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RE: How Would You Do - 10/28/2012 10:12:56 AM

anniezz338

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I once knew of a dom who said he switched roles with his sub for one week and she wept because he was a better sub than she was. To me, a good dom can read his sub very well. I'm not well at reading people so i would fear constantly getting it wrong. And since i do not want to be with a switch, i couldn't imagine being the dom.

Running my own life can be difficult much less running someone elses. Someone could put a whip in my hand but i couldn't lift it. I do not have a sadistic bone in my body. On the flip side, i could do things like encourage, aftercare, things that show the softer side of a dom.

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RE: How Would You Do - 10/28/2012 10:29:04 AM

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I once knew of a dom who said he switched roles with his sub for one week and she wept because he was a better sub than she was.

Being obedient because you master yourself is a far cry from obeying because you are inspired. Bottoming is not the same as submitting.

As for topping, I know lots of bottoms and submissives who are wicked tops but I am also part of an insanely.large and vibrant kink scene.

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RE: How Would You Do - 10/28/2012 10:52:24 AM

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maybe so Michael, I'm just using his wording. I'm interpreting the OP's question as more getting out of the comfort zone of our own personality traits to a higher degree, as bdsm goes more extreme in the literal sense than a vanilla relationship. Bottoming, submitting, slave are handy little buckets we use differently, be it labeling ourselves or others.

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