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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 6:20:47 PM   
naughtynick81


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Well Nick, you can laugh if you like. Doesn't change the fact that if a guy doesn't want to pay for a service then he's stuck with having to relate to women as people. A terrifying thought for you I'm sure, but that's the world we live in.


ummm yeah not like guys do that. As there are women who want "casual play", guess what, men do too!

Men have to put up with paranoid loons who think they are evil users simply because they have a penis and suggest they like kink. More than anything, a woman is in the wrong for having this mentality, not the male population.

It's time for people to drop the female favourtism, wake up and smell the coffee. I am tired of this insane bigotry against my gender.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 7:02:03 PM   
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Well Nick, you can laugh if you like. Doesn't change the fact that if a guy doesn't want to pay for a service then he's stuck with having to relate to women as people. A terrifying thought for you I'm sure, but that's the world we live in.


ummm yeah not like guys do that. As there are women who want "casual play", guess what, men do too!

Men have to put up with paranoid loons who think they are evil users simply because they have a penis and suggest they like kink. More than anything, a woman is in the wrong for having this mentality, not the male population.

It's time for people to drop the female favourtism, wake up and smell the coffee. I am tired of this insane bigotry against my gender.

Its not a gender thing, its a you thing!!
There are a number of males I (& others) hold in high regard here both Dom & sub.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 7:05:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick81

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Well Nick, you can laugh if you like. Doesn't change the fact that if a guy doesn't want to pay for a service then he's stuck with having to relate to women as people. A terrifying thought for you I'm sure, but that's the world we live in.


ummm yeah not like guys do that. As there are women who want "casual play", guess what, men do too!

Men have to put up with paranoid loons who think they are evil users simply because they have a penis and suggest they like kink. More than anything, a woman is in the wrong for having this mentality, not the male population.

It's time for people to drop the female favourtism, wake up and smell the coffee. I am tired of this insane bigotry against my gender.



Oh.My.Goodness.

1st- I must thank you for that laugh. I seriously needed it.

I have seen your post on here for the last few weeks or so, and honestly, they all echo the same thing. I'm just going to answer in the order of which these things appear in your post.

#1. You are absolutely correct, there are women who want casual play. And again, you are absolutely correct that men also want casual play.

#2. "Men have to put up with paranoid loons"? I'm sorry- but speaking from my experience from this week alone, I have been threatened and harassed here and on other sites, simply for either existing, or not being into what the guy was into. Who is loony now? Is the entire male species this way? Nope. Life has just taught me that it is a good portion of it.

#3. In the 4 years I've been on this site, easily 90% of the men SHOVE their fantasies down my throat. I don't approach these men, but they do it to me. Even in a bar that I may be with my boyfriend in, at school, the mall, walking down the street- I get grabbed, hollered at. I get all types of crude shit said to me. Forgive me if I'm a bit wary of guys. Its been that way since I was 13 years old, and its not changing any time soon. So i'm wrong for having that mind set? Again, is the entire male species this way? Nope. Life has just taught me that it is a good portion of it.

#4. When men, here or in my day to day life- yeah, I feel favoritism from men: favoritism for my tits, my ass, or what I can do for them. Oh hell yes I am favored.

#5. If you don't want to be discriminated against, be that different man. You aren't too different from the men who come here day in and day out complaining about fin and pro dommes, why a woman doesn't reply to them, what's with all the fat women, and yada, yada, yada. Don't want the bigotry? Don't add to it.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 7:17:13 PM   
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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 7:52:20 PM   
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Miss well said...I give you a bow!






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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 7:55:39 PM   
MissAsylum


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Status: offline 		naughtynick81- just throwing this out there.

since you seem to have the problems of the world with the women folk, ever thought about switching teams? No lady drama!

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 8:11:17 PM   
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As there are women who want "casual play", guess what, men do too!


Then FIND them, and stop trying to convert every Domme into a casual player.

When I was between submissives, I topped nice guys who treated me like I was a person and not some blow up doll with a whip. (Don't get hopeful, my clothing stayed on and my lips stayed off their lips, penis, etc.)

Why? Because casual scening helped to let off energy and kept me from going into frenzy. Also, as a form of exercise it's funner than doing sit ups.

I would n-e-v-e-r have topped some whining "Do me!" type.


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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 8:24:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum



#3. In the 4 years I've been on this site, easily 90% of the men SHOVE their fantasies down my throat. I don't approach these men, but they do it to me.


I'm a sub female and sub men STILL do this to me.


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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 8:31:34 PM   
MissAsylum


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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#3. In the 4 years I've been on this site, easily 90% of the men SHOVE their fantasies down my throat. I don't approach these men, but they do it to me.


I'm a sub female and sub men STILL do this to me.



This just further proves my point.

There is no "suggestions" of a kink. A screaming proclamation, maybe.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 8:52:23 PM   
GreedyTop


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MissA!!  Looking lovely as ever!  *hugs*

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 10:37:15 PM   
DarkSteven


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How can i find a non professional dominant in London Uk without going to clubs? I seek to be taught what the cane is really about but cannot afford pro domme fees. Thanks john


Well, john, if you're dumb enough to send an inappropriate message to RumpusParable, who doesn't even live in the same continent as you and is therefore unavailable for any kind of relationship with you, I'd say that you're not smart enough to maintain a relationship with a woman. So scrape together your pennies (and likely hide it from a suspected wife) and afford a pro somehow.

Let me explain what you've just managed to do.

1. You've been on here for over four years with no results. It should be painfully obvious that you're doing something wrong.
2. You don't want to go to clubs. My immediate assumption is that you're married and trying to cheat, and terrified someone will recognize you.
3. You contact a well respected Domme who's been here for over seven years, and piss her off. Congratulations - your collarme reputation is now shot.

Try to read and learn how to maintain respectful communications with others. Resolve your situation at home. And then you might be ready.



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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/7/2012 10:46:33 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

MissA!!  Looking lovely as ever!  *hugs*


Yep, she sure is. I'm proud to claim her as my girlfriend. (Just don't tell her until I figure out how to break it to her, okay?)




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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 12:22:13 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Hey, nick. Do you want to know the best advice I can give you?

Buy a box of needles.

I don't really know if you're into sharps or not. I'm just saying, don't put it all on the other side.

I'm a casual player. It's a hell of a lot of fun.

But when I'm playing with somebody that I don't own, why am I supposed to foot the bill?


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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 3:37:37 AM   
MissAsylum


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ORIGINAL: naughtynick81

But when a male says most women do this or that, no one believes him!


How about you stop talking about it? Man or woman- NOBODY likes a complainer. I'll assume you feel you are not in the bunch of men who act less than savory toward women. Why don't you show people that?

I'll put it this way: i'm black (obviously). My race tends to not have the greatest reputation among certain people who happen to be caucasian. i know other races as well, but i'm trying to keep this as black and white as possible. No pun intended.

Things I have been accused of being just by what race I am: dishonest, dirty, rude, uneducated, dangerous, disease ridden. And if you don't believe that, take a look at the Stormfront and N*ggerMania websites. I deal with this everyday.

But guess what, many people can attest that I'm nothing like that. Why? Because I don't act that way. I don't carry ignorant opinions of me around like a chip on my shoulder as if its the weight of the world. I'm different than that, and I make it very clear. I don't complain about how people are always judging me on my race. Let them judge. No skin off my nose.

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Aren't it funny how women can just so easily make up anything about men and people will listen and believe. But when a man tries to pull off the same, he gets laughed at.


No, it is just you who is funny right now.

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Speaking of your sad situations with men, do you know what hyperbole means? It's a tool that's very commonly used by women when they are bitching about men.


Hyperbole means exaggeration, i'm very aware what it means, however- i'm not sure that YOU do. Are you aware of what "pot calling the kettle black" means? Complaining about complaining isn't pretty on anybody.

I have pages upon pages of utterly rude and disgusting messages. Its been that way since I've signed up.

Yesterday, I applied lip balm while waiting to cross the street, and a man yelled out that I have nice cock sucking lips.

I got my left ass cheek grabbed while walking back from the bathroom in a restaurant on Tuesday. The whole table of drunk idiots thought it was the crackup of the night.

A since now former friend of my boyfriend thought it would be funny feel up the back of my shirt when he hugged me last Saturday.

This is just last week, mind you.

How many times have you been objectified this week and somebody thought it was amusing to do so?

These are isolated incidents with people who happened to be males.

Most men are nice to me. I wouldn't be with a man if I thought all were the same.

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And this here

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since you seem to have the problems of the world with the women folk, ever thought about switching teams? No lady drama!


So she thinks women are entitled to have these generalisations towards men or be bitter in other words and then has the audacity to tell me I am wrong for being bitter? Can it get anymore silly?



Maybe your reading comprehension is a little off (and by "little", I mean "very"). I never said you were wrong for feeling the way you do. Never. Not once, Never implied or eluded to it.

I offered a solution to your problem.

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No matter what I say, I am not going to change minds. It's pointless. You want double standards and you are shameless about it. You're a shameless hypocrite in other words. It's futile to debate with such people.


"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." ~ Albert Einstein

Just a little food for thought.

I've done nothing hypocritical. I've never done anything that would say otherwise. All I told you to do is stop complaining for complaining's sake.

You've imagined that, is what I'm convinced of. There isn't way to turn my words into something to suit your argument without it looking as if you can't or won't read for content.

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I already predict what the replies will be against me. Instead of doing the work, you are better off copying and pasting "men are evil" over and over again. Kinda like this.

Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil Men are evil

In reality, it means the exact same as the posts in this thread. No different.


I love men, definitely never said they are evil. I'm not going to hold everybody of a group accountable for what some idiots do. You miss out on a lot of awesome people that way.

< Message edited by MissAsylum -- 12/8/2012 3:44:20 AM >

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 3:48:01 AM   
MissAsylum


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

MissA!!  Looking lovely as ever!  *hugs*


Yep, she sure is. I'm proud to claim her as my girlfriend. (Just don't tell her until I figure out how to break it to her, okay?)




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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 10:47:56 AM   
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ummm yeah not like guys do that. As there are women who want "casual play", guess what, men do too!



Let's play argue about as many points as possible at once.

Speaking of making generalizations, you are assuming the OP is looking for "casual play".
I'm not sure if I want someone I know casually to have "little regard for my limits".
I guess that might be because I'm on the whole "considering people as people first" wagon.
Others may differ.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 12:14:10 PM   
Marini


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#3. In the 4 years I've been on this site, easily 90% of the men SHOVE their fantasies down my throat. I don't approach these men, but they do it to me. Even in a bar that I may be with my boyfriend in, at school, the mall, walking down the street- I get grabbed, hollered at. I get all types of crude shit said to me. Forgive me if I'm a bit wary of guys. Its been that way since I was 13 years old, and its not changing any time soon. So i'm wrong for having that mind set? Again, is the entire male species this way? Nope. Life has just taught me that it is a good portion of it.


You tell it sister!

Only 90% shove their fantasies in your face?
Consider yourself lucky!!!


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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 1:06:44 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		Nick is a troll.
I've seen it in every thread he starts or pokes his beak into.

Always moaning, whinging and whining - usually about how he is 'misunderstood' or males are victims.

Sheesh!
I'm a moaning minnie but he just takes the biscuit!!

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 2:49:28 PM   
naughtynick81


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Status: offline 		As someone else said to me in an email, as we see in the CM forums, misogyny will not be tolerated, but misandry will be actively encouraged.

This is what we exactly see here. It's pointless debating with people who obviously hold serious prejudice against the male gender. A debate will never get anywhere when you are debating with a bigot.

When a male complains about anything in regards of this site and scene, he is moaning and whining. When women complain about anything in regards of this site and scene, "you tell it sister!", you go girl, yeah we are in agreement, most men are evil blah blah blah

The female favoritism never ceases to amaze me.

Is it any wonder why you see bitter males around here? Every aspect of this scene favours women.

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RE: find a non pro dominatrix - 12/8/2012 3:01:09 PM   
MissAsylum


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Status: offline 		You have that as your avatar, and you complain about prejudice?

Pot meet kettle.....once again.

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