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Bemyprize -> RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? (10/23/2012 10:32:42 AM)
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My therapist says Im making remarkable progress is NOT a good pick up line.
No one is questioning your intelligence, its your social skills. You live in one of the mental health recovery complexes in Joplin, and you wonder why people find some of your behaviors odd?
Ask your therapist about these postings. Try a hiking or a board game meet up group on meetup.com, meet people in real life. I have a friend who... like you gets angry when 20 somethings tell him they are not interested. Let it go bro. Remember when you where a young kid, there was that creepy old guy... well your starting to be him.
Take this from a pervy older guy, if you are scaring the pretty girls you're NOT doing it right. Its just a few seconds difference between the powerful glance of that older Dom across the room to the PIERCING stare of a psycho.
Smart and REALLY smart people sometimes have problems talking with other people. Being smart has nothing to do with being able to relate to people. It's not that you are being rejected as much as you are presenting yourself as Frankenstein.
Your comments and your ramblings sound like you're VERY VERY odd. (180 on the bat shit crazy scale to provide you with a reference) Yelling at the wall odd, cross the street odd. It also triggers the "protect the pack" impulse in guys. Thats why some men tell you to get the hell out of their area.
You need to understand, unless you can find a way to relate as the rest of society does, you will get these reactions.
Show up at a gaming group or bowling meet up or heck even a book club, and you will be that quirky guy who is good at games but anti social. Give it time and you will become, Joe that quirky guy I know from book club. I wouldn't invite him over but he does have interesting comments on the books we read.
Good luck in your transition from:
1) bat-shit-crazy guy YELLING why are the pretty girls running TO
2) Crazy guy coming to our group and finally reaching...
3) _______,(insert your name), that wacky guy we know from bowling.
Recognize that it is going to take time few people are going to welcome your attempts at saying "no SERIOUSLY all the voices in my head LIKE you".
When you get asked to no longer attend a group, think about what you did and try to change that a little bit. Honestly you should expect to be invited to not attend, your goal should be to use your intellect (160 is WICKED SMART) to make a list of things not to say. Think of Ground Hog day.
After being drummed out of a few groups, you should be able to control your impulses enough to actually maintain a membership in some meet up group. From there watch how people talk and make friends. Avoid any BDSM groups, the local Doms/Dommes ... well you would not like the reception and the submissives would show you the difference between rl and internet.
I remain,
Your friend...................................offering you some tips, (as long as you are across the country).
The nice man...............................who stops you from getting a pounding saying "he's going to leave... let him go", (if you are in my State).
That guy......................................who says "he isn't that bad we can skip the tar", (if you are in my city).
The husband,brother,and friend.....who would make sure you NEVER stopped by to visit, (if you show up in my neighborhood).
Michael...,
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