What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub?

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TheWriter13 -> What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 7:53:16 AM)
The advice I would give would be don't be a doormat, have a safe word and remember S.C.C. Safe Sane Consensual.

LaTigresse -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:14:31 AM)
Personal responsibility.....live it. It's still........just a relationship.

poise -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:14:33 AM)
No matter how good you think it might look, don't ever paint your kitchen cabinets white. Unless you live alone, and aren't in the habit of tinkering around with engines.

Killerangel -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:14:38 AM)
BDSM isn't a magic spell that makes people any better or worse than what they already are. Stop thinking that if people apply a label to themselves it means they will automatically conform to some qualities you have in your head.

ClassAct2006 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:26:24 AM)
I'm not sure you can "aspire" to this. I felt born submissive and have never been any different at all ever and much prefer men who seem to have been "made" dominant and always felt so, rather than suddenly thinking they will have a little play around with some alternative sex in their 40s for fun. I think you are born or made in a certain way (some of us). If you are having to make yourself into something rather than just being yourself you may not be innately what you hope you are. On the other hand you may well still have fun and find someone who suites you.

OsideGirl -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:37:37 AM)
Submissive does not equal stupid and easy.

UnholyBear -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:44:50 AM)
Keep it real as not all fantasies translates well into reality.

JeffBC -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:47:28 AM)
I don't think most useful advice comes in the form of generic sound bites. The closest I could really get to this would be "don't be stupid". Perhaps a near second would be "any advice you found on the internet needs to be examined very, very carefully."

RemoteUser -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 8:57:24 AM)
Take the time to learn it. Wait until you can do it right. There's no rush. (Aimed more at Doms than subs, but still appropriate.)

KnightofMists -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 9:28:05 AM)
No advice piece of advise is one size fits all. .... Though many seem to give advice a manner Secondly, it's might be more important to consider where the advice is coming from than the actual advice given

chatterbox24 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 9:44:05 AM)
Be good, and if you can't be good, be good at it.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 9:49:43 AM)
Being dominant doesnt mean its all about you and what you want, when you want it. You are ultimately responsible for someone else's physical, emotional, and mental well-being. You have to be willing to give, not just receive.

Hillwilliam -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 12:05:44 PM)
Generalizations are all bullshit.

TNDommeK -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 12:18:18 PM)
BE HONEST, communicate, be dedicated and have patience. That might be for poly families, but I think it could apply to all.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 12:44:07 PM)
The same advice I would give anyone: Take the time to get to know yourself. Do your best to take care of yourself. In making life-altering decisions, always be true to yourself.

Kana -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 1:40:33 PM)
Doing the house in astroturf-not a good idea

RumpusParable -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 1:50:40 PM)
Personal responsibility. Don't get too attached to the SSC mantra. Don't buy into the Red Flag mantra.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 2:08:09 PM)
Don't worry about what other people think. So long as it feel right to you and your partner, that's all that really matters. Create the relationship that YOU want, not that other people expect you to have.

areallivehuman -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 2:41:19 PM)
Don't be lame.

TNDommeK -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 5:49:46 PM)
Don't let others define what your lifestyle should be....just do you.

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