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RE: Profile Problems - 12/6/2012 4:24:30 PM

Kana

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Shorten the profile.
Take out a bunch of the I's-it sounds kinda solipsistic
Accentuate the positive about you.
And maybe aim at something other than 18 year old hotties

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 2:40:15 AM

mysteries1984

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OP, I don't know if you're still reading this but your refusal to accept anything others have said is the biggest problem for me. Why someone would come here to ask for help then reject everything said is beyond me...I think you're lucky people have been so polite to date. If you asked this on Fetlife you'd be torn to shreds.

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 8:29:42 AM

Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: Kana

And maybe aim at something other than 18 year old hotties

Wait! Are you saying that a 40 year old man with average looks and psychopathic behavior patterns, who lives in the middle of nowhere, shouldn't expect to be inundated with messages from 18 year old super models? Who knew?

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 9:50:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

And maybe aim at something other than 18 year old hotties

Wait! Are you saying that a 40 year old man with average looks and psychopathic behavior patterns, who lives in the middle of nowhere, shouldn't expect to be inundated with messages from 18 year old super models? Who knew?

Don't worry roche, with that chris rock jaw lline there is still hope...as long as you're funny!!

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 1:41:46 PM

Kana

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

And maybe aim at something other than 18 year old hotties

Wait! Are you saying that a 40 year old man with average looks and psychopathic behavior patterns, who lives in the middle of nowhere, shouldn't expect to be inundated with messages from 18 year old super models? Who knew?

Hey-it's worked well for me!

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 3:42:21 PM

xLaChienne

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ORIGINAL: JanMikal

...what, perhaps, I am doing wrong.

So I can only imagine it must be my profile. If any of you would be so kind as to have a look, I would very much appreciate it if you would message me with your thoughts, and how I can improve my chances.

Between your profile and your responses on this thread you don't want anyone to help you, you want someone to validate you. To say that you are wonderful, as is, and the whole wide world must be blind that they can't see it! Perhaps they are mired down in PCness and can't see the goldmine that is you.

But let's be honest. You ain't getting laid. If you were, you wouldn't care whether or not you were getting responses or messages on here. The big, bad truth that many just can't accept is that if you ain't got the skills off line to get what you need then it translates on line, where that lack of skills is exacerbated. Let's face it, if you can't even get the high number of bi bois to look twice at you, the ones who are desperate for any attention - then yeah, the problem is most definitely you.

You appear to be socially inept. Instead of graciously taken the advice given, reflecting on it, and making changes that could actually help you - you defend, project, dismiss, and accuse. None of which are alpha traits. None.

If you want to improve your chances to get what it is that you think you want and need, I would suggest doing some self reflection and taking some classes on interpersonal interaction, social dynamics, women's studies, and learning to navigate the world in a way that will get you that which you think you want and need.

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/7/2012 11:53:30 PM

tidbit5021

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Hi,

Just a couple of things and I would make these recommendations for any online dating site:

1) Most people do not spend more than 15-30 seconds reading a profile. Is there a way you can condense each section of your profile to make it quick to read? It is rather rambling and hard to follow as it it.

2) Add your hard limits to the "interests" list so that they do not need space in your profile text.

3) Without getting into the debate about your journal posts' political correctness, again, they are quite rambling and hard to follow as they jump from thought to thought. No one here is willing to read long posts that are as long as yours. None of us have time. It would be better to break them apart into individual posts.

3) And, honestly, I can't tell what type of Dom you may, or may not be, which would, and has kept me from replying when I've read similar profiles.

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RE: Profile Problems - 12/8/2012 1:18:58 AM

TwoHeartsBeatOne

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DarkSteven, as always - eloquent AND to the point. I couldn't have said it better.

(and yes, OP, I read your profile and journal)

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RE: Profile Problems - 1/20/2013 7:14:11 AM

Sattva81

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If you ask for advice and criticism, you need to be open to it, not defensive. These people are trying to help and give you honest feedback to a question you asked. There is no reason to get offensive.

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