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new to this - 12/3/2012 11:55:44 AM   
thedogofdogs


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im relatively new to the master/slave life style..... collard my slave nearly a year ago and married her soon after.... i love my property and would like some ideas on how to train my slave and keep her happy
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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 12:22:53 PM   
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None of us know her or you or your dynamic. I would suggest sitting down and talking to her about what she would like to have in her relationship with you.

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 12:52:37 PM   
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You radical Oside....

Yeah strange that, talking is good. Also check out the BDSM check lists and other forums here. See what turns them on. See what scares them in agood way.

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 1:12:25 PM   
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where are the forums and check lists on ere

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 1:16:50 PM   
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You are on the forums, dog.

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 1:17:36 PM   
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to find the checklists, go back to the other side where you created your profile and hit "Edit Profile"

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 5:55:44 PM   
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You've had a collared SLAVE of over a year....on second thought there just are no words DOH!!

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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 6:10:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: thedogofdogs

where are the forums and check lists on ere



Things I have come across:

http://sextips.livejournal.com/7832294.html

http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_checklist.html

http://askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/bondage-fetishes-fantasies/the-beautiful-kinds-ultimate-bdsm-fetish-kink-checklist/





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RE: new to this - 12/3/2012 6:16:22 PM   
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what do YOU want her to do????

It really IS that simple.


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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 8:24:19 AM   
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Buy a kids book on training dogs and a parents guide to childhood development.

Better information than most kink books.

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 9:37:34 AM   
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thanx for all your comments although didnt really get yours theRoseforU.
littlewonder thats a great answer........
we have tried different things but just needed to hear some more suggestions

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 10:06:30 AM   
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quote:

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we have tried different things but just needed to hear some more suggestions

I gather from the direction of your thoughts that what you mean by "slave" is "sex slave"?? If so, then I'd go by some random books on kink and read them and see what tickles your fancy. Alternately you could take a look at the zillion BDSM checklists out there. If you mean "human property" then I'm out to sea on how to help. That question would be a lot like saying, "I hired an employee a year ago and now I'm thinking I should figure out what her job is."


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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 10:31:30 AM   
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thanx for all your comments although didnt really get yours theRoseforU.
littlewonder thats a great answer........
we have tried different things but just needed to hear some more suggestions



My suggestions:

-Have her study kabuki so that she can entertain you with your own live kabuki theatre whenever you like
-Have her attend yoga classes three times a week so that she can hold physically taxing positions for a long period of time
-Send her on one of those amateur chocolatiers course so that she can feed you tasty homemade bon-bons
-Get her into college to train as a plasterer. Always useful to have a plasterer in the family.

Shall I go on or do you get what I'm saying?

Saying 'give me some suggestions' or 'what shall I do with my slave' is such a broad topic that we can't give you a sensible answer. I could reel off a list of 100 things and probably 99% of them you would say 'tried that, don't like that, that's not possible, thats outside our limits, that's not legal where I live' etc etc.

There's a whole heap of experience on this board but you need to ask focused questions to benefit from it.

To many (most?) people here 'slave' would imply you're having a 24/7 power exchange relationship. In that case it sounds a little absurd to say 'I've had a slave for a year, what do I do?' because, well, what have you been doing for the last year? Those of us who live that type of relationship have very different ideas about how they should work but it might include rules and structure around how money is spent, who works outside the house, who does what housework, how they address each other, what type of leisure activities they partake in, who they socialize with, and a million other things. I could give you a detailed post about using essay-writing as a form of discipline, but I'd be wasting my time if you weren't interested in punishment dynamics.

On the other hand if what you're looking for is play suggestions, which I suspect you are, there's a whole host of other options. We have people here who are experts at certain techniques, and a lot of creative minds. But you may as well ask us to go out and pick out your new home, without us knowing what area you are in, how many bedrooms you need and so on.

People come here all the time and basically say 'give me some ideas!' which gets kind of old. There is a world of porn/erotica/checklists out there to browse for inspiration, and only you have any clue what will turn you on or what you haven't already done.

So have a think, and try to come back with a couple of specific questions. Need to know about a piece of kit? Safety concerns about a type of play? Want to know if anyone has experienced the same emotion you are going through? Questions about protocols? Then we can help you.

But the whole point of this adventure is finding out what works for you two. What makes you both feel good? What strengthens the relationship? What makes you private parts tingly? Use your imagination. There's no wrong answers.

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 10:31:35 AM   
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That question would be a lot like saying, "I hired an employee a year ago and now I'm thinking I should figure out what her job is."



Yep. This. I'm guessing he means "I want some new ideas for fun kinky things for us to do", because otherwise - what?

Really, OP - what do you want to do to her? What do you want her to do for you? Do that.

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 1:26:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
. That question would be a lot like saying, "I hired an employee a year ago and now I'm thinking I should figure out what her job is."

This is exactly how I read OP and response was coming out anything but positive. A slave label implies such a deep level of service I can't start to wrap my brain around having not a sub but a slave you need to ask others how to drive.

If you're new just say so!! The whole I've had a car for a year does anyone know where I can i get driving lessons makes you look like a liar or a moron...honestly not sure which is worse

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 4:22:06 PM   
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oh, rose...you've made my day.

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RE: new to this - 12/4/2012 6:41:02 PM   
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oh, rose...you've made my day.

Its my 3rd side business behind the mystressworld MLM & dommes-r-us drive thru...screen cleaning with owners available beverage!

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RE: new to this - 12/26/2012 7:16:09 PM   
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You radical Oside....

Yeah strange that, talking is good. Also check out the BDSM check lists and other forums here. See what turns them on. See what scares them in agood way.

Yes, go with these profiles and the fetish lists for example. Once done, pick out a few things and create something.

However, do not allow what you do seem programmed...make it as spontaneous as possible. After some training in this manner, it does become easier, both to create something around which to train but also the spontaneity.

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RE: new to this - 12/26/2012 7:42:19 PM   
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where are the forums and check lists on ere



Despite the fact that Alt.com is a putrid site, the checklists there are pretty thorough. Or you could Google "BDSM checklist".

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RE: new to this - 12/26/2012 9:10:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: thedogofdogs

im relatively new to the master/slave life style..... collard my slave nearly a year ago and married her soon after.... i love my property and would like some ideas on how to train my slave and keep her happy

First, ideas on how to train your slave all depends on what you want to train her to DO. It's basically you teaching and her learning, at least that's how it works with me and mine.

Second, if you're that new to the lifestyle, some might find it hard to call you a Master if you haven't mastered any of the skills yet.

NBMG

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