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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 5:42:13 AM   
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I'm the author of Devotional Sex (Tumblr and website). A few comments on what has been written above:

@VioletViolence - great to hear that you follow my Tumblr. I do think of Devotional Sex as different from FemDom. I'm not trying to make any dominant women less dominant or make any kinky people less kinky. So if traditional FemDom suits then no need for Devotional Sex.

A women who enjoys FemDom posted recently on my FetLife group that she loves the idea of Devotional Sex because she can do this when she doesn't feel like being the Mistress. Then, when she wishes, she can figuratively pick up the whip and have a BDSM session with strong domination. So some couples might like to jump between the two techniques or do something with bits of both.

All of my partners have been non-dominant vanilla women, so I see the main 'market' for Devotional Sex being vanilla up rather than kinky down. I'm pleased to read that you think this is cool :)

@DisciplineMeATL - For true stories about Devotional Sex see http://devotionalsex.com/15reallist.html

@Poise. You said:
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Devotional Sex is mostly geared to the man (Knight) refraining from ejaculation with the goal of remaining
horny for god awful long lengths of time. According to this practice, keeping a man horny magically gives the woman(Princess) power over him.

The length of time I recommend a man last is fairly short compared to chastity. For example, I recommend that a 40 year old man ejaculate on average every 4 to 6 days. And there is no magic involved. Him giving her power over sensual and sexual activities is just the other major component necessary for what they do to be Devotional Sex.

Devotional Sex is a sexual technique - and good sex has the male attracted to and desiring the female and her attracted to and desiring him. I'm not sure if DisciplineMeATL's mention of 'body worshiping' is meant to go much further than normal desire or not. If it is then this isn't normally part of Devotional Sex.

I'm happy to answer any questions about Devotional Sex.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 6:27:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL... So, dominant women... femdom's... kinky women... are whip carrying, dressed to the nines kinkfest dispensers? Keep him horny and you get his devotion?

Not in my little world. That is male oriented and dominated if his devotion is based on kink, sex or making the focus of his devotion physical. I am not saying I don't want a man horny or pleased. I just will not have a sex/kink/horny based relationship and my dominance goes far beyond what I wear, how I want him to feel, what we do sexually or kink wise and how to keep him devoted by using these things.

Dominant women are far more in my book and devotional sex interpreted by a man that condones the use of women to get their kinky or sexual needs on... is the same old story, packaged a bit differently... yet still a LIE.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 7:27:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a little suspicious for the reasons that e.g. Poise and Lockit mention but, all right, my interest is piqued. I have, for years, had a feeling that women who might 'let out the hidden femdom' might do so were it not for the overbearing image of whips and thighboots that makes them think, 'But that's just not me - I'm no femdom'.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 7:37:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		You know, it looks mostly harmless to me. A mild romanticized version of the White Knight concept with a little tantra and orgasm control thrown in. Might be just the thing for those who won't/cannot go all the way to kinky.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:07:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it for those that are into it. I am saying... I can't see a dominant woman, kinky or not, playing into it.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:13:01 AM   
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Its a method..a tool, an angle on something I enjoy , with much more .... kink, it IS one of many aspects Ive used and enjoyed.
On its own it wouldnt satisfy me, I have a sadistic edge, but interesting in other ways. Thanks for the links



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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:31:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Lucy, Would you value the devotional sex without the devotion in other areas?

I think even if we do have friends with benefits and it is in the form of devotional sex, used to describe something rather than the actual meaning of devotion as I see devotion, it can be fun if you are into it. For me the problem is the word devotion and I can't see devotion in relationships that are purely sexual with or without the kink. Attentive... yes. Great... yes. Devotion... no.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:37:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I'm a little suspicious for the reasons that e.g. Poise and Lockit mention but, all right, my interest is piqued. I have, for years, had a feeling that women who might 'let out the hidden femdom' might do so were it not for the overbearing image of whips and thighboots that makes them think, 'But that's just not me - I'm no femdom'.


I have a Dominant streak, but for me it's the sub men's behavior that has prevented me from ever dominating a man. The majority that I have met don't serve from a place of strength or serve with grace. (The minority that I have met that do, are already taken)


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:59:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Lucy, Would you value the devotional sex without the devotion in other areas?

I think even if we do have friends with benefits and it is in the form of devotional sex, used to describe something rather than the actual meaning of devotion as I see devotion, it can be fun if you are into it. For me the problem is the word devotion and I can't see devotion in relationships that are purely sexual with or without the kink. Attentive... yes. Great... yes. Devotion... no.

not so much :)But then I am in a LTR with my sub who is 600 miles away so when we get time together skin to skin, most of it is devoted:) to the kinkysexual part of it, Not being with him 24/7 is not what most people would term as devoted, he is married to another, as am I...which is why I termed it an aspect.
Were I with him 24/7 , it would be a different kettle of fish(snicker) ahem.
As with most aspects of femdom, cbt, chasity forced or otherwise, T&D, wax, electro,the floggings, the control, the paddles n whips are all part of the package, to focus on one, for me is impossible, too many things to enjoy and not enough time to do it all in. The mental aspect however is enjoyable when we are away from each other. For me the site interests me for that ... not as a lifestyle. I take what I want and grow outwards.
I hope that makes sense?


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 9:07:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think you have to be together 24/7 to be devoted. Not at all. I guess I am wording all of this badly and should maybe take a nap! lol I see devotion as more than sexual. I wasn't going to spend a lot of time on that site, but what I did see hinted that it could take some time... but also that you could have it on a first date. Sure... maybe... I guess I just can't see devotion in that setting. Intimate... sure. Devoted intimacy... no.

I have friends that are devoted. Family that is devoted. Have had sexual partners that were devoted... but it wasn't just in a sexual manner with them.

When I read oral for a long time or hours... I kind of lost interest. lol Damn this site has tainted me. ROFL

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 9:11:55 AM   
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Devotional Sex is mostly geared to the man (Knight) refraining from ejaculation with the goal of remaining
horny for god awful long lengths of time. According to this practice, keeping a man horny magically gives the woman(Princess) power over him.


Realizing where I am, I will tone this down a smidgen out of respect for the Dominatrixes.

But otherwise, just fuckin' no.  She said no to me, and I would thread her thru every window in my house, both ways. 

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 9:25:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I don't think you have to be together 24/7 to be devoted. Not at all. I guess I am wording all of this badly and should maybe take a nap! lol I see devotion as more than sexual. I wasn't going to spend a lot of time on that site, but what I did see hinted that it could take some time... but also that you could have it on a first date. Sure... maybe... I guess I just can't see devotion in that setting. Intimate... sure. Devoted intimacy... no.

I have friends that are devoted. Family that is devoted. Have had sexual partners that were devoted... but it wasn't just in a sexual manner with them.

When I read oral for a long time or hours... I kind of lost interest. lol Damn this site has tainted me. ROFL


I get what you're saying:

His impression of devotion = worshipping your body, which objectifies you.

Your impression of devotion = providing service, ie: doing something that doesn't necessarily cause sexual excitement.


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 9:33:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh I get you hon, often:) I was just trying to say what I felt , I am just as devoted to my sub as he is to me... but its not everyone elses definition of devotion:) I know we all feel it in different ways.
Its not you that needs a nap:)
While I enjoy long times on oral, ahem after repeated sessions it can smart more than a bit:)

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 10:45:11 AM   
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While I enjoy long times on oral, ahem after repeated sessions it can smart more than a bit:)

Lmao good to know I'm not the only one familiar with "the tap"...the one that means wrap it up sparky cause you are done!!

Devotion to me is so much more than something led by his dick. Devotion is making sure my oil gets changed or air in my tires. Devotion is remembering what kind of milk or flowers or gifts I like. Its remembering moms birthday or being by my side at the teadious project I signed up for. Its remembering that I will likely need special food if we go out & researching options.

I think our author needs to grab a copy of the 5 love languages...not once do they mention guided by dick!!!

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 10:53:17 AM   
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Ummm... It seems like the advertisement says that "there is no advertising." Following that viewpoint, it's more like... the advertising is free! Kudos! Brilliant marketing plan. The "hits" to the website make an excellent resource for proving a market for the book! Wow!

BTW, It worked! I did go to the website. All of the above is what I thought after reading.

It's a cool discussion, though.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 12:06:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DevotionalSex
I'm happy to answer any questions about Devotional Sex.


Why do you recommend ejaculation 5 - 8 times a month when urologists recommend 21 times a month (or more) for optimum prostate health? (Source WebMD)



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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 12:19:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, that's like 5-8 times a day isn't it?   Hey baby, you have to give me another blowjob, you're killing me here.....I am so fuckin in!!!!!!!

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 3:16:47 PM   
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When I am doing the dirty; sport, I am devoted to it, I have never took a phone call nor said, wait a minute, I gotta quit stroking here, this TV commerical is really cute.

I may have jammed out to a radio or cd, but I incorporated it into the ambiance.

You can quote me.


LOL, awesome.

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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 6:31:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		BitaTruble - You are correct that there may be some health risks from not ejaculating often. I have a warming page on my website and it has been discussed on my Tubmlr.

My personal view is that the risk is small compared to many other health risks I face (drinking a bit too much, needing to loose some weight, etc) and as I find Devotional Sex so rewarding the risk is worth it. Each man must make up their own mind on this.

TwoHeartsBeatOne - As I've not written a book yet there are no links to a book. Everything I've written on Devotional Sex over the last 5 years if available for free on the internet. And readers do not see advertising for other websites or products.

Devotional Sex is the name I've given to a sexual technique and lifestyle. Of course the word 'devotional' has many meanings, and the sexual technique doesn't apply to every meaning. Devotional Sex has a significant tantric component, and an important part of tantra is connection. Also with Devotional Sex not only is the Knight devoted to his Princess, but she is devoted to him. So I'm happy with the name I've chosen even though (like any name) it will sometimes be misunderstood.

Devotional Sex is NOT just male fantasy. Last night a female friend wrote "Devotional Sex provides a safe yet revolutionary space for female desire and sexual agency to reveal itself in ways that complement and affirm male sexuality."

In an email another woman wrote: "Devotional Sex is a beautiful technique that is very empowering and healing for women. It creates exquisite closeness and intimacy between partners whether they are friends, dating, or in a relationship. It turns the traditional male / female sexual dynamic on its head. I would even dare to say that it is revolutionary in its approach to sexuality, hearkening back to certain historical periods when women and the feminine principle were truly honored and revered."

Devotional Sex is my fantasy. I tell dates and friends that this is what I do - "I don't ejaculate often and I'll obey your sensual and sexual wishes".

Devotional Sex is my reality because I've found many vanilla women who have enjoyed this new dynamic with me.

Of course Devotional Sex is not for everyone. But those who do like the idea can get rather enthusiastic about it.


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RE: Devotional Sex - 12/14/2012 8:06:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok so you made up your own palitable flavor of kink. Subject nillas to your kink & it works so well you are having to troll the bars for unsuspecting partners...it is all suddenly so clear!! So what we told the OP is entirely correct.

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