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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 5:11:13 PM

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i like the donation idea. destroying lovely art is blasphemous.

I like the "giving it to Lookie" idea.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 6:28:42 PM

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I doubt that I'm awesome. I think it's just because I was around at a time in his life when there were tangible places to have evidence of us.

Osade if this is the piece posted on here back when you were together & jesus was a boy...it is stunning & yes you are awsome!! Glad you were able to come to an agreement that helps others...just make sure you file this thread somewhere you can refer to when you walk past a gallery or into someones home & discover your rear prominantly displayed!

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 6:31:04 PM

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If this woman is that insecure, you might gently suggest removing the books (especially if they are originals) from his home to a safe deposit box

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 6:40:37 PM

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Apparently, the only person that is not happy with the situation is his wife. She wanted it gone, but is unhappy that he let me have a say in what happened to it and the proceeds.

Some folks, I've found over the years, have a need to complain. It's cruel to deprive them of reasons.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 6:48:58 PM

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I can sorta understand his new wife's issue. I don't have any of my ex's stuff laying around simply because I don't really have anything to do with him anymore and really have no other desire to do so now. I don't need to be reminded of bad times.

As for my deceased husband, I admit that I don't have anything of his lying around because it feels weird to be with someone else and have stuff out that would be a constant reminder of that relationship when I have a new one with someone else. It's not a jealousy issue. It's just a weird feeling for me. Master has no jealousy in him at all.

I know Master has a few things around of those he dated and that's his choice. I just choose to ignore those things and we've never really talked about those objects and what they mean to him. They are just things he still likes. Yeah, there's a tinge of jealousy but not as much as our first few years together. It's been 7 years now and I know his feelings towards me.

He shows his love and adoration to me on an almost daily basis so I never need to question how he feels about me.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 6:52:17 PM

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Some folks, I've found over the years, have a need to complain. It's cruel to deprive them of reasons.

I live with one of those...had been contemplating clubbing her like a baby seal, now I see its the only way she has to make friends

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 9:35:12 PM

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My ex did a number of mosaics in 1/4" gemstone tiles. One of them was a nude of me from the back. He still has it and it has been a bone of contention in his marriage. He's had an offer to purchase that piece and he's asked me if it's okay.

So, part of me feels like no one knows it's me, but another part of me feels exposed. (I never expected it to be for sale) He's offered it to me but even though he and Master know each other, I kind of feel that Master would feel disrespected to have it in our house.

I don't know how I feel about it.

I think you should keep it with you. If an artist painted your portrait, would it be disrespectful to keep it in your house, even though your master didn't paint it? I realize you had a relationship with the artist, but it is still art, and still you. It sounds lovely; I hope you post a picture of it here.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/3/2012 10:21:43 PM

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Why not get it from him...box it securely...entrust it to a friend or family member. You never know what life will throw at you...who knows... your master may not even be in your life five years from now.

As a second note...if someone I loved had a beautiful nude made, even by an x boyfriend, I would cherish it. And if we were to go our separate ways in the future I would still cherish it as a memory of the love I once felt and the beauty I once possessed. Just me of course but I don't think you should respect someone who thought differently.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/4/2012 3:38:23 AM

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My ex did a number of mosaics in 1/4" gemstone tiles. One of them was a nude of me from the back. He still has it and it has been a bone of contention in his marriage. He's had an offer to purchase that piece and he's asked me if it's okay.

So, part of me feels like no one knows it's me, but another part of me feels exposed. (I never expected it to be for sale) He's offered it to me but even though he and Master know each other, I kind of feel that Master would feel disrespected to have it in our house.

I don't know how I feel about it.

It is art. It belongs to the human species. Take your leave from it and say goodbye to it and let him do with it as he pleases. Do not look back.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/4/2012 7:30:16 AM

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My ex did a number of mosaics in 1/4" gemstone tiles. One of them was a nude of me from the back. He still has it and it has been a bone of contention in his marriage. He's had an offer to purchase that piece and he's asked me if it's okay.

So, part of me feels like no one knows it's me, but another part of me feels exposed. (I never expected it to be for sale) He's offered it to me but even though he and Master know each other, I kind of feel that Master would feel disrespected to have it in our house.

I don't know how I feel about it.

It is art. It belongs to the human species. Take your leave from it and say goodbye to it and let him do with it as he pleases. Do not look back.

Art doesn't belong to the human species. It belongs to the artist or whoever he sells/gives it to.

Where do you get that dreck?

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/4/2012 8:21:44 AM

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If this woman is that insecure, you might gently suggest removing the books (especially if they are originals) from his home to a safe deposit box

I have a firm rule that I stay out of giving advice to him about his marriage.

These are books that he wrote. She lives off of the royalties from those books.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/4/2012 1:12:45 PM

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If this woman is that insecure, you might gently suggest removing the books (especially if they are originals) from his home to a safe deposit box

I have a firm rule that I stay out of giving advice to him about his marriage.

These are books that he wrote. She lives off of the royalties from those books.

Then the woman has problems, any anger is probably because she had a cruise or bauble picked out for the money. The charity thing sounds like your arse will provide the most benefit. Still have sneeking feeling its your master buying it...no intelligent reason for the intuition

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/4/2012 4:59:29 PM

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Any piece of art belongs to its creator - so the creator can do with it what he/she wants. Once you gave your consent as a model, you are formally out of the deal...

As long as your name is not written on the piece, you remain anonymous, as any other model for any other artist in the past. Who cares about knowing who Mona Lisa was?

I understand the concern about NOT keeping it amongst people who know you or your past relationship, for good or for bad - that's a bunch of personal issues, so the default should be that the artist sells it or donates it to someone who does not know you - and that's the end of that story. If someone closer is interested in it, then, by all means, negotiate a deal that takes everybody's emotions into account. But no one is entitled to having any emotional issues about it if the piece ends up in the hands of someone who simply appreciates it for its value as art, and without any connection to you.

And I really don't think anyone has any business messing themselves into what the artist does with it, as long as it is handled in accordance with the default solution. ONLY if/when he hands it over someone who knows you will he have a moral obligation to consult you - as he apparently also did.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/5/2012 4:42:43 PM

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I personally would find that exposure erotic.
Thought I can see why someone would not want to be naked in a stranger's house haha.

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/5/2012 7:48:26 PM

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I personally would find that exposure erotic.
Thought I can see why someone would not want to be naked in a stranger's house haha.

If its the pic I think it is...its hot!!!

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/5/2012 8:07:31 PM

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When the exDom and I split up we had some very nice dungeon furniture. It went to the burn pile because I was so furious at what he had done. I regret destroying it to this day. I think my idea would be to ask your Master to decide what should be done.

You can't go wrong that way! :)

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/5/2012 8:07:34 PM

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dont let him sell it without getting a cut

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RE: I have an odd situation - 12/5/2012 8:46:48 PM

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My ex did a number of mosaics in 1/4" gemstone tiles. One of them was a nude of me from the back. He still has it and it has been a bone of contention in his marriage. He's had an offer to purchase that piece and he's asked me if it's okay.

So, part of me feels like no one knows it's me, but another part of me feels exposed. (I never expected it to be for sale) He's offered it to me but even though he and Master know each other, I kind of feel that Master would feel disrespected to have it in our house.

I don't know how I feel about it.

Do you have a daughter or a niece? Accept the art, put it in storage, and give it to the next generation of women in your family when they are old enough to care about family history (30s, say). Wouldn't you love a tasteful nude of your rocking great-grandmother for example? There comes a point when this stops being ewwww and becomes a loving window into someone else's youth from long ago.

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