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sunshinemiss -> RE: interacial relationships (12/5/2012 2:28:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss
Either you are incredibly stupid & have lived in a bubble (no matter what race u are) or you are attempting to incite a firestorm for amusement or to be able to say " I knew everyone here would say that"


Or maybe it's a fair question. I've lived where inter-racial relationships were no big deal, and now I live where interracial relationships are not for the faint of heart. There is a huge amount of prejudice as well as active (and accepted) discrimination. This is especially true of Asian / Black couplings. It's Just. Not. Done.

I have always been very open about the fact that I tend to be attracted to darker skinned men. I, too, like the differences in skin tone when I'm with someone of a different race. But there's more to it than just looks. It's more about culture for me. It's not that I won't date a white man, it's that I like differences and exploring the differences that are part and parcel of interracial / intercultural relationships. I've dated white men from Europe whose cultures were very different than my (very American) culture.

I recently talked with someone about this topic. There was a man from another country who was a different race than me. I chose to not date him. I was not comfortable with taking a biracial relationship into his home country. There was just way too much baggage that the culture brought to the table. Thanks, no. If we had been living in London, New York, Paris? Sure, in a heart beat I would have dated him. But here? In *his* home country? Both places where prejudice is rampant and acceptable? Thanks. No.

Does it make me weak or a racist or some other nonsense? Believe as you will. I call it being realistic.

best wishes,
sunshine



CharmingKitty -> RE: interacial relationships (12/5/2012 2:51:01 PM)

I would classify interracial as a "fetish of" mine... Cause I'm not usually attracted to white guys.
Or should I say "light" guys. What I mean is that regardless of race I prefer proverbial "dark and handsome" type.
Making exceptions for grey hair hehe!

Some of the racially charged play I see worries me. I feel like many dominants who have such interests really hold the convictions within the fantasy.

And I do run into many people here who will get really racist and crazy if I turn them down because of their looks.



coldslayer -> RE: interacial relationships (12/5/2012 2:53:56 PM)

lol at this thread. wuh? interracial relationships aint special.

I almost cried laughing at: I've been asked to pretend to be a gang member, and to do a rape scene with a white Domme. Apparently, she had always fantasized about being raped by a black gang member.

I've also been asked to serve a Domme who wanted to re-enact a southern plantation scene. She wanted me to be her black slave, while she pretended to be my southern belle master. She wanted to include liberal use of the n-word into our play. She felt that it made the scene more legitimate, since that term would have been used often in those days. But I felt that the scene was degrading and refused to participate.



CharmingKitty -> RE: interacial relationships (12/5/2012 4:36:48 PM)

^^They aren't really "special" but some people hate them!
Which is why it's kind of weird this is a "what's your opinion" since it's either like racist or not >.> haha
... erm, gang member? Literal gang bang fetish?
[&:]



jovannacherry -> RE: interacial relationships (12/6/2012 12:35:34 AM)

I'm all for them, I say date who you want.....no one (really) cares.

The whole I don't see colour/I'm colourblind nonsense always get me, I'm not buying it.



MistressSara7 -> RE: interacial relationships (12/10/2012 9:43:48 PM)

Since I offer all kinds of fetish play, I get a lot of requests for race play and I've done them both ways. Race play is a big turn on for them I guess because they get you fulfill a secret fantasy of theirs without being judged for it which is something they often cannot get away with in reality. These types of race role play seekers are really just into the fantasy of it all and not at all racists (well I hope not lol).. Fun times



Nakhla -> RE: interacial relationships (12/10/2012 10:27:30 PM)


I always had a difficult relationship with the whole notion of race, but then growing up "color blind" is a privilege that I can't transfer or assume is mutual on the part of potential partners.

My ex had a huge fetish for whiteness. He was obsessed with it, going as far as to try to keep me out of the sun as much as possible and to make me grow my hair out long ( something he couldn't do given his hair texture), and for a while I felt uncomfortable with it, like I was engaging in some weird sort of interpersonal racism. But after a time... I found myself kind of enjoying being objectified for certain physical traits he deemed attractive.

Honestly, looks can be coded a lot of ways along D/s lines ( shaved/not shaved, clothed/naked, big/little, and so on ), and I've come to accept "race play" as just another flavor of that. While I wouldn't say no to a partner of a similar ethnic background, using these innate physical differences in play can be a lot of fun. [;)]



Nelee -> RE: interacial relationships (12/11/2012 12:48:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Nakhla


I always had a difficult relationship with the whole notion of race, but then growing up "color blind" is a privilege that I can't transfer or assume is mutual on the part of potential partners.

My ex had a huge fetish for whiteness. He was obsessed with it, going as far as to try to keep me out of the sun as much as possible and to make me grow my hair out long ( something he couldn't do given his hair texture), and for a while I felt uncomfortable with it, like I was engaging in some weird sort of interpersonal racism. But after a time... I found myself kind of enjoying being objectified for certain physical traits he deemed attractive.

Honestly, looks can be coded a lot of ways along D/s lines ( shaved/not shaved, clothed/naked, big/little, and so on ), and I've come to accept "race play" as just another flavor of that. While I wouldn't say no to a partner of a similar ethnic background, using these innate physical differences in play can be a lot of fun. [;)]


That's actually a really interesting point of view (if not really unusual... I've never heard of such a form of race play).

I think *that* type of race play would be a little easier to stomach than, say, re-enacting a slave scene from the 1800s or something. That shit don't fly.



ThePrincessKali -> RE: interacial relationships (12/11/2012 1:18:55 AM)

I don't see how it's different than any other relationship. Personally I encourage it because mixed race babies are the cutest. However I am the product of an interracial relationship so maybe I'm bias lol



noromyxo -> RE: interacial relationships (12/11/2012 3:24:50 AM)

Well, first ex wife was a Malaysian Chinese at a time before it become more common.

I took her to Glasgow to see my Scottish Protestant relatives. One of them, my old Uncle Willy, come up to me and said "son, mixed marriages never work". I just replied that although it was not that common, it was becoming more so as more girls were coming to the uk from overseas. He just gave me a sad look and said "No Son, I dont give a fuk, if she was purple with green spots, you should never marry a Catholic".

That said it all to me.

When I like someone, I only see the beauty in them. Have dated girls of various races and it their sense of humour that counts for me, not their colour. Find colour a bit daft anyway. I have white skin, blue eyes, pink lips, brown hair and pinkish/brown freckles. If that is not coloured I dont know what is. We all have red blood and 99% plus of our DNA is similar.. the rest is really bs



DesFIP -> RE: interacial relationships (12/11/2012 8:46:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Nakhla
Honestly, looks can be coded a lot of ways along D/s lines ( shaved/not shaved, clothed/naked, big/little, and so on ), and I've come to accept "race play" as just another flavor of that. While I wouldn't say no to a partner of a similar ethnic background, using these innate physical differences in play can be a lot of fun. [;)]



I've always liked you a lot, but this is probably one of the finest thoughts on the subject ever.

My daughter is dating a boy who she met through her cousin. Apparently I impressed him and his whole family when my response to her dating him was "The geek?" instead of commenting on him being black.

I'm actually more weirded out that he's shorter than her. That to me just seems odd. Only an inch, but still.



EbonyWood -> RE: interacial relationships (12/31/2012 6:04:34 AM)

FR

You white folk are strange.

But I do like taking your women.



youdneverknowit -> RE: interacial relationships (12/31/2012 11:10:27 AM)


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ORIGINAL: theSwan

quote:

ORIGINAL: MollyButts

i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly


While interracial relationships in the 'BDSM world' are essentially the same as interracial relationships everywhere else.
I'm watching and hoping there will be some input here from someone who is racially-focused as part of their dynamic.
I see profiles with women have a fantasy of specifically being dominated by black men.
Or men who specifically fantasize about having an Asian Slave.

And while it's easy enough to draw some conclusions about why that's attractive.
It's not nearly as enjoyable as someone sharing their first-hand experiences.




You are wanting to hear from someone who is racially-focused as part of their dynamic.
I would assume that you mean someone who will only play with a person of a particular race other than their own.
I would imagine that the first person who came on here and said they would only date or engage in play with a member of their own race, and exclusively, would be considered racist. LOL!



LookieNoNookie -> RE: interacial relationships (12/31/2012 7:16:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MollyButts

i was in a relationship with a white guy in my last relationship and i liked it ,what are your feelings on interacial relationships in the bdsm world

molly



I like relationships.

(With people).



ccc3333 -> RE: interacial relationships (12/31/2012 9:07:55 PM)

For some reason all of my long lasting relationships ... have always been with non-white women.... i've always been a person that is colorblind though, it's merely an observation.
I have seen some white girls who like to be degraded by blacks, and black girls who want to be called the N word and literally have that built into their lifestyle.... i would have trouble making that part of my lifestyle, unless it was seasonal because i am very against racism....

C



LookieNoNookie -> RE: interacial relationships (12/31/2012 9:29:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ccc3333

For some reason all of my long lasting relationships ... have always been with non-white women.... i've always been a person that is colorblind though, it's merely an observation.
I have seen some white girls who like to be degraded by blacks, and black girls who want to be called the N word and literally have that built into their lifestyle.... i would have trouble making that part of my lifestyle, unless it was seasonal because i am very against racism....

C


I'm not color blind.

I like em all.



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