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OrionTheWolf -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 12:25:00 PM)

NECRO THREAD WARNING! Guidelines state 3 months as the max time between posts. Chi or Rho will beat you all now. Muhahahaha



Gauge -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 12:44:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

NECRO THREAD WARNING! Guidelines state 3 months as the max time between posts. Chi or Rho will beat you all now. Muhahahaha


Damn... and here I was doing so [REDACTED]



LadyPact -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 12:45:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf
NECRO THREAD WARNING! Guidelines state 3 months as the max time between posts. Chi or Rho will beat you all now. Muhahahaha

It was the OP that revived her own thread with an update.




VideoAdminRho -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 12:52:08 PM)

The revival is permissible since it was done by the OP updating her own thread.



Gauge -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 12:57:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminRho

The revival is permissible since it was done by the OP updating her own thread.


Bullet = Dodged. Level = Expert.



OrionTheWolf -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 3:01:00 PM)

Never seen that exception posted by the mods before. Time to cruise my old posts. muhahahaha

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf
NECRO THREAD WARNING! Guidelines state 3 months as the max time between posts. Chi or Rho will beat you all now. Muhahahaha

It was the OP that revived her own thread with an update.






LadyPact -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 3:22:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Never seen that exception posted by the mods before. Time to cruise my old posts. muhahahaha

To the best of My recollection, I've seen it in two categories:

1. Introduction threads.

2. Threads that were situational regarding a request for help for a particular issue in the life of the original poster.

Both of these are in the "updates" category, rather than rehashing.

Where the line seems to be drawn is the revival of generalized discussion topics, (i.e., difference between sub vrs slave, what does a collar mean, etc) current events, and most of the stuff that qualifies for P&R.

If I'm wrong on that, maybe a Mod can clarify.




PeonForHer -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 3:28:49 PM)

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I will admit that the over whelming negative pushed me away from the thread.


Of course it did. It would have driven anyone away.

quote:

Its life being the living dead out here like this, waiting to live. He was just revised again last month, denied, won't have another review until 2015. I just need to have the passion and fire back, physicality does matter and I have truly damaged myself through this journey of his, would I relive this, nope, never, do I still care, yes. Its hard to shut that off. Thanks again.


I would suggest: Don't try to 'shut off' off those feelings; instead see if you can enliven some other feelings. Me, I've found that works far better. Put another way: don't try to get away from the misery, try to go *towards* the fun and the good. Go out, see friends, enjoy yourself wherever and however you can. *Any* fun.

Baby steps, that's all. It's there, in you, you just need to wake it, gently. Just tickle it, as it were.



DesFIP -> RE: Incarcerated partner (9/5/2013 3:40:24 PM)

OP, I strongly suggest you call the local Parole office and ask if one of those officers could advise you. They will know better than you what his future life will be like. And yes, the fact he's been turned down repeatedly for parole should tell you that his violent tendencies have gotten worse, not better.

A Parole officer will know what your future will be like living with a man who has been in prison for ten years. Because they've seen it. And you need to know in detail what it will be like.



ItalianBella -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 2:36:18 PM)

Moved on... I'm done with that chapter in my life I appreciate everyone taking the time to invest in this thread. Blessings to all. I can finally breath.



OsideGirl -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 2:47:19 PM)

Good for you! Good luck on your new beginning!



LadyPact -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 3:10:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ItalianBella
Moved on... I'm done with that chapter in my life I appreciate everyone taking the time to invest in this thread. Blessings to all. I can finally breath.

I can't tell you how sincerely happy I am for you. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself is to move on from another person.

I'd like to wish you a very happy and fulfilling 2014.




kalikshama -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 3:12:41 PM)

Thanks for the update! Best of luck to you!



DarkSteven -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 4:17:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Good for you! Good luck on your new beginning!


Seconded!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/27/2013 4:46:15 PM)

Sunny Quote of the Day
goes to
PeonForHer
for
don't try to get away from the misery,
try to go *towards* the fun and the good.
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http://www.collarchat.com/m_4317933/mpage_5/key_/tm.htm#4609313



crazyml -> RE: Incarcerated partner (12/28/2013 8:49:14 AM)

You've done a brave thing. I hope you have a wonderful 2014



ItalianBella -> RE: Incarcerated partner (2/12/2014 11:18:39 PM)

Thank you so much everyone :)



DarkSteven -> RE: Incarcerated partner (2/13/2014 4:08:07 AM)

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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Incarcerated partner (2/13/2014 4:17:51 AM)

Best of luck to you. I hope you are taking time to heal and to discover why you thought partnering with this violent man was a good idea. I bet in retrospect things look very different.



Nineveh -> RE: Incarcerated partner (2/13/2014 4:47:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Unfortunately, I'm not going to be any help. I can't comprehend being in a D/s relationship with someone that has proven himself to be untrustworthy.



Being incarcerated doesnt mean he has proven himself to be untrustworthy. It means he was convicted of breaking the law. That includes a lot of heroes. Nelson Mandela spent decades incarcerated. Chelsae Manning is in prison. Deric Lostutter is facing more prison time than the rapists he exposed, for exposing them. You don't know why her Dom is in prison and you shouldn't assume he is untrustworthy.

I wish I could offer some help to the OP, I don't know how to keep things charged with someone in prison though. I do think that if you hve held out for 7 years that you can hold out longer.

ETA: tricked by the necro. Well, I hope she is doing better for herself and is happier. Looks like it from her profile. I am not in any way saying she made the wrong decision by leaving him, but my statement about assumptions regarding people in prison still stands.



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