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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 10:59:59 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		OK, everybody else went the other way with this, but I'm going to take it at face value.

There are some folks out there who pull the bait and switch routine. That's when someone plays the role of either vanilla or straight until the other person is in a relationship with them and then they drop the act. The only resolution here is to make a decision. Do you love the person enough to be with who they really are or is it time to end the relationship.

It sounds like you need to end the relationship and not think somebody is going to come and rescue you from it or step in and be your Domme on the side. As a responsible (I would like to think) poly person, Myself, I'll give you this piece of advice. It's generally a bad idea to add someone to your life when your life is a mess. Fix that first.


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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 5:52:35 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

If you're in an unhappy marriage, leave. Saying the only way out is to find another domme is nonsense. That's like saying 'I want a divorce but I can't get one until I find a new wife'.

Leave, sort yourself out emotionally and financially. Most people don't want to rescue a victim, they want a partnership with an already functional adult. While you're still in this unhappy marriage you're not emotionally available and functional enough to be starting a new D/s relationship.


(What she said).

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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 6:13:47 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact



There are some folks out there who pull the bait and switch routine. That's when someone plays the role of either vanilla or straight until the other person is in a relationship with them and then they drop the act.



I'll agree with that. I've been with a couple. But, the reality is that if you end up married to someone that has done the bait and switch, you got married way too fast and weren't paying attention.


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RE: Lied to - 11/15/2012 7:50:12 PM   
VerySincere


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Status: offline 		Ms Lockit ... from Your response ... I get the impression ... more than one party lied!

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RE: Lied to - 11/16/2012 6:56:37 AM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		I'm betting she had mesmerising breast implants.

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RE: Lied to - 11/16/2012 7:19:26 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

Good morning to all..there's a sucker born everyday..at least that what W.C.Fields says.I am here to vent becauase i am pissed off and have been for quite some time.You see i was manipulated into a marriage with a Domme...that's a laugh..she is no more a Domme than i a Dominant male.Oh she was at first to allure me..it worked..the old to good to be true story.At any rate i relocated and i have stuck it out but now after leaving for five months to go back home and returning..i have tolerated enough..i want out in a big way and the only way for me is to be a subservient maleto another who is more truer with her words..there is such a thing of not being a 24/7 situation because of work or illness or just life.But to pose as a dominant female and then turn out to be a bald face liar..well..i don't know what else to add...my dream indeed my lifes goal has always been to be subservient to a strong female and so i am here..i don't know how it will all end but i am hoping i can find someone that will accept me..that's all.

Wow, you know, EVERY Domme yearns to become "the other woman" so a man can cheat on his wife, *sarcasm* ...because THAT is what you are proposing.
So, your marriage is a bad match. Get a divorce, get your head on straight and learn to live independently...THEN start looking for Ms. Right.

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RE: Lied to - 11/16/2012 11:44:49 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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Status: offline 		No one else can save you from the decisions you make. Its up to you to save yourself and straighten out your own mess. All you have to offer right now is a chaotic mess and a lack of personal responsibility on your part for the role you played in creating the mess in the first place. I kind of doubt highly your brain stopped functioning up until the point of saying "I do," right? So you do bear responsibility as well for this. You are offering this to a new Domme and expecting her to be your savior all at the same time. Highly unfair, if you ask me. I will be honest in saying that I dont really know of many who would willingly allow herself to be used in the manner you are proposing.

*edit: new to the forums. Just noticed that it said I was responding to MAINEiacMISTRESS when it should be a response to frankieboy12. Sorry about that

< Message edited by SeekingTrinity -- 11/16/2012 11:52:14 AM >

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RE: Lied to - 11/16/2012 11:57:57 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Don't worry about it. It's one of the quirks of the site that if you use the fast reply box at the bottom of the page it says that you are replying to the last poster.

Usually it's obvious who you were talking to, but you can get around it by clicking 'reply' on the post you were responding to, or some of us just type 'fast reply' or 'FR' when using the fast reply box.

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RE: Lied to - 11/17/2012 5:46:22 AM   
Kaiel


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um.

You're a 59 year old man that was tricked into a marriage that you relocated for, and now you need another Dominant woman in order to leave?



^this^

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 12:48:03 PM   
frankieboy12


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Status: offline 		i will only say thank you to Daddy and Lockit...no comment for the rest of you...oh and my last post on this board..ever..go ahead and clap.

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 1:01:35 PM   
poise


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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 1:18:02 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

i will only say thank you to Daddy and Lockit...no comment for the rest of you...oh and my last post on this board..ever..go ahead and clap.


Wow this is the first time I've ever seen someone come back to a thread months later just to flounce out. I guess that does deserve a round of applause.

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 3:35:41 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

Good morning to all..there's a sucker born everyday..at least that what W.C.Fields says.I am here to vent becauase i am pissed off and have been for quite some time.You see i was manipulated into a marriage with a Domme...that's a laugh..she is no more a Domme than i a Dominant male.Oh she was at first to allure me..it worked..the old to good to be true story.At any rate i relocated and i have stuck it out but now after leaving for five months to go back home and returning..i have tolerated enough..i want out in a big way and the only way for me is to be a subservient maleto another who is more truer with her words..there is such a thing of not being a 24/7 situation because of work or illness or just life.But to pose as a dominant female and then turn out to be a bald face liar..well..i don't know what else to add...my dream indeed my lifes goal has always been to be subservient to a strong female and so i am here..i don't know how it will all end but i am hoping i can find someone that will accept me..that's all.


Too

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 4:31:37 PM   
TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: TallullahHk

Bald face liar.



I caught the same thing.

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 4:38:03 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: SadisticMs2

Do you think WE are suckers?



I surely hope so....In an "Thank you God" kind of way......

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 6:50:49 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

i will only say thank you to Daddy and Lockit...no comment for the rest of you...oh and my last post on this board..ever..go ahead and clap.


Ok, so what are we applauding? Sorry, applauding hissy fit tantrums just perpetuates the behavior. No can do

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 9:52:20 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

i will only say thank you to Daddy and Lockit...no comment for the rest of you...oh and my last post on this board..ever..go ahead and clap.

Having a fit and flouncing off is very.....IMmature. The thing is, frankie, when you come to the forums you need a pretty thick skin because you get blunt honesty. I got my share when I was new. If you can't take it, you shouldn't post.

I say, if your marriage is that sucky and you feel lied to, then get divorced first and work on getting your own life in order. THEN think about getting another Domme, but NOT before. I don't know any woman, myself included, that wants to be the other woman for some guy who hasn't got the cojones to leave his wife on his own. I would never want to be some guy's rebound person....I don't like feeling used.

NBMG

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RE: Lied to - 2/1/2013 11:24:51 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders


quote:

ORIGINAL: frankieboy12

i will only say thank you to Daddy and Lockit...no comment for the rest of you...oh and my last post on this board..ever..go ahead and clap.


Wow this is the first time I've ever seen someone come back to a thread months later just to flounce out. I guess that does deserve a round of applause.

Well sure you don't expect an attention whore to let us get off easy do ya?

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