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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 10:25:11 AM

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i'm too passive and lazy to be stalker
and too easily discouraged
i dismiss those who call me names
diss me
i dismiss
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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 10:26:43 AM

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the list keeps growing

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 10:32:42 AM

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My therapist says Im making remarkable progress is NOT a good pick up line.

No one is questioning your intelligence, its your social skills. You live in one of the mental health recovery complexes in Joplin, and you wonder why people find some of your behaviors odd?

Ask your therapist about these postings. Try a hiking or a board game meet up group on meetup.com, meet people in real life. I have a friend who... like you gets angry when 20 somethings tell him they are not interested. Let it go bro. Remember when you where a young kid, there was that creepy old guy... well your starting to be him.

Take this from a pervy older guy, if you are scaring the pretty girls you're NOT doing it right. Its just a few seconds difference between the powerful glance of that older Dom across the room to the PIERCING stare of a psycho.

Smart and REALLY smart people sometimes have problems talking with other people. Being smart has nothing to do with being able to relate to people. It's not that you are being rejected as much as you are presenting yourself as Frankenstein.

Your comments and your ramblings sound like you're VERY VERY odd. (180 on the bat shit crazy scale to provide you with a reference) Yelling at the wall odd, cross the street odd. It also triggers the "protect the pack" impulse in guys. Thats why some men tell you to get the hell out of their area.

You need to understand, unless you can find a way to relate as the rest of society does, you will get these reactions.

Show up at a gaming group or bowling meet up or heck even a book club, and you will be that quirky guy who is good at games but anti social. Give it time and you will become, Joe that quirky guy I know from book club. I wouldn't invite him over but he does have interesting comments on the books we read.

Good luck in your transition from:
1) bat-shit-crazy guy YELLING why are the pretty girls running TO
2) Crazy guy coming to our group and finally reaching...
3) _______,(insert your name), that wacky guy we know from bowling.

Recognize that it is going to take time few people are going to welcome your attempts at saying "no SERIOUSLY all the voices in my head LIKE you".

When you get asked to no longer attend a group, think about what you did and try to change that a little bit. Honestly you should expect to be invited to not attend, your goal should be to use your intellect (160 is WICKED SMART) to make a list of things not to say. Think of Ground Hog day.

After being drummed out of a few groups, you should be able to control your impulses enough to actually maintain a membership in some meet up group. From there watch how people talk and make friends. Avoid any BDSM groups, the local Doms/Dommes ... well you would not like the reception and the submissives would show you the difference between rl and internet.

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Your friend...................................offering you some tips, (as long as you are across the country).
The nice man...............................who stops you from getting a pounding saying "he's going to leave... let him go", (if you are in my State).
That guy......................................who says "he isn't that bad we can skip the tar", (if you are in my city).
The husband,brother,and friend.....who would make sure you NEVER stopped by to visit, (if you show up in my neighborhood).

Michael...,

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 10:34:22 AM

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I wrote this on your other thread but i think it got pulled by the mods. If you are having difficulty here with people you may want to take some time to be introspective. Does this happen in real life as well? (it sounds like it does). How can you work on yourself to minimize this? The bottom line is that you sound as though you have an attitude that says it must be everyone else and i don't believe that. Now im not saying that people are always nice but i think that you are antagonizing.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 10:43:01 AM

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i saw your reply
this was my reply
...
****autumnember
i would be much nicer if i was not provoked
an intuitive
once told me
that all through my life
i was provoked
he gave other advice too
one is to avoid porn
i can see his point on that
when i watch facesitting videos
i like watching it
but have envy as well
if i have something to do
so i am not bored
i keep to regular stuff

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 11:03:53 AM

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Well, I'm not all that concerned about provoking you or of being put on hide, so those aren't issues for Me.

I'm not going to go on about My high IQ or any of that other crap. I noticed that somebody on the thread mentioned you having Aspergers. Now, I don't know a whole heck of a lot about that, but isn't one of the issues related to having it is that folks with that syndrome is that they don't pick up on social cues? Logic would tell Me that, if you are missing social cues, yes, there are going to be times that you are going to be interpreted as creepy by some women. You aren't understanding those small social hints when a person would prefer you didn't approach them, etc.

If you are living in a mental health half way type place, (which I also just read on this thread) that means you've got some issues and so do the other people living in your complex. Needing classes for anger management also emphasizes this. (Not exactly a class that people generally take for no good reason.) It might be worth looking at the idea that maybe it isn't all because of other people. Maybe, just maybe, it really has something to do with you as well.

Oh, and since every time somebody says something that you don't like has you rushing to put them on hide, you may also want to look at why you have difficulty handling people who don't necessarily agree with you.

Enjoy your Collar Me Experience. I'm out.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 11:22:51 AM

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Fast Reply (haven't read past page 3)

if I was just going about my business, and someone I'd only talked to a couple times started tellng people I was stalking them and causing people to think unfairly about me, I'd be pretty miffed too. If I was already having that problem, and someone I was kind to started misrepresenting my kindness - I'd be WTF? Pretty hurt, and upset. Buth THEN, I'd stop and think, "wtf? Is this other girl just hearing things about me and worried about my intentions? OR am I doing things to put people off?"

Now, I can empathize with your situation in the original post, but your responses to people are where the picture widens a bit.

Your responses do seem to be a bit off the norm and to be honest, I was thinking Aspergers myself. I score pretty high on the Asperger's test, so I sometimes wonder why I look at the world quite a bit differently as many I know do, and I can sorta relate to your original concerns. That said. Your responses to most of the women trying to explain to you why a woman might be paranoid and why women often have to be careful - shows a blatant lack of ability to empathize. Your reactions to those posts are why people are probably having a hard time connecting with you.

Just saying.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 11:25:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I noticed that somebody on the thread mentioned you having Aspergers. Now, I don't know a whole heck of a lot about that, but isn't one of the issues related to having it is that folks with that syndrome is that they don't pick up on social cues? Logic would tell Me that, if you are missing social cues, yes, there are going to be times that you are going to be interpreted as creepy by some women. You aren't understanding those small social hints when a person would prefer you didn't approach them, etc.

That was my thought, as well. It's not them. It's him not realizing that he's coming across as creepy and then blaming people for thinking he's creepy.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 12:55:33 PM

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@Bemyprize
No one is questioning your intelligence, its your social skills. You live in one of the mental health recovery complexes in Joplin, and you wonder why people find some of your behaviors odd?

FYI
correction; i do not live in a mental health recovery complex in Joplin Missouri
I live in low income housing (community setting) subsidized because i only get SSDI, in Austin, Texas

I don't use pick up lines.

Odd, my ass!!!
I'm eccentric!!!

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 12:58:50 PM

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@WinsomeDefiance
thanks; guess you can relate. hell, sometimes i feel that i was abandoned as a child in the woods, raised by wolves, never learning how to interact with people. i think there is a movie/book about that premise.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 1:46:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: godmonger666

i'm too passive and lazy to be stalker
and too easily discouraged
i dismiss those who call me names
diss me
i dismiss
welcome to the list.

Perhaps someone will be kind enough to quote me since apparently I am on the hide list.

I did not call you ANY names.

I tried to explain why your behavior may be creeping women out from a woman's perspective.
I did not say you were a "creepy stalker guy/dude".

I said that your behavior was creating the condition in which you are being perceived as such... and that furthermore, your inability to assimilate the information being presented to you here makes you seem like a man who won't take no for an answer.
And that will create the impression that you could be a potential rapist.

WinsomeDefiance stated that you are having a difficult time empathizing with people.
From your responses here I have the impression that is accurate.

You came here with the question "why are a lot of women paranoid?"
I tried to answer why the women -around you- might be paranoid.

Sometimes (and it is a difficult truth to face), the answer isn't them, but you.
We all have those moments.
The challenge we all face is what do we do with that information and how can that make us better human beings.

Behaviors can be changed and new ones accepted and learned... but first you have to acknowledge there is a problem to begin with.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 2:01:11 PM

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Yeah, even your photo is creepy.

And where you live? My experience over many many years of living in cities and walking by subsidized housing, most of the people there are crazy, creepy, violent, social misfits. I live about half a mile from a place like that and once in awhile I will walk that way because it's a shortcut for me but Master yells at me when I walk that way. And I never ever walk at night through there because the people there are dangerous and there are always crime reports everyday reported from there.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 2:17:03 PM

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Op, I don't find you the least bit creepy....but I am and hang out with a lot of "freaks" so that might be why. Or it might be because you are trying to hard. I would like to actually answer your question though "Why are a lot of women so paranoid" (?) The answer to the question is Blue fish on Tuesday. (if a mod reads this trust me it is on topic and the correct answer to his question) *Hands the OP a hot dog with lots of condiments but no bun.

*side note* Aleister Crowley was not Wiccan or evil for that matter. But I'm guess you aren't either.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 2:20:24 PM

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Can I get a reading next?

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 2:27:11 PM

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Any time pretty lady. But I'll be upfront and warn you that I only "read" women by touch.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 2:29:51 PM

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LOL! Well, as a founding member of BiWus(Bi from the Waist Up Society) - I'm up for that...just not down for it.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 3:23:56 PM

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I rather like putting my hands around necks so that from the waist up thing is fine with me.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 3:36:48 PM

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 5:07:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Perhaps someone will be kind enough to quote me since apparently I am on the hide list.

I did not call you ANY names.

I tried to explain why your behavior may be creeping women out from a woman's perspective.
I did not say you were a "creepy stalker guy/dude".

I said that your behavior was creating the condition in which you are being perceived as such... and that furthermore, your inability to assimilate the information being presented to you here makes you seem like a man who won't take no for an answer.
And that will create the impression that you could be a potential rapist.

WinsomeDefiance stated that you are having a difficult time empathizing with people.
From your responses here I have the impression that is accurate.

You came here with the question "why are a lot of women paranoid?"
I tried to answer why the women -around you- might be paranoid.

Sometimes (and it is a difficult truth to face), the answer isn't them, but you.
We all have those moments.
The challenge we all face is what do we do with that information and how can that make us better human beings.

Behaviors can be changed and new ones accepted and learned... but first you have to acknowledge there is a problem to begin with.

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RE: why are a lot of women paranoid? - 10/23/2012 5:21:44 PM

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@angelikaJ
my sincerest apologies; i did misread your statement; though it did seem to put all the blame on me (which i will not accept total blame for another person's perception or reaction, a person's perception can be distorted by past experience). Unhidden; again, i apologize; i get very defensive when i am under attack. have a great evening.
sincerely;
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