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BitaTruble -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/14/2006 9:23:54 PM)
quote: Okay, now i'm REALLY confused. i looked up the word "inversely". It means directly. So that would mean LA's statement means the success of a relationship is directly proportionate to how often it's talked about publicly etc. So - okay - is that what you meant LA? Inverse doesn't mean 'direct'. Inversely proportional means that as one side increases, the other side 'decreases' in direct relation to the increase. So if something goes up by 2 points, the other side goes down by two points.. like a balance scale. In other words, the more one proclaims their public adoration, the less likely that relationship will be long lasting. Of course, there are going to be glaring exceptions to that. [;)] Celeste I love him, I love him, I love him. ::chuckles::

timeoutgurlie -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/14/2006 9:52:48 PM)
I'd always read LA's quote in the sarcastic way, but the way you interpreted it Bearlee was nothing short of precious. You make a fabulous point as well, so don't be embarassed, it's a great topic [:D]

SirCumsSlut -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/15/2006 3:28:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bearlee From LuckyAlbatross’ signature: “The likelihood of a relationship working long-term is inversely proportional to how often the relationship is announced and how many professions of adoration are made about each other in public.” I thought I saw something like this a time or two on Celeste’s posts, as well. At any rate; I like it and have been thinking about starting a thread around the quote. I feel that when two people come together, one of the best ways to make it work is to constantly ‘Celebrate’ the fact. To, on a daily basis, choose to be together…every day to make a conscious choice to BE a partnership, to BE in relationship. It seems to me a lot of people talk about being stuck in commitments; trapped, if you will, in choices they wish they’d not made or that they feel have changed to the point of no longer being ‘workable'. I believe people do grow and things do change…but the only way relationships are going to make it is if we regularly commit to them. Yes, profess adoration and celebration of the partnership. Perhaps if people did this (and regularly) they would continue to grow…just not apart. Somewhere I have a quote that’s something like: “I know you know I love you, I just insist on giving proof” Actually, I think that’s the ‘celebration’ I so much enjoy; giving ‘proof’. Yanno? How is it those of you in long-term relationshps make them work? It is hard to describe how soul mates work (for Sir and I are Soul Mates)...all I can add is that we laugh at the silliest things and at the silliest times, we talk, we joke, we play with our kids, ect. Even when times were bad (Sir and I separated for about 6 months) all I thought about was him and all he thought about was me. But my father had it right when he said to me all those years ago, "There are times I don't like your mother, but I will love her for the rest of my life" My parents were married for 44 years before my dad past away, and all I can hope for is the same undying love in my relationship with Sir that they had.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/15/2006 6:15:11 AM)
Thanks Celeste for the explanation. I was quite confused myself and wondering what dictionary was used. Secondly- the prounouncements themselves aren't the problem. While there is something of a "don't say how great the weather is because that makes the bad weather come" sort of amusement I tend to have on these things, that's not really the point either. The point is that usually the ones who make the "twitter patted shouting from the rooftops in every imaginable 'oh isn't he the dreamiest'" tend to be the novices- the ones still illusioned about wiitwd, rushing into their first sub frenzied situation. They don't GET that it's not ALL dreamy, that there's going to be problems. But they will. And, sadly, in cyber culture (specially chat rooms) it's cardinal sin time for people if they say ANYTHING less than fabulous about their dom, or express themselves in anything less than perfect slave form. I don't think it's often that people are trying to convince themselves that it's all great. Usually when people get to that mode, they disappear, or the pronouncements suddenly stop. It's usually just a frenzy symptom. One common thread in the explanations of why relationships have worked in the long term- we're all simply being who we are together.

Bearlee -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/15/2006 6:15:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie I'd always read LA's quote in the sarcastic way, but the way you interpreted it Bearlee was nothing short of precious. You make a fabulous point as well, so don't be embarassed, it's a great topic [:D] LOL "...Time out my lousy vocabulary is showing?" Sheeshhhhhhhhh... actually, I DO know what 'inverse' means...I was just going too fast. I read what I wanted to see (isn't that what boards are for? <giggles> Perhaps this should be stuck up as evidence of just how 'concrete' you should take the things ya read here!) As for the topic I wanted...I'd agree; it's been lovely. I like reading POSITIVE stuff here, now and then; there is a lot of not so pleasant stuff here, too. Balance is good. As an aside...I had to smile (in the gentlest of ways; please do not take offense) at lisa’s comment regarding ‘Natural acts showing our love and devotion’. I wonder if my interpretation of such a display…such as a flogging for fun…would be considered a ‘natural act’? <grinzzzzz> …just a thought! LOL Back on topic…please let me reiterate: I am in NO way talking about those who ‘protest too much’ in their declarations of undying love to anybody who will listen. I was referring to those who, in the course of a conversation, mention their partners in the most positive of ways; or who tell/show that partner in quiet, personal ways they are loved…and do so regularly. <shrugs> I guess the point of my conversation here was that I find it positive, constructive, and ‘relationship building’ to regularly affirm your feelings for another…in the most ‘natural of ways’. I really do wish I’d not used that word ‘witnessing’ now! LOL Celebrate your love!

timeoutgurlie -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/16/2006 8:28:12 PM)
lol Well, look at it this way, you skimming quickly led to this discussion, and I definitely agree, it's great to see positive topics and sharing of opinions. Maybe it was just 'meant to be' [:D][:D]

xxmstrchasxx -> RE: Celebration of choice... (6/16/2006 9:51:40 PM)
I met a wise man once who told me two things to make a relationship last. The first one is to respect each other. The second was never go to bed angry and give each other a kiss goodnight. As far as confessing your love....I don't ever remember a day that I haven't told my sub that I love her at least ten times and I don't remember a day she hasn't told me that at least ten time a day. Yes, we hold hands in public and even kiss in public but we do the same thing at home probably 20 times a day if not more. We have been together for 8 years and it seems to be working pretty good. Respect and don't go to bed angry and kiss each other goodnight. Of course, I would do the same with Bearlee with those cute little dimples [;)]

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