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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 7:24:43 AM   
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I hand't really given it much thought honestly. Should I have some feelings on this issue? Out of curiosity, how do you feel about blondes and brunettes hooking up?



I hope that this is ok, because I don't want to be limited only to dating other gings. Jus' saying.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 7:28:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's hard enough to find good people in this world. Is it really necessary to make it even harder by limiting your choices by something as superficial as race? Spend your days with good people no matter what walk of life they may happen to be. Just my take.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 7:47:54 AM   
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We are all one RACE, the human race. We may come from different ethnic backgrounds but we are all one race.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 7:56:03 AM   
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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:06:42 AM   
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OP - how was being with a white guy different to being with a black guy? and this is a serious question.


You have to wear sunglasses so the glare from their skin isn't blinding.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:21:22 AM   
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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly


I have also hung out with all types of women. Different races, nationalities, body types, etc. I tend to not notice, especially if there is a mental connection. As for me, I get some prejudices sure, but I am used to it (I nearly scared a woman half to death when I asked her for a jump once, even though I was in a suit and tie). People either like each other or they don't, the world moves on regardless. Also, technically it's we are all of the human species, as race is a classification of it.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:28:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I never thought about it in that perspective as I tend to look at the inner person first myself. The persons race should not come into it too much if its what makes both happy and comfortable with each other. Others are not the ones in the relationship so they should not matter.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:00:28 AM   
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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly


While interracial relationships in the 'BDSM world' are essentially the same as interracial relationships everywhere else.
I'm watching and hoping there will be some input here from someone who is racially-focused as part of their dynamic.
I see profiles with women have a fantasy of specifically being dominated by black men.
Or men who specifically fantasize about having an Asian Slave.

And while it's easy enough to draw some conclusions about why that's attractive.
It's not nearly as enjoyable as someone sharing their first-hand experiences.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 10:41:00 AM   
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I'm a bigot.

And I share,

Not only do I 'not care for' people who are any shade but the obviously correct one, I do what I can to SUBTLY make others uncomfortable about themselves if they do not at least present the appearance of total capitulation, ...I mean agreement, with my exclusionist philosophy, ...I mean mania.

While you may think less of me because of this, that's okay, because I think much more of myself than I can otherwise intellectually justify, so it balances out. Until I get to the check-stand and find the wrong color person standing there, working, for me... and I have to talk to him like a man, and give him what he wants so I can have what I want. So, then, briefly, I lie. It's called, 'the courage of my convictions'. The tricky part is forgetting afterward that I lied to myself. But I have that down, so Fuck Everyone!

Except folks just like me.

Of course.

Is this tongue-in-cheek, or serious?

If this is serious, THIS is the reason people ask questions like the OP did. Because people out there really DO have skewed visions of the world. It happens more often than we might thing, sadly enough.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 11:32:28 AM   
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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly


While interracial relationships in the 'BDSM world' are essentially the same as interracial relationships everywhere else.
I'm watching and hoping there will be some input here from someone who is racially-focused as part of their dynamic.
I see profiles with women have a fantasy of specifically being dominated by black men.
Or men who specifically fantasize about having an Asian Slave.

And while it's easy enough to draw some conclusions about why that's attractive.
It's not nearly as enjoyable as someone sharing their first-hand experiences.



I have been approached before, simply because I am black. But I have also been approached because I have a nice voice, or wear glasses. Some people have idealized visions of who they want in their head, and the lucky few actually find it. Not sure if that answers your question though

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 11:58:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's more than one kind of slave play, yanno. (It doesn't have to be accepted or even cool to exist.)

Race play isn't a huge niche but it's there, and people dabble in it from time to time in sidelong ways. (Look at societal not-so-oblique references to black cocks and asian prostitutes...or male caucasian wallets, for that matter.)

If the suit fits, wear it. Loving someone for their race doesn't requite hating people outside of that race; I'm not a fan of the reverse racist argument.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 12:38:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some have said that they are color blind, it doesn't matter to them, etc. Best i can tell, none of them saying that were people of color. They have that luxury and privilege.

Don't minunderstand. If they are saying it doesnt matter to THEM, cool. Good people.

But to pretend it doesn't matter is blind. And no, colorblind is not good. Blindness never is.

Colorblindness, in reality, winds up being people of color expected to be stripped of their culture, expected to assimilate to the dominant culture.

JMHO, and that of just about every other person of color I've known in my life. I speak as a mix of two minorities.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:37:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think about race a whole lot when I'm dating - I care about whether I connect with the person and find them attractive, not where their ancestors came from.

The only time it would be a thing for me is if they wanted a relationship focused on race, like a fetish. A few years ago I was looking for a dominant woman to play with, and one of the ones I talked to was a black woman who specifically wanted a "white slave bitch", and it sounded like she wanted some kind of revenge for racism she'd experienced. That really wasn't something I was interested in.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:42:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'll be honest, I admit race was always sorta something important to me when I was dating. It isn't that I'm prejudiced, it's just that I've only ever found one black man who I ever found attractive. Other than that man, the only race I've only ever been attracted to is my own....caucasian. Now some people would say that I'm racist or shallow and hey, I'm fine with those labels if someone feels the need to call me those. But to say I am colorblind would be a lie to myself and everyone else.

Now as to the op, if it's something you like, go for it. Whatever floats your boat.


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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 8:52:14 PM   
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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly



I have really only ended up with white men in my dating life and honestly I see it as normal.
In a D/s aspect I have to be VERY wary, white guys looking for "chocolate" wanting to do that racial stuff icks me out like no other.

I honestly dont understand it, but I respect people for who they are.
I just feel, people died to fight for the right to not be called a N word and you want to use it sexually. psfff !!

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:02:02 PM   
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...what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world


...that it's odd, especially if you've already had such a relationship and liked it, to be asking strangers for their opinions about it.
...that opinions on interracial relationships in the BDSM world shouldn't much differ from opinions about them in the vanilla world.

--- and finally ---

...that the term "discrimination" doesn't apply to romantic relationships. People are entitled to prefer to fuck, or not to fuck, whoever they want, and for whatever reason they want, even if that reason is irrational, as long as those preferences only apply to their relationships and not to, say, hiring someone for a job.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:13:57 PM   
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i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly



I have really only ended up with white men in my dating life and honestly I see it as normal.
In a D/s aspect I have to be VERY wary, white guys looking for "chocolate" wanting to do that racial stuff icks me out like no other.

I honestly dont understand it, but I respect people for who they are.
I just feel, people died to fight for the right to not be called a N word and you want to use it sexually. psfff !!

And by the same token I have a hard time understanding the black subs who claim to be looking for race play

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:25:11 PM   
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I have been approached before, simply because I am black. But I have also been approached because I have a nice voice, or wear glasses. Some people have idealized visions of who they want in their head, and the lucky few actually find it. Not sure if that answers your question though


Once I had a boyfriend who had very black skin. People were always remarking on it, and a lot of white girls were particularly attracted to him because of it. That used to bother him. I think it made him feel objectified. I had a hard time understanding his feelings. I mean, it's not as if people were responding negatively to his skin color--- it was the opposite. I understand better now. I guess it's like the girl with big breasts being liked just because she has big breasts, or that people are stereotyping her because of her breasts. I still think he was overly sensitive about it, but I understand his feelings a little better now.

Not sure whether I answered the question either, but I thought I'd throw that out there.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:34:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MollyButts

i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly



I have really only ended up with white men in my dating life and honestly I see it as normal.
In a D/s aspect I have to be VERY wary, white guys looking for "chocolate" wanting to do that racial stuff icks me out like no other.

I honestly dont understand it, but I respect people for who they are.
I just feel, people died to fight for the right to not be called a N word and you want to use it sexually. psfff !!


I have been called the wonderful N word several times in my life, both to my face and behind my back. But in all honesty, its just a word. It only has power if I gave it so (and believe me, there are far worse insults than the N word out there). If someone feels the need to include such things in their life, more power to em.

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RE: interacial relationships - 11/22/2012 9:35:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BamaD

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ORIGINAL: LadyLoveLay


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ORIGINAL: MollyButts

i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly



I have really only ended up with white men in my dating life and honestly I see it as normal.
In a D/s aspect I have to be VERY wary, white guys looking for "chocolate" wanting to do that racial stuff icks me out like no other.

I honestly dont understand it, but I respect people for who they are.
I just feel, people died to fight for the right to not be called a N word and you want to use it sexually. psfff !!

And by the same token I have a hard time understanding the black subs who claim to be looking for race play


LOL Yes , I understand wanted to be degraded, but the race play kind of upsets me.

I remember this great guy I was dating, Dom, good looking, keep a clean figure, and whilegiving a bj he had the NERVE to call me a dirty N*****. I almost bite his cock off !


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