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icarus020 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 6:33:11 PM)

I'd have to say hide from those you love only as long as you need to.

Now I realise that seems silly given that none of my pictures show a clear view of my face. Well first off it's nothing much to look at and secondly, my professional reputation need protecting. I, from time to time give evidence in courts and I cannot afford to give ammunition to the enemy (what the hell does that say about our system?).

But seriously, tell the people you care about. By that I don't necessarily mean your birth family. My family are people who are not blood relative but who are far more solid and supporting than blood-kin. My family are people I've chosen to have in my life and chosen to be in their lives. We've been through some dark times together and have stuck with each other (god how grey's anatomy did that sound :S). All of those people I count as my family know about my submissive tendancies. They don't all know to what extent, but they know. It's a useful thing too.

Hide only if you have to! (Sorry for the long post!)



kalikshama -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/29/2012 7:10:31 PM)

The booklist: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm



ResidentSadist -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 6:15:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: TheWriter13

The advice I would give would be don't be a doormat, have a safe word and remember S.C.C. Safe Sane Consensual.

That's three pieces of advice not one.



theRose4U -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 6:30:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: icarus020
. I, from time to time give evidence in courts and I cannot afford to give ammunition to the enemy (what the hell does that say about our system?).

If this is true you need to switch to an avitar TODAY!!! Because this post tells us facial recognition software isn't your area of expertise.



littlewonder -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 9:56:44 AM)

I like being a doormat thankyouverymuch, never had a safeword and I'm not anywhere close to ssc.

As for my advice: Be yourself and bdsm is absolutely no different than any other relationship on the planet so don't park your brain outside.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 1:51:30 PM)

Always remember that no matter which side of the "kneel" you are on that you do not, and will never, know everything.



lthrpup -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 3:54:45 PM)

Go where the people are: a kink/fetish event, a munch, a serious fetish store, a lowkey meeting at the coffee shop with your newfound kinky cyber friend.



PranksterBtch -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 4:07:06 PM)

Be yourself. Watch out for Dom/mes who act like they have a chip on the shoulder, or subs who will do "anything and everything."

Edited to add: I'm talking about the subs/slaves who will "do anything and everything for you," before they've ever met you.  For me, this basically says, "I don't care who you are, just beat me, whip me, make me cum." Sounds like a professional Dom/me is more in order for them. Now ... if they know you, ignore this lol. Some truly love and need to be used to feel fulfilled. That's all good.



PhoenixDynasty -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 5:22:06 PM)

Never stop learning and growing.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 6:54:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TheWriter13

The advice I would give would be don't be a doormat, have a safe word and remember S.C.C. Safe Sane Consensual.

quote:

would


Don't.

(Ever).



Nakhla -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (11/30/2012 9:44:21 PM)

Have a plan B, because if person A doesn't work out, you will still be alive and needing to do something with your life.



TheWriter13 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/1/2012 6:20:13 AM)

Don't think D/s relationships are easier than vanilla they are not.



JstAnotherSub -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/1/2012 6:36:30 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Personal responsibility.....live it.

It's still........just a relationship.

this



autumnember -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/1/2012 9:55:44 AM)

To dominant types: Don't ride the white horse
To submissive types: Stop looking for someone to rescue you



MinkNoir -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/2/2012 11:10:50 PM)

Everyone's situation is different,but experience has taught me to value myself and all that I have to offer.
Don't lose yourself and do what is right for you. Not everything is right for everyone.



kitkat105 -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/2/2012 11:58:44 PM)

Have fun. Because having fun in life is good for you.



LordofDecadence -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/3/2012 2:02:54 AM)

For Subs and Slaves: You Always have the Right to say "No" and not consent.

For Doms: Take care of your subs the same way you would take care of something you value.



SimplyMichael -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/3/2012 7:57:34 AM)

Two pages of wildy different "most important thing is" advice...

Most of it utterly lacking in guidance on how to achieve it if you actually dont already get it.

Advice is most needed by those least likely to understand it and most in need of it.

And some give advice as a lure to snag just such people...



littlewonder -> RE: What is the one piece of advice you would give an aspiring Dom/sub? (12/3/2012 6:06:26 PM)

I really don't get the whole giving advice to newbies. I mean, you are either dominant or you are not. If you are dominant then you should already have an idea of what you want and all that. Why does bdsm somehow make that different?

If you can't be you then maybe it's time to rethink your life. That's my only real advice I guess.




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