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teeagedom -> problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:37:18 PM)
can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters?

mnottertail -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:40:31 PM)
How many cups of wine can you put up a girls ass in an enema safely? How many cubes of ice can you put up a girls ass safely? How much a month are your bills, and are they all paid, and if the shit hit the fan tomorrow how long would you last? Don't google. I am giving you an honest answer here. This is not snark. It is a reason. I have nothing particular against them, but therein lies your answer.

RumpusParable -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:42:25 PM)
I'm assuming that was all tongue-in-cheek, right?

teeagedom -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:43:58 PM)
Ok thank you

mnottertail -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:44:52 PM)
Not really, no.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:45:25 PM)
Because they won't use the Search feature to see if this question has already been answered. [8\|] In all seriousness, "most people" don't care enough to have a problem with a young guy who wants to be a dominant. What they often do have a problem with is the young guy calling himself a "master" when the reality is that he's too young to have enough experience to have earned the title. Master is usually reserved for someone who has been in the community a long time and is highly respected because he or she (yep, women can be masters too) has demonstrated expertise in one or more areas. Think of it this way: You don't get a Master's degree without years of study and work. You don't get to be a Master in the BDSM community without years of study and work. Now, you can have your future partner call you "Master" if it trips your trigger and hers/his, but you won't be recognized as a master in the community. See the difference?

teeagedom -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 3:50:00 PM)
i see

angelikaJ -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:07:02 PM)
First, take a look at your profile, did you run it through a simple spell check program? (Hint: the answer to that is "no".) Why didn't you take the time to do that? Second, you are 19, I think? Your brain does not become an adult until you are at least 25 years old. Most people your age think they are fully grown adults with nothing left to learn. When those of us who were once your age turn 30 or so, we generally realise how foolish we were then. Becoming a dominant partner requires a certain amount of responsibility and that requires acknowledging what you don't know. Work on becoming responsible adult and the rest will follow... probably. [;)]

OsideGirl -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:07:11 PM)
Lack of experience in life and D/s BDSM.

DesFIP -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:13:18 PM)
Because we know now how little we knew at your age. Not to mention that many of us have children your age and we already know that just getting them to remember to put the milk back in the fridge is a major accomplishment. You want to be in charge of someone else's life, get your own in order.

sunshinemiss -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:18:32 PM)
There are people who would fit the bill, even when they are younger. However, there is a level of confidence and understanding of the world and people that can come ONLY with experience. If you don't have the experience, you simply can't get the understanding. If you don't have that basic understanding, why would someone want to trust you? Your question actually proves the point. People with experience understand the reason. They (We?) understand that learning is important, that life lessons are important, that knowing ourselves is important, that being true to oneself is more important than WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. If you understood all that, you wouldn't need to ask the question. I suggest you take up a martial art. When you hit brown belt, ask your sensei. best, sunshine

JeffBC -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:31:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: teeagedom can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters? I suspect that depends a lot on what people mean when they say "dom" or "master". I assume there are lots of young slaves out looking for young masters. I also assume that what they mean by "master" and "slave" is nothing like what I mean so the standards that I might apply are not relevant. To elaborate on Ron's (mnottertail's) response, let me give you a specific thing. When Carol says "master" she means "a human being who owns me". For her that's not some kinky code words for "we're dating". It's a literal statement. So to be able to effectively own a woman who is 58 years old you'd need a fair amount of life skills. Think about things like retirement planning, end of life planning, medical conditions, etc. Would you really want to step up to that job? Would any sane woman in Carol's position acknowledge you as credible for such? What I suspect is that so long as you stick in your peer group then you won't run into this problem so much.

lizi -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:32:47 PM)
Because young Dominants don't know what the heck they're doing and they aren't experienced enough in life to know that. Because young Doms think that an attitude and a scowl and a desire to boss people around means being Dominant. Because young Doms won't identify what they need to learn and then go out to do it. Because young Doms think that hanging a label upon themselves means that the label fits, and is descriptive of them. Think about this...if someone is going to be naked and vulnerable with you why would they trust you? What do you have to reassure them that you know what you're doing? These are dangerous activities, with someone older there is at least the possibility of age providing some experience. Even if that's not true, at least it 'appears' that the older person may know what they are doing. With a young Dominant there is no way that they have the experience or the skill, they just don't.

RedMagic1 -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:40:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: teeagedom can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters? Read this thread. The OP was written by someone who was, at the time, just a couple years older than you. Despite his youth, his personality and way with words got older sub women wet. http://www.collarchat.com/m_2099303/tm.htm Please compare it to your own OP. Also, is your username missing an "n" ? You may have a learning disability, and be quite intelligent despite your spelling errors. But a lot of people are going to look at your username and your writing and think you are sloppy. And who wants someone sloppy beating on them? If you move wrong, maybe you break a bone instead of just hitting padded flesh. Your age doesn't matter too much. What matters is whether you are a mature adult, able to shoulder responsibility.

sunshinemiss -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:42:32 PM)
I knew that was Mad Rabbit... Yup, you nailed it Red. We loves us the Rabbit, Mad or not.

OsideGirl -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:50:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 But a lot of people are going to look at your username and your writing and think you are sloppy. And who wants someone sloppy beating on them? If you move wrong, maybe you break a bone instead of just hitting padded flesh. It goes beyond that. There are a zillion places where spell check is available. (I'm willing to bet that as a student he has Microsoft Word on his computer. ) It takes an extra 5 seconds to spell check what you've written and it's easy. Someone that refuses to take advantage of available resources or not care enough to make the effort, isn't somebody that I was ever interested in. If someone is unwilling to make a little effort, then what happens when the rubber hits the road?

Aderious511 -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 4:58:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC To elaborate on Ron's (mnottertail's) response, let me give you a specific thing. When Carol says "master" she means "a human being who owns me". For her that's not some kinky code words for "we're dating". It's a literal statement. So to be able to effectively own a woman who is 58 years old you'd need a fair amount of life skills. Think about things like retirement planning, end of life planning, medical conditions, etc. Would you really want to step up to that job? Would any sane woman in Carol's position acknowledge you as credible for such? What I suspect is that so long as you stick in your peer group then you won't run into this problem so much. If Carol wanted to be set free, would you let her go?

SeekingTrinity -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 6:54:06 PM)
To a 19 year old, Im sure you are just fine. To someone who is mentally around your age, Im sure you are just fine. But to someone who has been around life's block a time or two or many, your knowledge of the world and their knowledge are on two separate levels. It takes time to develop and mature. And at 19, there hasnt been enough time to live yet...let alone mature and develop.

littlewonder -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 6:56:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: teeagedom can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters? Because they are eeerrr....young? You have no life experience yet or very little (even though they will tell you otherwise) and they have not finished developing mentally and physically.

dominlosangeles -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/12/2012 7:02:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: teeagedom can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters? The problem isn't youth per se so much as immaturity and lack of knowledge, They usually go hand-in-hand but not always, just as being older doesn't guarantee someone is mature and knowledgeable. However, people are going to be skeptical of a young dom until he gives them a reason not to be. And honestly, if you come on a public board and ask the question you did, it affirms that you are as unknowledgeable as most people would expect you to be at your age.

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