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I’m having a really difficult time answering this thread because I know that anything I say can and will be used against me in a court of kink. But, I’ll give it a shot (and probably take one in return).
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just how accepting are we here on cm and in real life of each others kinks and lifestyles. Or for that matter others lifestyles in general? (i.e.; biker, Christian, Susie homemaker, Joe suit and tie)
Depends on how you define "accepting". Some things I gleefully embrace. Some I have no reaction one way or another. Some I tolerate. Some I have to tolerate from a distance. Some I will gladly hop on my high horse and insult like there’s no tomorrow. I tend to be more accepting in public because I realize it’s not all about me in someone else’s venue or in a shared space. If I find it offensive, but not to the extent that I feel compelled to speak against it, I usually dismiss myself. In my home, with my people, I am much less tolerant.
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Do you find some you hate or cannot grasp? How do you react to these?
Yes. I react to them differently based on why I hate them.
I hate cross-dressing a man as a woman. It really puts an "ick" feeling in my stomach. It’s a personal preference thing. I don’t see it as damaging in anyway. It doesn’t stir a desire in me to take a stance against it. For the most part, I just avoid it or ignore it.
I hate pedophilia with prepubescent victims. I’ve studied the subject at depth and I completely understand it. But I still hate it. It’s more than a personal dislike. I do see it as damaging. And it does compel me to take a stance. So when I see it happening, I’m avid about speaking not so softly and carrying a big stick.
There are very few kinks that I totally cannot grasp. Mainly, because I make a point of learning. I will continue to chip away at a concept until I figure it out. At the very least, I can usually settle for "It just makes the person happy". But more likely than not, I’ll keep digging on a psychological level until I think I’ve figured out what makes a person tick.
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Do you find some of them morally reprehensible? Which ones? Why?
Some. But not very many. Prepubescent kids, yeah. I don’t think they have the proper faculties to make consensual decisions yet. So I view them as victims. Adultery, because it’s built on a foundation of dishonesty. Really, any dynamic that is based around deception, lies, nonconsensuality, or victimization, I have a moral issue with. However, we all define even those things differently. I really have a difficult time seeing battered women as victims past the second fist swing. I also have difficulty categorizing a 16 or 17 year old willing participant in a sexual encounter as a victim. My personal definition of "victim" is quite narrow. But my personal definition of "dishonesty" is quite broad. I have to sometimes pay special attention to see if someone is making a valid point about their definitions, or if they are just justifying themselves.
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Are you open to at least discussing these kinks or do you just turn the person or poster off or worse yet flame them?
I’ll discuss damn near any kink someone else brings up. I’m always eager to learn someone’s POV. How I respond depends on my reason for not liking it, and a billion other factors at that particular moment in time. There are certain topics I try my best to veer away from here due to TOS. And there are some of my personal kinks I won’t bring up here, at all, for various reasons.
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What do each of you consider to be mainstream kink or fringe kink?
Just about anything going on in the public dungeon is probably "main stream" in my list. Spank, flog, tie, command, needle, blah, blah, blah. They all tend to fall into the same categories after a while. "Things that bind", "Things that hurt", "Things that include body fluids", etc…
Things probably aren’t as main stream as I think they are. I’ve just "been there, done that" so much that very little phases me anymore.
How many consider M/s or D/s or Daddy's/Mommy's boy or girl to be kink? How many consider it to be a lifestyle?
It depends. If it’s an every day part of life that permeates into other daily routines, I’d probably call it a lifestyle. If it’s just something you do on the weekends, to get your kicks, I’d probably call it a kink.
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