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JeffBC -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 3:49:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
But to carry on your procreation example, if a man has a large penis, and some women say that it makes intercourse painful, does that make him a sadist? Does it make his partners masochists? I think not.

The specific example I was thinking of seeing as this is reality for Carol and I. EVERY time I penetrate her is painful to some degree... sometimes very much so. She's not a masochist and I'm not a sadist. We both wish this wasn't so and pursue means to minimize it.


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ORIGINAL: stellauk
I suppose anacondas and pythons are into breath play, right?

LOLOL. I love you.

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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret
If you have a pet dog, you can watch him making a rational decision, first-hand, just by running this simple informal experiment, just for the sake of demonstration.

Put a steak on the counter with him in the room, and sit or stand where you can watch him but are not immediately threatening. My hypothesis is that the dog would look up at the steak repeatedly and present symptoms of agitation, but he would not immediately go for the steak.

When you put the steak on the counter-top, you created an approach-avoidance conflict for the dog. This conflict creates a heightened level of activity throughout his brain as it attempts to reconcile the conflict. Evidence of this presents itself as a heightened level of anxiety in the subject as he is torn between the prospective reward stimulus of getting the steak and the instilled guilt reaction related to trespassing on his master's boundaries.

Humans can do this, too, but we actually have the ability to do it with a much higher level of sophistication. For example, rather than just a vague, bestial sensation of guilt, we can think of things in terms of sophisticated moral principles. We have much higher quantities of pyramidal cells in our cortices, and this makes a huge difference in the level of complexity with which we are able to think.

Disclaimer: I am not a scientist nor do I play one on TV. But my general understanding is that your view of animal behavior is in the process of becoming the new accepted view. The old "animals are instinct" thing is falling by the wayside. I have always tended to agree. I look at animals and how they behave and the words we choose to describe it and it all adds up to "if it walks like a duck..." In support of this I'd point out that Carol's reaction to that same test would be exactly the same as your hypothetical dog. It would not be a reasoned, calculated, higher-intellect sort of thing. Rather it's a much more basic conflict which shows with exactly the symptoms you're describing. In situations with that conflict she gets the "deer in the headlights" look (heightened state of awareness and anxiety) clearly brought on by a strong conflict between her urge to eat the steak and her urge to respect me. Just like a [well trained] dog, she will sit and fidget until I resolve the conflict rather than seeking to resolve it herself. In point of fact, resolving such conflicts is exactly why she doesn't like to be dominant. She prefers for someone else to sort them out. Just like the dog, if it became important that she sort it out (perhaps she's literally starving) then she would.




Darkfeather -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 4:07:36 PM)

As I pointed out very early on, I don'agree or disagree with this theory. But as it stands now, this way of thinking is just that, theoretical. The long standing belief in Darwin evolution, is still taken as fact today, even though it was written in 1859. Have you ever asked why, why a work written over 260 years ago is still not only accepted, but taught in schools? Its because he simplified it down to a easily explained, easily proved science. You've heard of the saying, keep it stupid simple. That is what science strives to do, find the simplest answers to any given problem. The reason why his views on animal behavior are still in the theoretical stages are they hinge on what the dog is actually thinking. You said your Carol feels much the same in the given situation, because she can say this to you. She can articulate her feelings on the matter in an understandable and unquestioning way. For us to take it that the dog has such complex emotions and feelings, instead of instinct, we would have to hear that straight from the dog. Not interpret his body posture, evaluate the timbre of his whine. But have the dog plain and simple, tell us how he feels. Interpretation is vastly subject to the observer, the way you see that dog whine and act may not be the same way I do. So these complications to the theory are what hinder it, and must ultimately defer to the accepted explanation. Will that change when we can glean more from animal behaviors, sure. But as it stands now, one is just a theory, the other is fact




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 5:05:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

As I pointed out very early on, I don'agree or disagree with this theory. But as it stands now, this way of thinking is just that, theoretical. The long standing belief in Darwin evolution, is still taken as fact today, even though it was written in 1859.
But we still call it a theory.

However, what a scientist, or scientific thinker, calls a "theory" has significantly greater truth value than anything that the average layman would require to call it a solid fact.




Darkfeather -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 5:41:34 PM)

Oh, I think the university I went to more than disqualifies me as a layman. How about you?




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 6:07:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Oh, I think the university I went to more than disqualifies me as a layman.
And you are still using a lay understanding of the term "theory" for one set of postulations and a scientific understanding of the term for the other. You might as well be lying through your teeth.

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How about you?
I get around. I've had to change colleges a few times due to various factors, and the degree I'm working on now has nothing to do with the sciences or anything I have talked about here. I have the attention span of a bumblebee, though, so I never did as well as I would have liked in the maths or sciences. It doesn't exactly help you on a calculus exam if you're in the midst of trying to solve a three-page integral problem, and you start daydreaming suddenly about how a certain mathematical principle could be applied to digital modeling, when you haven't even gotten to the chapter where you're supposed to learn about those kinds of applications. I nevertheless treasure what I have managed to learn in those kinds of courses. I still revisit my old textbooks, reviewing old ideas and trying to see what more I can glean from them.

That's essentially the extent of my credentials if you were wanting to make some kind of contest over that.




Darkfeather -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 6:16:13 PM)

you really need to stop trying to sound intelligent. It insults those of us who actually went to school and learned this stuff




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 6:26:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

you really need to stop trying to sound intelligent. It insults those of us who actually went to school and learned this stuff
This is coming from the person who was so intent on trying to discredit me that he saw "Erasmus Darwin" and thought I was talking about a Dutch theologian.

I never claimed to have material credentials. I have never pretended to be anything besides an enthusiastic amateur scholar, and I think I'm a pretty good one.




JeffBC -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 6:35:30 PM)

I'd like to start out by saying I'm only disagreeing with you on one tiny point. I think it's ridiculous to say that animals engage in BDSM. I think it's absolutely sensible to say that dominance and submission not only are common in the animal kingdom but, in fact, to a large degree the language of D/s translates across species. But all I'm suggesting is that there is commonality in the plumbing. Not that the entire edifice is identical. And I'm CERTAINLY not suggesting that the deep and shaded meanings that we humans bring to the term "BDSM" would apply in an animal psyche.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather
As I pointed out very early on, I don'agree or disagree with this theory. But as it stands now, this way of thinking is just that, theoretical. The long standing belief in Darwin evolution, is still taken as fact today, even though it was written in 1859.

Not if you're a scientist it isn't. Theories NEVER become facts. Facts are things that they measured in their lab... and even then the only fact is that they obtained a certain measurement... not that that measurement was accurate or representative of some larger reality. I always envision the scientific mindset kind of like Heinlein's witness... "The house is white on this side."

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The reason why his views on animal behavior are still in the theoretical stages are they hinge on what the dog is actually thinking.... Will that change when we can glean more from animal behaviors, sure.

No, it won't. It'll be a theory forever. But I will tell you this. There are times in science where some new idea catches hold and suddenly every scientist under the sun is running experiments which support that idea. Now is such a time with this idea that the basic plumbing of "self" isn't all that much different between animals and humans. Every time I turn around someone, somewhere, has devised a new test to peek inside the brain of an octopus, a raven, a something. And routinely, what we are finding is that things are not nearly as automatic and programmed as that word "instinct" might seem to think.

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You said your Carol feels much the same in the given situation, because she can say this to you.

Actuallly no. Had that been the case I wouldn't have called them identical. In fact, she goes non-verbal which kind of makes it look EXACTLY like the behavior of the dog.

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For us to take it that the dog has such complex emotions and feelings, instead of instinct, we would have to hear that straight from the dog. Not interpret his body posture, evaluate the timbre of his whine. But have the dog plain and simple, tell us how he feels. Interpretation is vastly subject to the observer, the way you see that dog whine and act may not be the same way I do.

And this is different from humans how exactly? I gotta tell you that when some human says something to me I am WAY more interested in tones of voice and body language and particularly facial expression than I am the exact words... as are all humans to go by eye motion studies. Unless, of course, you're proposing that humans don't lie and don't suffer from issues with word meaning between the speaker and listener.

So to sum up my position. Yes, I believe that animal psyche's are much more "human-like" than the outdated model of "instinct" suggests. In point of fact I think you'd find that position widely agreed to among researchers in the field. These things take decades to percolate down to us rabble though. Look at how people STILL talk about wolf packs. That's a model that's been invalidated by science for at least 3 decades but we still cling to this idea that the alpha wolf is the strongest yada yada. Yes, I believe my cats loved me. Yes, I believe they cared about me. Yes, I think there was ample evidence of that everywhere. What I think is that the closer the actual life circumstance of a species is to ours (think... aggregates in packs, pair bonds, etc.) the closer the cognitive model of that species is going to be to ours. At best I think our extra neurons give us a richness and depth to it that a dog, for instance, would not bring.

Do I believe that this construct of BDSM is mappable into an animal psyche. No because that's a uniquely human construct that would only really apply given the context of a human existence... an existence which no other animal might ever have. Heck, I'm a fellow human and I don't think that BDSM concept maps into MY psyche.




MstrPBK -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 6:41:38 PM)

BDSM I think is strictly a human behavior. I have found it no-place else in nature.

MstrPBK
St. Paul, MN USA




Darkfeather -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 7:03:50 PM)

Actually, in science you always start with a theory, then try to prove it into fact. So yes they do change into. An example would be theory of light as a particle. Newton postulated that the way light behaves is akin to a particle. Then it was theorized that light acts as a wave. Along comes quantum physics and combined the two theories to light behaving as both a wave and a particle. But as each tries to prove this theory, something new is always added or taken away, until you are left only with the facts. This is why it will be called a theory until someone can definitively answer one way or the other, but at some point that will be taken as fact.

Your answers explain how all this differs in humans. You are an observer to what is happening, therefore you color what you see based on your own experiences and background. You may have a good connection with the dog in question, or in your previous example you know your wife to recognize her non verbal cues. But every person sees things differently. And I take no issue with presenting information thus. My problem is when someone says these things as a proven stone cold fact. It is simply impossible, today, to say evolution is wrong because cats act like this. You can say the popular theory to counter evolution is, but there is a big, big difference between both statements




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 7:21:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Actually, in science you always start with a theory, then try to prove it into fact.
Okay, in the junior-level science courses I've taken, both in physics and in chemistry, I was given to understand that you start with a hypothesis, which you test...we were forbidden to use the word "proof." "Proof" is a term relevant only to the mathematics, and even mathematical proofs are not considered to be absolute. Even after testing your hypothesis several times, you are still not supposed to claim that you have reached the point of having a full-blown "theory."

This was at a college that doesn't do very much besides train scientists and engineers to work for multi-billion dollar corporations.

I'm pretty confident that you are completely full of shit.




JeffBC -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 7:27:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret
I'm pretty confident that you are completely full of shit.

I would not have put it that way but I agree with you that this is not how the scientists I know talk. That being said, I think I'd prefer to have an actual, currently publishing scientist in this discussion. A bunch of non-scientists discussing what science is and is not is highly suspect... particularly if those people were educated in the American educational system.




Darkfeather -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/25/2012 7:38:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Actually, in science you always start with a theory, then try to prove it into fact.
Okay, in the junior-level science courses I've taken, both in physics and in chemistry, I was given to understand that you start with a hypothesis, which you test...we were forbidden to use the word "proof." "Proof" is a term relevant only to the mathematics, and even mathematical proofs are not considered to be absolute. Even after testing your hypothesis several times, you are still not supposed to claim that you have reached the point of having a full-blown "theory."

This was at a college that doesn't do very much besides train scientists and engineers to work for multi-billion dollar corporations.

I'm pretty confident that you are completely full of shit.



Unlike you, I don't use big words to describe what I am talking about. If you want me to start talking in full blown technical terms, I can and will be more than willing to fill this thread. So thank you for the colorful insult




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/26/2012 11:31:35 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather


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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Actually, in science you always start with a theory, then try to prove it into fact.
Okay, in the junior-level science courses I've taken, both in physics and in chemistry, I was given to understand that you start with a hypothesis, which you test...we were forbidden to use the word "proof." "Proof" is a term relevant only to the mathematics, and even mathematical proofs are not considered to be absolute. Even after testing your hypothesis several times, you are still not supposed to claim that you have reached the point of having a full-blown "theory."

This was at a college that doesn't do very much besides train scientists and engineers to work for multi-billion dollar corporations.

I'm pretty confident that you are completely full of shit.



Unlike you, I don't use big words to describe what I am talking about. If you want me to start talking in full blown technical terms, I can and will be more than willing to fill this thread. So thank you for the colorful insult
Look, the only alternative to the relatively informal nomenclature I've been using, to describe parts of the brain, besides Brodmann areas, which I hate, is descriptive language such as, "the pars triangularis and pars opercularis of the inferior frontal gyrus."

Or, if I really wanted to be an asshole, I could use abbreviated gobbledygook like, "the PTr and POp of the LIFG," and I could throw histograms at you as if you're supposed to understand what they represent.

The language I have been using here is really the simplest possible language for discussing the subject matter.

If you really have the background you say you do, try adding something to the conversation. Even as a complete amateur, I have contributed a thousand times more content to this discussion than you have, and you claim to have some special qualification.

But I don't care what that qualification is. All I know of you is what you post here, and most of it so far has been complete trash.




littlewonder -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/26/2012 12:50:18 PM)

Since no one here can get through to you, try this link. I know you probably won't watch it anyway.




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/26/2012 1:27:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Since no one here can get through to you, try this link. I know you probably won't watch it anyway.
I prefer for philistines to think I'm insane, and I would rather have a sparring partner than a congregation.




littlewonder -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/26/2012 6:25:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Since no one here can get through to you, try this link. I know you probably won't watch it anyway.
I prefer for philistines to think I'm insane, and I would rather have a sparring partner than a congregation.


Insane? No, just a guy who thinks he's the greatest while everyone around him laughs and he thinks they're smiling at him.




absolutchocolat -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/27/2012 2:24:42 AM)

this thread tickles me.




CuriousFerret -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/27/2012 9:35:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder


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ORIGINAL: CuriousFerret


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Since no one here can get through to you, try this link. I know you probably won't watch it anyway.
I prefer for philistines to think I'm insane, and I would rather have a sparring partner than a congregation.


Insane? No, just a guy who thinks he's the greatest while everyone around him laughs and he thinks they're smiling at him.
Nah, I'm too scatterbrained for delusions to stick.




littlewonder -> RE: BDSM in nature (10/27/2012 11:53:17 AM)

I'm gonna play nice today before I get in trouble.
But have fun!




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