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ORIGINAL: nakedfreedom
Prostitution is the difference. Most guys and gals who visit prostitutes want something quick and easy. They don't care about each other. They may not even like each other. Their simply offering a sexual service. A financial dom/domme - like any other - seem to strive more than that. They may even want some kind of relationship.

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ORIGINAL: nakedfreedom

We all know that financial dommes exist in the BDSM realm. But how can anyone tell the difference between a financial domme and a prostitute? The question is almost as similar as the difference between a guy desperate to get off and another guy who really wants to explore. Or it could be a "Domme" who expects to be served without even a frank conversation about boundaries and expectations. Both parties are looking for nothing more than a quick fix. It's frustrating because it's hard to tell. Just read the journals members have placed online. We usually tell them to fuck off.

Anyone can go into Videochat and ask for money to view their cam. It's none of Collarme's business as long as they don't ask for money publicly. Try quoting your prices in the Videochat room and admin will threaten to kick you out. On the flip side, it's hard for people who come here just to socialize. They might find an angry "financial domme" who expects to get paid the second you click the cam. A few months ago, I had one young woman who became insulting after I merely asked, "How are you?". How dare I try to start a conversation and not even pay a dime for it? My answer: A collarme member who is using the site for what whom it was made.

So, who has right of way on Collarme? Should members ask to pay before viewing a cam? Or should members expect not to pay? Is it to be expected to have to sift through the profile to see who wants money for a conversation? Should "financial dommes" publicly insult a member in the public room if they express frustration over this issue? If financial dommes truley exist, are they anything like the dom/dommes who enjoy this lifestyle?

That could be a good way of knowing the difference between a financial domme and a prostitute. A financial dom/domme - like any other dom/domme - might try to establish a relationship. They might try to communicate boundaries and expectations. If not, they are they any different that the individuals who expect to play right at "Hello". Is there a difference between asking for a quick orgasm or a quick buck? If so, what's the difference?

Prostitution is the difference. Most guys and gals who visit prostitutes want something quick and easy. They don't care about each other. They may not even like each other. Their simply offering a sexual service. A financial dom/domme - like any other - seem to strive more than that. They may even want some kind of relationship.

That's the difference between a financial domme and a prostitute. And that's why I'll tell you to fuck off. I'll tell you to fuck off just as I would tell any Domme or sub to fuck off if they expect to role-play at "hello". That's why I would call you a prostitute. And that's why members who tell a "financial domme" to get lost should be given right of way on the site.

Go and make your money some place else. My guess would be "erotice services".

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That's the difference between a financial domme and a prostitute. And that's why I'll tell you to fuck off. I'll tell you to fuck off just as I would tell any Domme or sub to fuck off if they expect to role-play at "hello". That's why I would call you a prostitute. And that's why members who tell a "financial domme" to get lost should be given right of way on the site.

Welcome to the message boards' side of Collarme, nakedfreedom.

First off, I haven't noticed any rudeness test one has to take before joining this site. It's up to us if good manners are left behind when we decide to talk with other people online.

Secondly, lol, I see you like to get nekkie on webcam. Good for you. (I hope you've had lots of fun over the past four years.)

Third...sex workers are sex workers. Either choose to be a customer or...don't. I don't care if someone is a prostitute, does phone sex, or expects to be paid for online domination roleplay. This past month, two guys offered me at least $300 each to do things to them...and I am NOT interested. You can tell why sex workers are here at CM...this site is loaded with pushy wanna-be customers and I'm glad some ladies are willing to cull the john herd to give us some breathing room.

Online people being labeled as prostitutes? Sex workers, yes, but doesn't there have to be some kind of r/t penetration going on (or at least a real time hand job) to fall under the definition of prostitution? Let's just call a spade a spade and try not to mix apples and oranges.

I guess it's harder for you to find someone to play with in video chat without someone getting rude about wanting to be paid. Maybe you should try making friendships with someone online and then the two of you...together...go into the video room to roleplay. Or better yet, find BDSM munch groups nearby enough for you to go to them, make friends with r/t kinksters and maybe find a long term partner/girlfriend...and when you have to be apart, meet up with her in the video room for some nice, toe curling...

My lifemate started off by writing to me, no video chat sessions, and our first meetup included a restaurant and time spent together shopping in a mall (his white shoes triggered my panic attacks and he wanted to buy some that wouldn't). True, I probably had him nekkid and tied up by our second date Maybe it was the third or forth.

Funny, but if we hadn't met through Collarme, we would eventually would have met through KATS, a munch group in Charleston, WV. I haven't had anyone being rude to me at our munches or play parties, not yet anyways, but then I haven't had anyone drop their pants to say hello...like lots of guys seem too willing to do online.

My advice? It's pointless to try to define terms that have already been defined. If someone is rude and wants money before saying hello and negotiating a scene, you can stand up for yourself and say no thanks without...showing off how many cuss words you know how to spell. Get to know women through letters and chatrooms before deciding to roleplay with them in a video chatroom, and...get thee to a BDSM munch group. (Don't they have any in Canada?)

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Is it to be expected to have to sift through the profile to see who wants money for a conversation?

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Should "financial dommes" publicly insult a member in the public room if they express frustration over this issue?

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A financial dom/domme - like any other dom/domme - might try to establish a relationship. They might try to communicate boundaries and expectations. If not, they are they any different that the individuals who expect to play right at "Hello". Is there a difference between asking for a quick orgasm or a quick buck? If so, what's the difference?