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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 7:05:36 PM   
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So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!


This doesn't necessarily mean falling in love either. It's more about that point you take the leap to try and build the relationship or commit to it. Of course for some this is falling in love.


As a side note.... I ask this question because I recently cross paths with this absolute sweetheart and it seems I am about to have another to swoon to my wild desires. The question above is one I have been recently looking at as result and was wondering what others thought for themselves.

Last note.... To answer my own question... One that I have asked and answered twice before. I know; when I can't see enjoying my life without them being apart of it in some way. It's not that I can't enjoy my life without them. I just don't want to and make choices to make sure it doesn't happen.

So what is your answer?


Bud...this is no different than any other gig.

When it's there...you know it.

When it's not.....

You know it.

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RE: Falling? - 11/12/2012 8:25:55 PM   
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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 3:02:27 PM   
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KOM...3? Isn't that a little I don't know...greedy?


No... I would say deserving or worthy of such.

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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 4:02:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I knew he was the one when I loved to be with him, not just nice to have someone to talk to but wanted to be with him more then any other person. When the sight of him pulling into my driveway set my heart to racing because I was so happy to see him, and when he was ordered down range for 3 weeks for training I did not know how I would get through almost a whole month of not even be able to call him. Not sure it works for everyone but we are celebrating 21 years this month.

My mom on the other hand cried to her friends at work that she had lost her daughter the day I brought his laundry home so I could wash it for him.

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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 4:37:04 PM   
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When I've fallen? - When the very thought of them makes me smile every day

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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 4:40:01 PM   
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KOM...3? Isn't that a little I don't know...greedy?




No... I would say deserving or worthy of such.


You're gonna end on that tv show "Hoarders".

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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 4:50:20 PM   
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KOM...3? Isn't that a little I don't know...greedy?


No... I would say deserving or worthy of such.
Come off of it. You and I probably ARE the greediest folks going. Even I can't get over on not admitting it. LOL.

The answers given are all really good. For Me, it's the difference between thinking and knowing.





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RE: Falling? - 11/14/2012 6:39:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!


This doesn't necessarily mean falling in love either. It's more about that point you take the leap to try and build the relationship or commit to it. Of course for some this is falling in love.


As a side note.... I ask this question because I recently cross paths with this absolute sweetheart and it seems I am about to have another to swoon to my wild desires. The question above is one I have been recently looking at as result and was wondering what others thought for themselves.

Last note.... To answer my own question... One that I have asked and answered twice before. I know; when I can't see enjoying my life without them being apart of it in some way. It's not that I can't enjoy my life without them. I just don't want to and make choices to make sure it doesn't happen.

So what is your answer?


You know.

If you don't know...it didn't happen.

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RE: Falling? - 12/2/2012 8:12:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!


This doesn't necessarily mean falling in love either. It's more about that point you take the leap to try and build the relationship or commit to it. Of course for some this is falling in love.


As a side note.... I ask this question because I recently cross paths with this absolute sweetheart and it seems I am about to have another to swoon to my wild desires. The question above is one I have been recently looking at as result and was wondering what others thought for themselves.

Last note.... To answer my own question... One that I have asked and answered twice before. I know; when I can't see enjoying my life without them being apart of it in some way. It's not that I can't enjoy my life without them. I just don't want to and make choices to make sure it doesn't happen.

So what is your answer?





My answer... When you realize that being completely yourself around the person is so easy and still feeling loved no matter what.
And on a personal note... You are deserving of 3 and i thank you for falling :-)


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RE: Falling? - 12/2/2012 9:05:42 PM   
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My answer... When you realize that being completely yourself around the person is so easy and still feeling loved no matter what.
And on a personal note... You are deserving of 3 and i thank you for falling :-)



thank you and I think I was tripped ;)


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RE: Falling? - 12/2/2012 9:22:21 PM   
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KOM...3? Isn't that a little I don't know...greedy?




No... I would say deserving or worthy of such.


You're gonna end on that tv show "Hoarders".

Yeah but kyra & the girls would smell so much better than a house full of cats!

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RE: Falling? - 12/2/2012 9:25:26 PM   
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My answer... When you realize that being completely yourself around the person is so easy and still feeling loved no matter what.
And on a personal note... You are deserving of 3 and i thank you for falling :-)



thank you and I think I was tripped ;)


Um huh hum (cough) you 2 need a room? Or are some intros in order?

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RE: Falling? - 12/3/2012 8:42:58 PM   
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nice to meet you :-)


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RE: Falling? - 12/3/2012 10:39:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always get this warm feeling in my chest and just being in his presence whether we're talking or not is the best thing ever. Or my favorite...whenever I hug him and I relax instantly.

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RE: Falling? - 12/3/2012 11:28:32 PM   
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I returned the favour, and together we evolve. Whichever path that takes us down is the one we take together, and we are each better for the company.

< Message edited by RemoteUser -- 12/3/2012 11:31:17 PM >

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RE: Falling? - 12/4/2012 6:19:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Something about them pulls me in....and keeps pulling. They seem to "get" me and I feel safe - feeling safe is a big thing. When I find myself thinking about them at random times and have that "goofy smile" reaction to a message or call from them. When I crave that real contact, and when I feel myself opening up (in my own way and time) and that they are returning that opening.

I also love what Remote User wrote.....it describes my experience with my previous Sir to a T

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RE: Falling? - 12/4/2012 11:26:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

So how do YOU know that you are falling for someone. What tell tail signs exist that bring you to the realization that this person is it!


This doesn't necessarily mean falling in love either. It's more about that point you take the leap to try and build the relationship or commit to it. Of course for some this is falling in love.


As a side note.... I ask this question because I recently cross paths with this absolute sweetheart and it seems I am about to have another to swoon to my wild desires. The question above is one I have been recently looking at as result and was wondering what others thought for themselves.

Last note.... To answer my own question... One that I have asked and answered twice before. I know; when I can't see enjoying my life without them being apart of it in some way. It's not that I can't enjoy my life without them. I just don't want to and make choices to make sure it doesn't happen.

So what is your answer?


SoulAlloy made the falling -> fallen distinction which I would also like to make.

Falling, for me, is when there is a hole in my world when this person is missing.
It feels empty, it feels painful.
I have made this person part of my world and if they are missing, my world suffers.

I have done falling for friends and for coworkers.
I've made spaces for these people in my world and trusted them enough to require their presence to maintain my structure.

Fallen is when someone is more important than the circumstance that comes with them.
I've only 'fallen' once and I've always craved it.
Maybe it comes easier to everyone else than it does for me.
But I've always been something of a traitor, I think.
Always willing to leave a person, place, or situation behind if it wasn't what I wanted or what I felt was best for me.

When your dream is : With [Subject][Predicate].
And you choose this one person as the subject regardless of what the predicate is.
As opposed to chasing the predicate.
That is what having fallen is for me.

I feel like I finally understand what wedding vows were supposed to mean.

"Even if it means never being rich or successful, which I know I could be.
Even if it means never learning or traveling, which I know I could do.
Even if it means never being romanced as I imagine, never chasing the experiences I can imagine.
Which I know are out there for me if I looked for them.

I would rather nothing more than to be here with you, no matter the circumstance I find beside you."

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RE: Falling? - 12/4/2012 12:17:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me falling is when I can no longer think about me but all i do is think about them. I find they become a part of my dreams and desires at night. During the day i find myself listening to music that is about a budding relationship, and I am eager to see or hear His voice. But When I know i have truly know I have completely fallen is when I look into his eyes and release the inner Me to His Keeping, knowing that I see it returned back in His Eyes. For the eyes are the windows of the soul and if its not there you are right- you know- there is no hiding it or lying to you're self.

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RE: Falling? - 12/4/2012 1:51:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		A lot of these answers sound like a list of symptoms for the flu. Yep, not very romantic, i know, but are you all sure you don't have a virus???

and i definitely agree with the ones that say thinking of him makes you smile. Its a lovely feeling.

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RE: Falling? - 12/4/2012 5:53:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Kinda late to the falling party here, but as I was getting to know the Mister, there wasn't a lot of yippy skippy jitters going on, and I never really felt that "new relationship energy" aka massive excitement that carried me away. It was a slow evolving of feelings, and I realized as the end of each day grew near that I was really looking forward to hearing from him.

And then finally we met and sappy as it sounds, when our eyes met I thought damnnnnnn. With the first kiss I felt like every path I had taken in life - good and bad - had led me to him.

But I never had that constant take-my-breath-away stuff. I actually resisted wanting the relationship.

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