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RE: Thinks that make Me go hmm? - 6/20/2006 10:33:55 AM

Tamerofwild1s

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I did in fact get it ... and I have talked to a few close confidants about it and everyone including the people in thispost have convinced me that in no way will having a gay man serving me change my sexual preferences. I have to admit I was uneasy about it at first but now . I am very relaxed with the whole idea ....

Thanks again to KnightofMists

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RE: Thinks that make Me go hmm? - 8/4/2006 9:35:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

Knight I am so glad to read this post ... recently I was approached my a male perameters he is gay . I am hetero ...... I was very un-nerved at first with his request to serve me and feel my sadism .. but now thanks to this post I find it a bit more understandable .. I have often refered to myself as an equal opportunity Sadist ... and your absolutely right . it is the power experienced in the sadism .... I responded back to him saying quite clearly that there would in no way be any sexuality involved as I don't carry those urges with men but that if he was still interested in experiencing my sadism to please respond .... now you have made things much clearer for me ... thank you again .... See we never stop learning in this lifestyle ...

Just playing around with the search funtion of CM and I came across this post

Tamer... this is a rather late... but thanks for the thoughts... I am glad that my post help you consider a different perspective.... I hope things are going well as you venture down this path.

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RE: Thinks that make Me go hmm? - 8/5/2006 4:41:13 AM

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I'm just speculating here, as it is outside of my experience (yanno, that whole monogamous thing we have going on), but if I were interested in being a sister, 2nd sub, etc., I would surely be on the lookout as to whether I was being used to push the limits of someone else, without any real concern for who I might be, or was actually going into a situation where I would be valued for myself. I am NOT saying that choosing to be a tool in someone else's existing dynamic is a bad thing, only that it's probably smart to truly understand that from the get-go.

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