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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 10:50:28 AM   
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Dude, you are in Atlanta. One of the best cities in the country for kink and BDSM. Why don't you take yourself to 1763 and get yourself out there? No, you aren't especially going to find women who are interested in body worship which will culminate in physical sex and/or orgasms, but you might get to learn a few things. If nothing else, it will teach you that Dominant women aren't particularly interested in fucking random guys on the internet.




Every bit of that advice was unsolicited. I wasn't asking for tips on how to meet dominant women, just wanted to hear about body worshiping/devotional sex experiences.

Thus proving YES he means get my dick wet as quickly & easily as possible
OP...you're a moron & just insulted one of the women with the kinky keys to the atlanta castle.if you hadn't acted like an HNG douche she probably would have gotten you the invites you needed.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 11:01:16 AM   
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You win! Where's the quote of the day?

Except now I'm going to have that image of William Dafoe in drag stuck in my head for the rest of the day.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 2:27:41 PM   
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Except now I'm going to have that image of William Dafoe in drag stuck in my head for the rest of the day.


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 3:48:23 PM   
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Every bit of that advice was unsolicited. I wasn't asking for tips on how to meet dominant women, just wanted to hear about body worshiping/devotional sex experiences.


It can be very difficult, DMATL. My take on it is that it feels very cold, to most femdoms, to be treated like an object of worship *unless* it's in the context of a relationship that's also very human. And yes, I'm fully aware that that can sound very contradictory indeed.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 5:20:35 PM   
DisciplineMeATL


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Status: offline 		I don't understand why there is so much criticism and sarcasm here. I was asking a serious question. I'm not looking for "wank material." I'm actually looking for encouragement. Proof that someone, somewhere is in a relationship that allows them to explore their fantasies and indulge in something that isn't normally accepted.

Not everyone has such an easy time with this stuff. Some people are ashamed of what gets them off and feel like they have to lie and hide things. I don't have the confidence to go to local fetish meetings or events. I don't have anyone to talk to about my fetishes and this was my first attempt.

I really thought that a social network named CollarMe would be a place that I would be free of criticism for being perverted. The subject of the post is "Devotional Sex." If it's not for you, move on.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 5:36:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DisciplineMeATL

I don't understand why there is so much criticism and sarcasm here. I was asking a serious question. I'm not looking for "wank material." I'm actually looking for encouragement. Proof that someone, somewhere is in a relationship that allows them to explore their fantasies and indulge in something that isn't normally accepted.

Not everyone has such an easy time with this stuff. Some people are ashamed of what gets them off and feel like they have to lie and hide things. I don't have the confidence to go to local fetish meetings or events. I don't have anyone to talk to about my fetishes and this was my first attempt.

I really thought that a social network named CollarMe would be a place that I would be free of criticism for being perverted. The subject of the post is "Devotional Sex." If it's not for you, move on.


You didn't ask "Does anyone have a relationship like this? How does it work?" You asked for people to tell you stories. You didn't want to find out more about your fetish. You asked people for details about what goes on behind their bedroom door. (Pretty much the definition of wank material)

How would you like it your SO described in detail your sex life to a bunch of strangers on the internet?

The criticism had nothing to do with being perverted or your fetish. It has to do with asking strangers for personal details.

Allow me to put this into perspective: If you were at a real life event like a munch or a party, walked up to a group of women and said, "Tell me stories about your devotional sex", you'd get shown the door.

Just because this is D/s BDSM, doesn't mean there aren't boundaries about what people consider acceptable behavior. If you want to survive in WIITWD you will need to learn that distinction.



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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 5:49:10 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		In reading the link that RedMagic was kind enough to offer, my understanding of Devotional Sex
is mostly geared to the man (Knight) refraining from ejaculation with the goal of remaining
horny for god awful long lengths of time. According to this practice, keeping a man horny
magically gives the woman(Princess) power over him. They even call it Princess Power.

They are also quick to mention that the majority of women who participate in this practice
are not dominant women, and no where in that article did they reference body worship.
Many of the dominant women on the forums here are often inundated with offers of
body worship that it really doesn't hold the appeal that you seem to think it should.
Perhaps this subject would have had a better response in a different thread.

Welcome to the message boards just the same. I hope you stick around and continue to share with us.


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:00:31 PM   
DisciplineMeATL


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Status: offline 		Oside, I still say that if you don't have something constructive to say about the subject, then move along. Don't stop just to get your jab in and make sure that I feel a little bit worse about myself. Do you police all of the message boards? Or did something I typed just really get under your skin?

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:03:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DisciplineMeATL

I don't understand why there is so much criticism and sarcasm here. I was asking a serious question. I'm not looking for "wank material." I'm actually looking for encouragement. Proof that someone, somewhere is in a relationship that allows them to explore their fantasies and indulge in something that isn't normally accepted.

Not everyone has such an easy time with this stuff. Some people are ashamed of what gets them off and feel like they have to lie and hide things. I don't have the confidence to go to local fetish meetings or events. I don't have anyone to talk to about my fetishes and this was my first attempt.

I really thought that a social network named CollarMe would be a place that I would be free of criticism for being perverted. The subject of the post is "Devotional Sex." If it's not for you, move on.


There was a man of my past that said.. I am in love with your brain. That man would be indulged, pampered, given much.

You see, while men have had the freedom to work themselves into a frenzy of fantasy, they have left out one component to actually realizing the fantasies they have. Women. We know our bodies can entice. Some of us have used them well with that come on look, just the right look or this or that and movements... that kind of attention is easy to get. Just walk outside your house. The thing that is harder to find is a man interested in everything else.

If you wish to explore, you must first find a woman that knows you wish to explore and worship/serve/appreciate more than what every other man can see. We want you to see the rest. The part that will be used in bringing delight to you in ways more than the physical, which can become physical.

When we are subject to objectification for the indulgence of a man's fetish or fantasy... well, the well runs dry. If you want to explore, you will either have to find a woman that doesn't care who does anything to her or will have to figure out what women want. We don't want the normal or typical. We want the exceptional. The worship, devotion, appreciation and attentions of a man like that is something special. Then we care about his fantasies.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:06:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just gave you the key as to why you got the responses you did. Rather than understanding what was said, you choose to continue in the same vein.

Just because you refuse to see it as good constructive advice, doesn't mean that it isn't good, constructive advice.



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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:14:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

You mean to tell me that you actually have to have a formal devotional sex relationship to get worshipped by someone?

Do you have to attend classes? Is there a secret handshake you have to learn once you are accepted into the devotional sex sisterhood? For some reason, I had flashbacks to a book I read once about what goes on in the temples of a certain religious denomination that shall remain nameless so as not to offend members of said religious denomination. Is it like that, OP?

If this is the case, Ive been doing it wrong then and am guilty of receiving devotional sex without proper licensing. Do the Sex Police politely knock on my door when they come to raid me or am I going to need to get the doors and windows replaced when they come in all SWAT style?





If we do it right, can we get the IRS to agree we're a religious organization and therefore immune from paying taxes?

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:15:41 PM   
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If you wish to explore, you must first find a woman that knows you wish to explore and worship/serve/appreciate more than what every other man can see. We want you to see the rest. The part that will be used in bringing delight to you in ways more than the physical, which can become physical.

When we are subject to objectification for the indulgence of a man's fetish or fantasy... well, the well runs dry. If you want to explore, you will either have to find a woman that doesn't care who does anything to her or will have to figure out what women want. We don't want the normal or typical. We want the exceptional. The worship, devotion, appreciation and attentions of a man like that is something special. Then we care about his fantasies.



I mostly agree with this, and I very much desire to worship a woman at an emotional level. I have, in past relationships. The one thing that you mentioned that I am not concerned with is the well running dry. I'm not exactly looking for a wife right now. I'm not looking for my next sexual partner to be my last. I am just looking to explore some new options right now.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:19:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hell... I am not looking to get married. However, I will be more than a play toy for a man's exploration and enjoyment. If you want a dominant woman... you just may have to play a dominant's way.

How many women have you seen here willing to be your experiment? So you valued someone before... but now your well has gone dry and all you offer is imitation worship or devotion?

Fail.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 6:42:37 PM   
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I don't understand why there is so much criticism and sarcasm here. I was asking a serious question. I'm not looking for "wank material." I'm actually looking for encouragement. Proof that someone, somewhere is in a relationship that allows them to explore their fantasies and indulge in something that isn't normally accepted.

Not everyone has such an easy time with this stuff. Some people are ashamed of what gets them off and feel like they have to lie and hide things. I don't have the confidence to go to local fetish meetings or events. I don't have anyone to talk to about my fetishes and this was my first attempt.

I really thought that a social network named CollarMe would be a place that I would be free of criticism for being perverted. The subject of the post is "Devotional Sex." If it's not for you, move on.
How would you feel if a man your sister didn't know asked her about her sex life? How about your mother? Would you expect them to answer some stranger's question about their sex lives or would you think they should tell the guy that it's none of his business?

You weren't criticized for being a perv. You were criticized for being inappropriate with a bunch of people that you don't know.



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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 7:26:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DisciplineMeATL

Oside, I still say that if you don't have something constructive to say about the subject, then move along. Don't stop just to get your jab in and make sure that I feel a little bit worse about myself. Do you police all of the message boards? Or did something I typed just really get under your skin?


She actually had quite a bit to say that was constructive. She does that quite a bit around here. I found your response to her to be quite rude. Did your butt perhaps experience a level of pain that caused you to lash out like a temperamental child at someone who was far more constructive than you gave her credit for?

You asked people to share personal details of a part of their life that is honestly none of your business. So its rather silly that you get completely bent out of shape when people dont spill their details all over the pages of this forum for your personal enjoyment...education...whatever it is you are looking for. If that bothers you, then its actually on you to deal with. Its not up to anyone else here to cater to your whims. Is there a devotional component that can exist between a dominant female and a submissive male? Yes, there can be. It really depends on how two people define their dynamic. But thats about all you are going to get. Put on your big boy pants, build a bridge, and get over it.

And DesFIP, that was a wonderful idea!!!!!!

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 7:31:44 PM   
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I mostly agree with this, and I very much desire to worship a woman at an emotional level.


I get the feeling from what you've written here, as well as on your profile, that you want to connect with a woman at a level that doesn't seem emotional, DMATL - it seems about adoration rather than connection as such. Can you tell her jokes and make her laugh, for example? (That's a very serious question.)

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 8:40:44 PM   
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Oside, I still say that if you don't have something constructive to say about the subject, then move along. Don't stop just to get your jab in and make sure that I feel a little bit worse about myself. Do you police all of the message boards? Or did something I typed just really get under your skin?

Ok that would be the other woman with connections to help you!! Why not call poise a dude & get the insult anyone with the power to help you trifecta!!
Geeze
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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 9:10:54 PM   
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Where are the fluffy bunny handcuff police when ya need em!

Sorry, all out of bunnies today. How about a llama?





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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 9:34:54 PM   
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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/13/2012 10:31:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I follow the devotional sex tumblr and have poked a bit through the website. The thing that interests me about it the most is how much the guy who's promoting it tries to distance his practice from FemDom, while still including very FemDom like activities. He doesn't condemn kink or FemDom, but does try and put a wall between what he's doing and WIITWD. From my perspective it basically seems like a way to get vanilla ladies into being more dominant and taking more control by giving them a more palatable version. And I do think that's kinda cool, it's nice to see more stuff out there that's focused less on all the fetish gear and "bitch with a whip" stereotypes.

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