake in referring to you as a fetishist, that ought to have been "you have a leather fetish". Just maintaining the continuity of my argument.

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Good for you. Your life seems to revolve around it too.

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I'll take the first bit at face value, since your first post was also welcoming. Thank you.

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Who says we haven't found a single woman for a bit of fun. Note it says LTR, which is more a problem of location and the desire to find their own soulmate, also London does not have a very large BDSM community. Your wild guesses let you down yet again. Male subs are two a penny and women are also far more discerning.

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Incidentally you seem to have a fetish about capital "M".

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In real life, I have two 'high horses' I can get on......

Stallions or Fillies?

Geldings.

Being the responsible pet owner I am, I have no need to breed animals that are already severely over populated.

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Nope, my words were quite clear, specific situation, mentally disturbed by being associated with Fetlife. Single instance not a general trait.

So, now "fellow fets" really meant "fellow people on Fetlife"?

Hey, I've got nothing against Fetlife. I've got a group over there, Myself. Great medium for finding local events, etc.

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Nope, I made no reference to your photos, my comments were quite clearly related to the words you used in the post I was replying to, where you said that there were three different levels of "leather" showing you have a fixation (strong interest) on all aspects of the leather community. I did however make a mistake in referring to you as a fetishist, that ought to have been "you have a leather fetish". Just maintaining the continuity of my argument.

Is this a high protocol leather household? Yes. It's the way we live. By that standard, I've got a Christian fetish, too, because I happen to be Christian and that can also be described as a way of life. Maybe alcoholics who no longer drink have a recovery fetish.

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Good for you. Your life seems to revolve around it too.

Ummm...... Yeah, we kind of live this way all of the time. Kind of what that 24/7 M/s thing means.

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I'll take the first bit at face value, since your first post was also welcoming. Thank you.

You're welcome. I see you decided you might like separating the quotes after all.

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Who says we haven't found a single woman for a bit of fun. Note it says LTR, which is more a problem of location and the desire to find their own soulmate, also London does not have a very large BDSM community. Your wild guesses let you down yet again. Male subs are two a penny and women are also far more discerning.

The same could be said for picking up somebody for a quick f*ck. It takes a lot more to find two people who actually want to stick it out for the long haul. Since I happen to not be bisexual, I've never accepted any of the offers from females to be My submissive.

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Incidentally you seem to have a fetish about capital "M".

What? No mention of My purple fetish?

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I did, at age 18.

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I did, at age 18.

Great. I cannot remember at what age I decided, suffice to say that I have lived my life accordingly, a philosophical sacrifice.