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slavejohn1234 -> find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 11:50:30 AM)
How can i find a non professional dominant in London Uk without going to clubs? I seek to be taught what the cane is really about but cannot afford pro domme fees. Thanks john

RumpusParable -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 11:54:42 AM)
Go out, be social, meet males and females, make lots of friends, be honest about your kink interests without being pushy or creepy and eventually you'll find a female who already likes or is willing to try caning. Same as meeting a female who like J-Pop concerts or skydiving or whatever.

OsideGirl -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 11:54:46 AM)
The term Dominatrix usually refers to someone that is pro.

VioletViolence -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 11:59:10 AM)
It's simple really, but it's a concept that most men seem unable to grasp. Either you pay in money or you pay in time and attention. If you don't want a pro-domme, then you must approach the lifestyle Dommes as REGULAR PEOPLE, not as a way to get your kink fix. As you get to know these ladies, if you find one in particular whom you like, then you mention to her that you'd like to get to know her better and see where it goes. Yup, just like in regular vanilla dating. You need to get the latex/leather clad bitch with a whip out of your head and start remembering that Dominant women are WOMEN. You treat them the same as you would any other woman (hopefully that means with respect, courtesy and politeness).

GreedyTop -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:14:00 PM)
dude, you want to meet non-pros without going to clubs? WHat about attending munches? Seriously, the best way to meet people (regardless of kink/non-kink/whatever) is to step out from behind the computer and go where the people are.

SophiaMaam -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:14:58 PM)
If all you're looking for is a good solid caning, going to a prodomme is likely to be CHEAPER in the long run than going to munches (spending money on meals and drinks) multiple times in the hopes of meeting someone....taking that someone you meet out on a couple dates (which even if going dutch will cost you for meals, drinks, museum tickets, movie tickets, bus passes, etc) plus flowers, maybe a small gift - all of which adds up fast, with no guarantee that she'll ultimately like you enough to want to get let you get naked and do to you what you want done. With a pro, you know the cost up front and you know you'll be getting the service you want. It'll take a lot less time and effort to find one compatible to boot. Or were you just hoping that this discussion would get you someone willing to give you a pity beating?

PeonForHer -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:16:17 PM)
quote: attention ****ing hell, nothing in life comes easy, does it?

GreedyTop -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:17:10 PM)
I love your hair. jealous /hijack

RedMagic1 -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:23:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejohn1234 How can i find a non professional dominant in London Uk without going to clubs? I seek to be taught what the cane is really about but cannot afford pro domme fees. Thanks john Hi John, Pretty much everyone, male or female, straight or gay, looking for a partner of any sort -- spouse, fling, platonic friend -- needs to bring at least one of three things: 1. Money 2. Personality 3. Looks If you don't have (1), and think that's unlikely to change, then focus on developing (2) and (3). Become better read, do more volunteer work, spend more time at the gym. Also, it is perfectly possible to recruit kinksters from the vanilla dating pool -- at least, it is if you're looking for a relationship. If you just want a caning partner, you will find things more difficult, because, as another poster mentioned, women enjoy attention. Bottom line: how much of yourself are you willing to give?

RumpusParable -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:44:15 PM)
As I just said in the inappropriate private message you just sent me: Dude, you would need to pay me as a professional. Read and attempt to understand the replies to your post.

SnowRanger -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 12:52:43 PM)
Hello A/all, Let me echo Ms. VioletViolence. Men here on CM have an unfortunate tendency to jump over all of the necessary first steps in the courtship process. NOTE: I use the word courtship because my limited Tech School education does not provide me a better one. Expect your search to take TIME. Here on CM if you contact a woman that interests you, start with... Dear Ms VioletViolence, I am responding to your profile because of what you said about a tent and a fire. Be polite! A polite hello is still the rule. HINT: Reading the whole profile is more than marginally useful. HINT: Do not, repeat DO NOT open correspondence with.. Please spank me! or... Let's... Nuff Said? Munches and other face to face gatherings are a good place to start too. My only problem is that I can not always figure out who is dominant and who is submissive. Be patient. Get out there and get known. Respectfully, Mike SnowRanger

theRose4U -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 1:21:06 PM)
quote: Munches and other face to face gatherings are a good place to start too. My only problem is that I can not always figure out who is dominant and who is submissive. Well the ones with the large capes & giant D on the chest are dominants, the ones with eye masks & small capes are subs Otherwise, well said!

SnowRanger -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 1:40:56 PM)
Thanks Ms. Rose, I have not seen these Giant Ds and eye masks yet. Well Twain said that the end of the world would take ten years to get here. ;-) SR

OttersSwim -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 1:47:47 PM)
NO CAPES!!!

SnowRanger -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 1:47:53 PM)
Hey slave john! Aproppos of nothing what ever, there is a concurrent thread on Ask-A-Mistress posted by a LadyMari. That IS London UK and not London Kentucky... ...Right????

LookieNoNookie -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 3:21:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejohn1234 How can i find a non professional dominant in London Uk without going to clubs? I seek to be taught what the cane is really about but cannot afford pro domme fees. Thanks john Yellow Pages...under "Non Pro Domme". (It's in the "N" section).

naughtynick81 -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 4:27:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VioletViolence It's simple really, but it's a concept that most men seem unable to grasp. Either you pay in money or you pay in time and attention. If you don't want a pro-domme, then you must approach the lifestyle Dommes as REGULAR PEOPLE, not as a way to get your kink fix. As you get to know these ladies, if you find one in particular whom you like, then you mention to her that you'd like to get to know her better and see where it goes. Yup, just like in regular vanilla dating. You need to get the latex/leather clad bitch with a whip out of your head and start remembering that Dominant women are WOMEN. You treat them the same as you would any other woman (hopefully that means with respect, courtesy and politeness). quote: It's simple really, but it's a concept that most men seem unable to grasp. Golly gosh, this is the type of domme that I would just laugh at in her face if I ever saw her in person.

fetisheden -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 4:44:52 PM)
this is so true quote: ORIGINAL: VioletViolence It's simple really, but it's a concept that most men seem unable to grasp. Either you pay in money or you pay in time and attention. If you don't want a pro-domme, then you must approach the lifestyle Dommes as REGULAR PEOPLE, not as a way to get your kink fix. As you get to know these ladies, if you find one in particular whom you like, then you mention to her that you'd like to get to know her better and see where it goes. Yup, just like in regular vanilla dating. You need to get the latex/leather clad bitch with a whip out of your head and start remembering that Dominant women are WOMEN. You treat them the same as you would any other woman (hopefully that means with respect, courtesy and politeness).

naughtynick81 -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 4:48:30 PM)
If a male made any generalisations towards women, he would be shunned for it. It's funny how it's anti social to generalize women while it's not if a woman generalises men. A round of applause for female favouritism.

VioletViolence -> RE: find a non pro dominatrix (12/7/2012 5:51:18 PM)
Well Nick, you can laugh if you like. Doesn't change the fact that if a guy doesn't want to pay for a service then he's stuck with having to relate to women as people. A terrifying thought for you I'm sure, but that's the world we live in.

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