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interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 4:48:52 PM   
MollyButts


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Status: offline 		i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 5:03:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your question could be interpreted to have any number of meanings, as it is so broad. It might help you clarify your question, in order to receive responses that address that which you truly intended to ask.

Looking forward to the clarification

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 5:04:48 PM   
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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 6:54:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Interracial works for me as far as finding a partner, doesn't work for me as a BDSM focus. I don't care what race my partner is if I like the man, and I find race somewhat unsavory, to base any play on. That's just me, I've never been into humiliation or whatever, although lots of people seem to enjoy it.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 8:38:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		My thought about interracial BDSM relationships is the same as my thought about interracial vanilla relationships: Who cares? You happy with your partner? If so, who cares what others thoughts are.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 9:20:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstSebastian

My thought about interracial BDSM relationships is the same as my thought about interracial vanilla relationships: Who cares? You happy with your partner? If so, who cares what others thoughts are.


What he said. Its your life, do what you want and dont give a crap what other people think

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 10:07:23 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I've had kink relationships with white women, black women, and a Native American woman. I've played with all of the above, and with an Asian woman.

They kinda all have their bits i the same places regardless of race.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/21/2012 10:19:31 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I think people should seek their bliss, and if that means an interracial relationship, then they should go for it.

Now, having said that, I'm a white woman, and several years ago I went out with a black man for about 3 months. I was actually quite shocked to learn his family and friends would not accept me because I am white. In turn, he was quite surprised to learn my family and friends didn't care what race he was, as long as he was good to me.

I personally don't get hung up on race. While I'm generally attracted to black men, I've gone out with white, egyptian, black, and the Mister is native american. For me, the important thing is who he is as a person - his character, our chemistry, etc.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 2:24:12 AM   
needlesandpins


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surely a relationship is just that whether kink or vanilla. if you are making a big deal about it i'd be inclined to avoid you were i a male.

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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it


the above suggests that it's a big think for you, as though you expected not to. that is like saying 'i went with a short guy, and i liked it' or any other preference. otherwise it's a rather racist statement without clarification.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:21:11 AM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		I don't understand the question. How does one thing have any effect--or limit--on the other?

Might as well ask the same thing about partners who are blondes, redheads, curly/straight haired, or of certain heights, weights. You are still doing the same activities, using the same toys, regardless of what "category" the person fits into.

So again, I don't understand the question. Perhaps you could give details about a particular situation you encountered?

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:24:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I feel the same as I feel about interracial vanilla relationships.

People are just people. If two people make each other happy, they are a good match.

To be honest I don't think of it in those terms - there's nothing unusual about 'interracial' relationships in the area I come from, so it never occurred to me to use a special term to describe them. They are just relationships.

I find 'race play' as a kink activity to be not to my taste, but as long as the participants are happy, it's none of my business.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:41:33 AM   
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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:41:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland

I'm color blind, I don't understand your question op

Ok Colbert

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:46:38 AM   
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quote:



DarkSteven
I've had kink relationships with white women, black wome....
n, and a Native American woman. I've played with all of the above, and with an Asian woman.

They kinda all have their bits i the same places regardless of race.



*S*
and that is why your posts always hit home

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 3:51:18 AM   
Toysinbabeland


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Status: offline 		I was color blind before colbert was on the scene Kana

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 4:02:28 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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I've had relationships with people of all ethnic persuasions. (I will not say race b/c there is only one race, the human race. For clarity's sake, I will use the term interracial, though I don't like the term and think it perpetuates the notion that there is more than one race.)

My first relationship with a black man was when I was 16, this means it was 1969. Let me put this in perspective for you youngins. Dating between blacks and whites was practically unknown; interracial marriage was still against the law in some states. Due to the 'race riots' in 1966, racial tensions were high in the city of Cleveland (where I grew up).

So I understand being attracted to someone of a different ethnic persuasion whose looks vary significantly from yourself.

(In the fifty years since then, I've seen many positive changes when it comes to interracial dating. It's so much more acceptable now, although pockets of prejudice still exist.)

One thing I do have an issue with is people who date only black (if they are white) or only white (if they are black). That squeaks me out, b/c then I think the person is looking to play out a race-related fantasy of some kind, or in some other way has their own agenda that supersedes the relationship itself.





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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 5:44:29 AM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		My first was when I was in college in the late 70's.
Her parents thought I was nice.
My parents thought she was wonderful.
My friends informed me that I was way out of my league (I'm not exactly tall, dark or even particularly handsome and she was drop dead gorgeous).
The only people who had a hard time with it were her black male friends many of whom had white GF's.

People are just strange I guess.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 5:53:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a bigot.

And I share,

Not only do I 'not care for' people who are any shade but the obviously correct one, I do what I can to SUBTLY make others uncomfortable about themselves if they do not at least present the appearance of total capitulation, ...I mean agreement, with my exclusionist philosophy, ...I mean mania.

While you may think less of me because of this, that's okay, because I think much more of myself than I can otherwise intellectually justify, so it balances out. Until I get to the check-stand and find the wrong color person standing there, working, for me... and I have to talk to him like a man, and give him what he wants so I can have what I want. So, then, briefly, I lie. It's called, 'the courage of my convictions'. The tricky part is forgetting afterward that I lied to myself. But I have that down, so Fuck Everyone!

Except folks just like me.

Of course.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 6:31:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP - how was being with a white guy different to being with a black guy? and this is a serious question.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 7:18:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MollyButts
i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

I hand't really given it much thought honestly. Should I have some feelings on this issue? Out of curiosity, how do you feel about blondes and brunettes hooking up?


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