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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 3:51:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MissConceited

I agree with the above poster. I am a findom. I am verified on findoms.com and I enjoy the lifestyle. Apparently there was a poster about here being fake. I hate to see some bad apples ruining it for the bunch of us.


If you stay here for any length of time, you will realise that we have about three threads a week on some variation of 'everyone here is fake/findommes suck'.



mons -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 4:26:27 AM)

Op '

I am not a domme like this, but I spoke with one man and it shocked me
to know he wanted this type of domme!


He said it gave him submision to have someone make him work like a "dog"
to bring money to her!

Does anyone else feel this way?

mons



coldslayer -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 5:54:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

FR

Quick question: My lips aren't very full and luscious. Am I still allowed to post on this thread?

No. You arent. Put some red lipstick on. Shiny, not matte. That should do the trick. Then show me a picture to amuse me.



SidneyStarr -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 9:34:12 AM)

The good and the bad exist in this world. If this is your kink I would find a mistress that you could have proof she is real. For example, someone that has been around for a few years. As an online presence and you can have an online session with. You just have to look around.



RumpusParable -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 9:51:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MissConceited

I agree with the above poster. I am a findom. I am verified on findoms.com and I enjoy the lifestyle. Apparently there was a poster about here being fake. I hate to see some bad apples ruining it for the bunch of us.


Indeed. But I really don't understand why people react with that mindset. I get amazingly assholish and creepy messages from foot fetish guys, but I don't paint all foot fetish guys with the asshole/creep brush. Ditto cross dressers. Ditto toilet slaves. Ditto random dom males who think they're the Real Man who will show me I'm Truly submissive by virtue of having a vagina.... I don't go with the mindset that because some male doms are like that that all or even most are. And so on.

Among other things, I'm a findom. I've never once written to some random guy on here (or anywhere like here) anything like, "you are nothing but a human ATM to me, get on your knees and worship my while I rape your wallet, pig!"

Just like I've never written to some unknown person and told them how I'm going to shove them down on the ground, kick them and punch them, until they're covered with bruises and grass stains, then pull out my menstrual blood filled Keeper and smear it all over their body, making them bathe in it, making them drink it...

That type of assumption and aggressiveness ain't my style, just like I don't like receiving those types of messages.

But I know those sorts of messages are sent and received by people who, on both sides of the mailing, totally Love that approach by someone they don't know.

When I get that sort of email I turn them down or totally ignore it. If I see that style of profile, I just click onto the next one.

Not a big deal, IMO.



tazzygirl -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 12:48:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MissConceited

I agree with the above poster. I am a findom. I am verified on findoms.com and I enjoy the lifestyle. Apparently there was a poster about here being fake. I hate to see some bad apples ruining it for the bunch of us.


Verification only means you went on cam with them and showed them what you looked like... its nothing more than matching the person with the photo. It doesnt verify that you are a domme.



DrakSoul -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/7/2012 2:59:20 PM)

Nope or they do it for free



AllisonWilder -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/8/2012 9:03:53 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

I may be wrong, but I think this approach will allow the legitimate pro Dommes and financial Dommes to continue to thrive. After all, they tend to only have one profile. So real findommes, like Fetish Eden or Allison Wilder, would be unaffected by the change. But scammers who create multiple profiles would be stopped cold.

It may not be a perfect solution, but it might help to eliminate the worst offenders.


I wish there was a 'thank' or a 'like' button for posts because this one deserved some thanking. I wish there was a way to stop the multiple profile creating, too. I personally block every single 'fuck you, pay me, I'm so deserving and you're worthless' profile I see. I believe that good Dommes can all agree that subs/slaves are not worthless. Sure, there might be a time/place for this kind of humiliation, but it's not for everyone.


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder


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ORIGINAL: Peetie

Can anyone put me right on this. Are financial Dommes genuinely exploring a part of the lifestyle, or are they simply looking for easy money. Is it possible that a number of them could be based in distant countries working in a 'mill' under duress trying to milk subs?
peetie


The real financial dommes aren't just out for the cash and they incorporate a hell of a lot more into their D/s dynamic than just "fuck you, pay Me." Block and move on.

If they're contacting you for tribute (because finDommes shouldn't be running around contacting people--I know I don't) then report them and move on.

There is no mill. We are not under duress. You'll learn to weed out the obvious fakes and hit ignore. I personally hide every findomme profile that I see that asks for cash and/or gifts up front. That's tacky as hell.



I was attempting to be kind.

FinDommes are an aberration, and a weed, growing where no weeds should grow.


Then block them, hide their profiles and don't visit these threads. Spewing hate doesn't do anything but make you look intolerant. There is so much intolerance and hate towards the fetish world already, we hardly need to be bringing it down upon fellow kinksters.


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ORIGINAL: coldslayer

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: coldslayer

i like money. i like gifts. i like teasing and torturing little bitches. not dogs though. dont call animal cruelty services on me [:(] i kinda want one. my pretend puppies arent cute enough. maybe i should make one of them buy me one.


Yeah but, the truth is...your subs are dispensable...tell me that you plan on keeping these dudes if they stop paying.

Go ahead.

FinDommes should have a check box next to their name....no less than Pro Dommes....

Want one? Izzat yer kink? Click on the box?

Wanna be here as a Pro Domme (you're providing a service)...pay a fee.

HEY!!!! CM!!!! Here's a fee structure....and NO ONE would object!!!!

(And it'd make it easier for kinksters that are into this shit to find it).


Ha! Let me let you in on a little secret. *whispers* I can and do get money and gifts from vanilla guys as well. And yes they are equally as dispensable... much like friends or associates who dont give me the support i desire. Sit and ruminate on that a bit. Dog eat dog world. Fuck your feelings. Cue me in on when I should pretend to care.

FYI I dont plan on doing anything. Im not a planner.

[image]http://store.drumbum.com/media/music-notes-tissue-box.jpg[/image]

Now. Take one and pass it down. May have to get more boxes. Seem that many of you that frequent the forums that need it. Too many tears and I havent even tried to inflict pain on you yet. Its not fun when I dont have to try. [:(] Bite back. Im a little masochistic and sadistic at the same time. I lust getting to people.


For the love of (insert whatever it is that you believe in here), present yourself like an adult. Coming here to berate people and treat them like children doesn't do anything to make people see findommes in any sort of positive light. It only shows them how some findommes act and that makes them think that we all act this way. We don't. This is just you attempting to cause drama where it doesn't need to be.



TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 12:21:46 PM)

Sorry for the delay in posting the links, but KK had it covered. Besides, I would have no clue how to do that. But did anyone read the resurrected Queen thread. HILARIOUS, right???

Seriously, it's people like her, that will make a sub who might have been interested running for the hills. (And a few others that have posted on this thread.)



ThePrincessKali -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 1:50:20 PM)

Yes, I live in a fin Domme mill in Cambodia. It's similar to a sweat shop. I'm actually a middle aged dude too.



Inghammar -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 2:21:23 PM)

Inghammar's easy Fin Domme:

1) Find a creditor with a US based call center.
2) Charge up a bunch of crap that you without any intention of paying the bill
3) wait for collection calls and as they become more demanding 'YOU PAY US TODAY OR ELSE PAL' discretely enjoy self.
4) declare bankruptcy and wait seven years
5) repeat



noellesdestiny -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 2:29:42 PM)

LOL



MistressZaraUK -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 3:06:46 PM)

For goodness sake !!!

Yet another ill informed rant on the subject of fin dommes and pro dommes.

OK, there are fin dommes on Collarme (and many other sites) the very simple reason they are here is that there are guys out there for whom it is a genuine fetish to provide gifts (financial or otherwise) to a domme. The fact that you may not like it is irrelevant, there are certain fetishes I don't personally like, but I would defend to the hilt the rights of consenting adults to practice what they wish to on this or any other site.

And as usual, the pro domme sector gets tarnished with the same very broad ignorant brush. Once again, there are many guys on the scene who get an extra buzz from hiring a professional, it actually enhances their experience, enables them to play exactly when it is convenient for them and results in an experience that is tailored for them rather then for the domme. Yet we still get the same old tired calls for the pro sector to be banned or charged or generally ostracised from the site.

Unfortunately, there are a small number of subs on this site (and in real life, trust me, I have met them) who seem to think that dommes are out there simply to pander to their kinks with no regard for anyone else's needs. These guys should really be asking themselves what they bring to the party, rather then expecting everyone to indulge them.

Zara



coldslayer -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 6:20:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder




For the love of (insert whatever it is that you believe in here), present yourself like an adult. Coming here to berate people and treat them like children doesn't do anything to make people see findommes in any sort of positive light. It only shows them how some findommes act and that makes them think that we all act this way. We don't. This is just you attempting to cause drama where it doesn't need to be.

You can kiss my ass and not tell me what to do. Sorry but I am not the one to care what other people think about me. I rather use it to amuse me. Its the internet. Enjoy [:D] Idgaf how people see findommes. Nor do I care how irrelevant people see me. Im not causing any drama that wasnt already there. LOL @ you wanting a representative on the behalf of findommes. Oh brother!



TNDommeK -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 7:17:28 PM)

Actually, she and Myself, I might add, along with a few others are a wonderful representation of fin Dommes. It's way better than the "here piggy piggy, fuck you pay me, I'm a goddess" ones who pop up on the 1st and 15th.

You can look up a few of the old intro threads and see how well those types of fin Dommes are welcomed here. It's entertaining to a certain point, but sometimes it's just plain embarrassing.



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 7:24:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Actually, she and Myself, I might add, along with a few others are a wonderful representation of fin Dommes. It's way better than the "here piggy piggy, fuck you pay me, I'm a goddess" ones who pop up on the 1st and 15th.

You can look up a few of the old intro threads and see how well those types of fin Dommes are welcomed here. It's entertaining to a certain point, but sometimes it's just plain embarrassing.


You mean there's a point where it gets entertaining instead of cringe worthy embarrassing?



ThePrincessKali -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 9:58:05 PM)

I honestly don't know why anyone cares. There's are a hell of a lot of things I'm not into, I don't go around creating threads just to bitch about it. No one is forcing anyone into findom, if you don't want to participate in it then don't. I personally find it hilarious when I get messages from random strangers about how horrible I am and a list of reasons why I should die. I will respond very politely and tell them to have a nice day. I try to do positive things in my spare time includong volunteer work rather than harassin people, but I'm the horrible one because I enjoy expressing dominance financially. There are real fin domme's out there, there are fake ones. There are girls who post photos of themselves flipping off the camera and some subs like that. I've actually gotten a request for photos like that. If findom isn't your niche move on.



RedMagic1 -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/9/2012 10:20:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali
I honestly don't know why anyone cares.

It stems from avoidance of personal responsibility for one's dating and relationships. It's similar to the arguments that somehow two gay people getting married will violate the sanctity of marriage. Well, last I checked, I was the one responsible for whether my relationships succeed or fail, along with my partner(s). People I've never met, thousands of miles away, can't affect that by professing love for each other.

Same deal here. People unhappy with what they are finding in kink relationships look for scapegoats if they aren't willing to take responsibility for their own failures, and change their ways. It's the influx of the fakes and the findommes that is polluting the lifestyle. That's why no one returns my emails. If we could just run those fucking bitches off the site, the real lifestylers, like me, would finally have a chance at getting some action.

Having said that, I actually feel a fair amount of sympathy for people who rage on these message boards. I think it can be very difficult, psychologically and emotionally, to be a submissive man, or even a male bottom. Guys might already feel inadequate (in the not-good way) because of cultural programming, and, while they are looking for affection and acceptance, they have to read profile after profile that says, "You are a loser, no one would ever want to have sex with you, pay me a weekly virgin tax, the only thing you are good for is making me happy." That's awfully dehumanizing, and most people aren't looking for dehumanization; they're looking to be built up. So I can understand why the frustration would boil over sometimes.



coldslayer -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/10/2012 12:12:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Actually, she and Myself, I might add, along with a few others are a wonderful representation of fin Dommes. It's way better than the "here piggy piggy, fuck you pay me, I'm a goddess" ones who pop up on the 1st and 15th.

You can look up a few of the old intro threads and see how well those types of fin Dommes are welcomed here. It's entertaining to a certain point, but sometimes it's just plain embarrassing.

LOL. Ok Ms Americas. I knew rent is due on the 1st. The 15 is...? Just the second biweekly paycheck? One should not be on the interwebz if they get embarrassed from what others do.



ThePrincessKali -> RE: Financial Dommes (12/10/2012 10:38:01 AM)

RedMagic I do agree with you. I used to be angry when I received really nasy messages from
strangers but I began to feel bad for them because they must have something pretty bad going on in their life to make them lash out at complete strangers so now I just kill them w kindness and hopefully they see how stupid they look.



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