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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 9:06:55 AM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		I have to second that advice. You should not be sacrificing school for someone you don't see a real future with.. Not that I think you should be sacrificing school at all.

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 11:54:24 AM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		thank you all for your words..
now the thing is I wouldnt be moveing really I would be liveing in a dorm and I would still have my old room at home to come home to during off time at school.. also if for what ever reason it didnt work I didnt like the school or something I still have my home to go to...
I am looking at many schools not because I dont want to be near him but because I had a very bad experiance in the school I had been attending and i want to see ALL my options. I really want to go to florida not only because of him but I love it down there (and I do have other friends down there as well). Im just scared that being with him on a more permanent basis might prove dissapointing.. that it wont be what I had hoped it to be. While I know me and him wont ever marrie we are very good friends and will always be very good friends. We are Dom and sub but by no means at this moment are eather of us monogamus, wich in the end is what I do want.. I dont know I guess its hard to give advise here because you dont really know the entire story and no one can really rell or wants to really tell the enitre sotry on these boards

But in the end even if I chose to go to florida for school it would in no way end in a permanent move at least I dont think so at the moment... you never know what life is going to bring... I guess its just im very dependent on my family and beeing so far away scares me... wich is probubly all the more reason to go away.. I cant depend on them so much all my life.

Oh and I wouldnt be sacrafiseing school the schools Im looking at down there are the same kind of schools Im looking at up here none of them are any better then the other I wouldnt be sacrafising a better enducation to go to florida to me its more that it doesnt really matter wich of the schools I chose to go to that I actually attend because they are all academically evenly matched to me its more of a leaving the safety of my home state

man am I confused!!!

< Message edited by enigmabrat -- 6/17/2006 11:58:49 AM >

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:07:16 PM   
enigmabrat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kree

(besides that I didnt ask for peoples thoughts on my abuse simply what I should do about finding a Dom when i wasnt willing to give oral)

The above comment was one you made in another thread you started.  I thought it interesting that you now say you have worn someone's collar for 5 years, and that he gave you permission (oops permition... just wanted you to know what I meant) to post on here.  If you are collared, do you not feel that you are disrespecting your collar and your alleged Master by trolling for yet another Dominant?  You slammed someone for cheating in another thread, why doesnt that apply to you?

Perhaps the answer is simple... reality is your second language.



Besides the fact that this isnt the point of my thread... I am not cheating he knows Im looking for a Dom that can be a romantic relationship as me and him arent romanicaly involved we are simply very very close friends and he is my disciplinarian and the fact that I have his blessing to as you say 'troll' for another Dom makes it not cheating its a complicated situation and really that aspect is none of your busyness and your comment here was uncalled for and un asked for so mind your own busyness and save your judgments and stupid comments for someone els!!!

its kinda rude to come to a thread and bash the OP aspecially when in your case you didnt even care to answer the OP of the thread!!

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:11:16 PM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		"Im just scared that being with him on a more permanent basis might prove dissapointing.. that it wont be what I had hoped it to be."

All relationships have risk. Your never for sure if they are going to work out or even the when's of them working out. Not to mention that all relationships take time and work.. The good ones anyway. Not everyday is a good day. Playing is the easy part, the part that takes time and work is the trust and love. You can't over romantise a relationship and go in thinking it's just going to be like prince charming and Cinderella. It's okay to be scared. However it's never a good idea to run away from something just because your not sure it's gonna work out. Your young. I don't know if at 22 you'll find the man of your dreams and spend the rest of your life with him. (some people wait their whole lifetime to find that) But one thing I've found is that I learn something new from every relationship I'm in and I carry that forward with me into the future and if I would have run from some Men because I knew it wasn't going to work out I would have missed out on some of my best relationships.

With that being said I think you should go to the school that has the best crediantials. Your not ready to move to this Dom and be with him.

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:11:41 PM   
enigmabrat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

welllllll .. now that we came to this point I suppose we should also ask which persona wrote that .. one person says shes a very college educated person ... 4 degrees I believe ...... yet the english and spelling is that of someone who never made it too high school .... and I believe somewhere in there was some very serioous bi-polar or maybe multiple personalitys


LOL never said I had four dagrees
In fact I have one and im on my way too a secent and third at the moment as for my spelling I have a learning disability not that it is any of your busyness..

why do people have to become so nasty here and try to get others mad when i wasnt provoceing anyone I simply asked for advise!!!!

damn Ill never do that again

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:15:38 PM   
enigmabrat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I'm confused and am not sure how to answer your question. In this post you say:
quote:

ORIGINAL: enigmabrat
I love him very much...

and that you have been collared to him for four years real life.....but in your profile you are looking for another Dom and it says that:
quote:

26-I am a vergin 

who has:
quote:

43-Iv never beein in love  


So which is it?



Ok one is yes I do love him
two yes I am still a virgin
and three was taken out of context it says "Iv never been in love but i think Iv steped in it a few times" and that was sayd as a joke!!
now Im done defending myself here

Please if an op reads this can you deleate this thread I dont care to be bashed and it has turned into something ugly that was not the point of my post so i would really apreciate it if the entire thread would be deleated...

thank you

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:47:54 PM   
mistoferin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: enigmabrat
Please if an op reads this can you deleate this thread I dont care to be bashed and it has turned into something ugly that was not the point of my post so i would really apreciate it if the entire thread would be deleated...

thank you


How exactly was my trying to get clarification for confusing parts of your situation before I gave advice bashing you???

You know what....forget it....I've got lots better things to do with my time than to try to figure out your clusterfuck and give advice that you most likely wouldn't give a damn about anyway.

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 12:51:31 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		MY sentiments exactly erin ..... she obviously thinks all we are doing is bashing and to some extent it can be construed that way . but in actuality I think most of us here have tried giving sound advice .. but I wonder the comprehnsion factor of it all if the basic understanding of the english language cannot be gotten past
 
 I am with you and leaving this thread to be dust in the wind

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 1:18:57 PM   
Kree


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Status: offline 		quoting enigmabrat:
your comment here was uncalled for and un asked for so mind your own busyness and save your judgments and stupid comments for someone els!!!

its kinda rude to come to a thread and bash the OP aspecially when in your case you didnt even care to answer the OP of the thread!!

You asked for comments when you created your post.  As far as being "uncalled for", I simply asked that you explain the various comments you have made that are diametrically opposed to each other.  As is your usual bent, you tiptoe in the sunshine smiling at those who do not question your inconsistencies and displaying anger toward anyone that asks you pertinent questions about your claims.  You now have gone from having a Master for 5 yuears and wearing his collar to saying he is just a friend.  Your OP asked people about the idea of moving in with your Master of 5 years that you see sometimes.  Why would it not be proper to question that before offering advice?  Your OP asked about schools in Florida, yet you did not mention any schools that were under consideration.  How exactly can someone offer advice about schools when you have not said anything except you are interested in "psycology" (your spelling, not mine).  Now that a few people have seen through you and asked real questions, you want to display anger and hope the Moderator will remove this thread.  Just a suggestion, but before you ask a question, be honest with yourself, look at the other things you have said and claimed, and then try to fit your questions within the framework of your previous statements.  Perhaps then, you will get real answers... real advice... instead of people ignoring your discrepancies to give you powder puff answers you want to hear.  What we want to hear is often far more dangerous than climbing on the reality train and facing things. 

You want some real advice?  How about this.  In another of your threads, you claimed you were abused until the age of 21.  You also claimed you had been in therapy for the past 5 years, with 12 different therapists.  You need a lawyer.  In most, if not all, states, if any of those 12 therapists was told about the abuse and didnt report it, they are liable for that failure. Therapists and those involved in social work with the mentally and physically handicapped are required by law to make reports if they suspect abuse.  I am surprised that your education in "psycology" hasnt discussed that in class.  


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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 1:22:56 PM   
Kree


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Status: offline 		Erin and Tamer....

I'll meet you in the real world for dinner.

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 1:33:45 PM   
mistoferin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kree

Erin and Tamer....

I'll meet you in the real world for dinner.


LOL....well I hope neither of you are vegetarians!!! I guess that response was a little abrupt....but I do tend to like to get right to the meat of the matter. I went back and read some of the posts from the history of the OP...this behavior seems to be fast becoming a habit. I don't have the time or the patience to play the game.

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 3:50:04 PM   
enigmabrat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kree

quoting enigmabrat:
your comment here was uncalled for and un asked for so mind your own busyness and save your judgments and stupid comments for someone els!!!

its kinda rude to come to a thread and bash the OP aspecially when in your case you didnt even care to answer the OP of the thread!!

You asked for comments when you created your post.  As far as being "uncalled for", I simply asked that you explain the various comments you have made that are diametrically opposed to each other.  As is your usual bent, you tiptoe in the sunshine smiling at those who do not question your inconsistencies and displaying anger toward anyone that asks you pertinent questions about your claims.  You now have gone from having a Master for 5 yuears and wearing his collar to saying he is just a friend.  Your OP asked people about the idea of moving in with your Master of 5 years that you see sometimes.  Why would it not be proper to question that before offering advice?  Your OP asked about schools in Florida, yet you did not mention any schools that were under consideration.  How exactly can someone offer advice about schools when you have not said anything except you are interested in "psycology" (your spelling, not mine).  Now that a few people have seen through you and asked real questions, you want to display anger and hope the Moderator will remove this thread.  Just a suggestion, but before you ask a question, be honest with yourself, look at the other things you have said and claimed, and then try to fit your questions within the framework of your previous statements.  Perhaps then, you will get real answers... real advice... instead of people ignoring your discrepancies to give you powder puff answers you want to hear.  What we want to hear is often far more dangerous than climbing on the reality train and facing things. 

You want some real advice?  How about this.  In another of your threads, you claimed you were abused until the age of 21.  You also claimed you had been in therapy for the past 5 years, with 12 different therapists.  You need a lawyer.  In most, if not all, states, if any of those 12 therapists was told about the abuse and didnt report it, they are liable for that failure. Therapists and those involved in social work with the mentally and physically handicapped are required by law to make reports if they suspect abuse.  I am surprised that your education in "psycology" hasnt discussed that in class.  



first off I dont have inconsistensies and I do wear his collar but we arent romanticaly involved meaning no sex and such.... I have been in therapy for 5 years but I didnt admit to anyone that i was beeing abused untill it was too late for the state to do anything about it though it was reported... I dont know what your problem is with me and i really dont care

I really dont know why Im defending myself to you people but I wont make the  mistake of asking advise again

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 4:21:18 PM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		enigma:

Not everyone here bashed you.  In fact, it was only the minority.  There were actually more posters who showed a genuine concern and offered sincere advice.   A really nice group of ladies gave you some really good advice in the beginning of the thread.   I second what they all said. 

In any walk of life, there are kind people and there are nasty ones.  Its not hard to tell the difference; this thread is a good illustration of that fact.  Ignore the bashers and take the advice of the kind ones.   

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 4:30:50 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		coooool .. I love Dinner .. I am not a vegetarian . oh wait I am butonly for 5 years then I can eat meat as long as it's ... oh hell .... Dinner is awesome .. and I am tired of this one . she now assumes a new identity on the profiles

I'M outtie

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RE: the big move - 6/17/2006 4:44:18 PM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		LOL... nope no new identety because I really dont care what you think.... and that fact that you think you can know anything about someone by reading some posts makes you rather blind and its kinda sad cuz you'll miss out on knowing a lot of great people..
and marytoo your right Im letting the 3 people that desided to get mean here get the best of me and i shouldnt do that... they want to be mean that says a lot more about them then their wrong nasty comments say about me!!! then again Iv read a lot of threads here and there are always someone that has to side track a thread and start to get nasty.. why is that why do people here have to get nasty with eachother??

Anyway thanks to all the people who gave careing resonses they were a big help i was scared and confused and i still am but now i have things to think on...

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