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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/16/2006 8:44:25 PM

SweetSarijane

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My thanks for your condolences. I appreciate it and I used to also hold things inside way too much and let them build to the point I exploded in destructive ways. I'm a lot better about not doing that anymore, but it took a long time to get to this point and it wasn't easy to overcome that habit.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/16/2006 10:09:35 PM

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Not sure what you believe in, but if it suits your beliefs, ask your friend to come to you in dreams.

It won't work right away (usually), and this is because they (the one who's passed) knows it's "too soon". When you are emotionally 'ready' for them, they will come, just be patient.

Something else that may work, if you believe, is to sit in a darkened room with candles burning and look into a mirror. It may take several tries for it to work, but when it does, you will be able to see your loved one, maybe even 'speak' with them.

Times heals all, be well *hugs*

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/16/2006 10:21:32 PM

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VINCE GILL
Go Rest High On That Mountain
(Vince Gill)

I know your life
On earth was troubled
And only you could know the pain
You weren't afraid to face the devil
You were no stranger to the rain

Go rest high on that mountain
Son, you work on earth is done
Go to heaven a shoutin'
Love for the Father and Son

Oh, how we cried the day you left us
We gathered round your grave to grieve
I wish I could see the angels faces
When they hear your sweet voice sing

Go rest high on that mountain
Son, you work on earth is done
Go to heaven a shoutin'
Love for the Father and Son

we played this song many a times when two of our friends in yahoo chat passed away. ( they both passed withint a few days of eachother and left a huge hole for a lot of us ) It seemed to help then and so I hope it can help you and your friends in your loss. * hugs*

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 11:17:39 AM

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timedoutgirlie I smiled when I read your post about asking the person to visit you through dreams. I lost my brother 5 years ago and love the fact that he always knows when to 'show up' in my dreams or through especially strong feelings of his nearness.

To Sarijane and Icetygrys, my thoughts are with both of you during what is an overwhelming and sad time

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 11:35:33 AM

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I am so sorry about your loss. I lost someone very dear to me not that long ago..so I can understand. It was to cancer also.. she was diagnosed on a Mon or Tues..and passed the following Sat.. I hate cancer and that it takes those we love and cherish so much.

My thoughts and prayers are with you though.. please take care..and feel my arms in a hug to you.

~Ticia

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 2:08:53 PM

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sweetsarijane,

I am sorry for you loss too. I lost my sub of 10 years due to kidney transplant problems, lost my best friend about the same time. He retired May 30th and they diagnosed him with cancer on June 8th, he died 2 months later on August 30th.

My mother, father and brother all had cancer and it sure breaks your heart when you lose them but you know in the long run they are better off....no more pain.

(feels kind of funny for a Dom to say no pain is good but you know what I mean)

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 2:20:41 PM

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I have lost two very close friends recently. Yeah, it sucks...Bad!
Still, they live in my heart and if there is such a thing as Heaven we will re-unite again.

That is if I can get a one day pass from Hell?...giggles
I'm sorry and mourn your loss.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 4:32:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

timedoutgirlie I smiled when I read your post about asking the person to visit you through dreams. I lost my brother 5 years ago and love the fact that he always knows when to 'show up' in my dreams or through especially strong feelings of his nearness.

That's wonderful, I'm very happy to hear this. For your brother to come to you in dreams and to make his presence felt means that he knows you've overcome the hardest part of the process and can feel comforted by him now rather than it throwing you into a deeper state of sadness. Loved ones who have passed do also come to us often when they're 'needed', so you saing he knows when to show up tells me that you and he are very in tune, that's fantastic

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 4:40:55 PM

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i'm so sorry for your loss. i know it hurts, especially when it's so soon. One of the hardest things i had to learn after my mom died some years ago what that i was blessed to have her in my life. i also like to think that she'd want me to move on, to remember her with love and smiles, and to pass that onto her grandkids.

hugs and prayers, from all of us here
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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 5:38:57 PM

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My Father and brother have both come to me in dreams over the years and there are times when I feel them close to me. Perhaps my friend will too. Thank you for reminding me of that. It helps.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 5:43:43 PM

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Thank you so much for the words to that song. There's a song that always makes me think of my brother when I hear it. It brings tears and smiling memories of him and was one of his favorite songs. "Time for Me to Fly" by REO Speedwagon.

I know for me that certain songs are a comfort and reminder of loved one's now gone.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 5:46:44 PM

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Thank you all so very much for the condolences and sympathy you've expressed to me and for you who've also lost friends and loved ones, I want to express in return my sympathy, condolences and understanding.

Hugs,

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/17/2006 6:35:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

My Father and brother have both come to me in dreams over the years and there are times when I feel them close to me. Perhaps my friend will too. Thank you for reminding me of that. It helps.

Your friend will come, just give it time and know that until it happens, it's not because they aren't waiting to make contact from where they are, but just that they know you're not ready yet. It definitely won't make the pain disappear just to know this, but I hope it will help you through *hugs*

That's a lovely tribute in your signature btw, beautiful

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/20/2006 8:42:56 PM

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<smiles> Thanks. He was a very special person.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/20/2006 8:51:41 PM

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Tonight I said my last goodbye and paid my respects to my friend and his family. All of us are still stunned by the suddeness of his passing. It was so hard to do this. Not as hard as it is for his family and for friends who knew him much longer than I was priviledged to. I rode with one of those friends tonight to pay respects.

Especially since losing my brother 3 years ago very unexpectedly, I have made a point of always letting my family and friends know I care about them and love them when I say goodbye either in person, on the phone, or email or IM, because you never know if it might be the last time, the last chance to do it. Now losing my friend just strengthens my determination to always make sure they know I care.

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RE: Sad and Hurting - 6/20/2006 11:14:32 PM

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Funerals are difficult. So often we know the one who passed would want a celebration of their life and tribute to who they were to us rather than an overwhelmingly sad event where those who are there feel hurt beyond words, it's nearly impossible to give them what they would have wanted for us in their absence. In some cultures, it's even said that to carry grief over the death of a loved one will 'hold back' the soul of the one who is destined to move on. I believe this is meant to lessen the grieving period, but unfortunately it just can't work because there's no forcing the heart not to feel sorrow...it feels what it feels.

It's a wonderful thing that you've learned in the face of the losses and that you're taking those lessons and applying them to the loved ones who are still of this earth. I know the one's who've moved on are proud to see that you're making the most of the relationships you have and openly showing your heart to those with a place in it.

I wish you well and hope you will grieve as easily as possible until you're ready for your friend to visit and join you again

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