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Teroh -> RE: problem with young Doms (12/24/2012 2:12:44 AM)
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ORIGINAL: teeagedom
can some one explain to me why many people have a problem with younger Doms/Masters?
The reasons do seem to vary.
1) Many submissive females are interested in what are called 'Daddy Doms'; the implication here is obviously for an older gentleman. The rationale behind such an interest varies from preference to psychological issues I hesitate to explain (although I largely suspect it's the same reason our fraternity parties are so successful).
2) Experience, this one simply breaks down to a numbers game. Let's say hypothetically I've been engaged in BDSM every day since I was 16. That means ad maxima I've got 2190 sessions (minus the number that would give away my exact birthday of course :p). That is obviously unrealistic, whereas a Dom who's been at it for 30 years could easily achieve such a figure. You're probably asking, why is experience important?
A) Health and Safety. A vast majority of the interests that comprise BDSM can go wrong in practice, many quickly. The working theory is a guy who's done X activity Y1 times is better equipped to avoid problematic results from said activity as opposed to guy 2 who's only tried activity X Y2 times (where Y1>>Y2).
B) Maximum ROI. If you think about it fetishes are a mental aphrodisiac more than a purely physical one. There's a common saying, 'practice makes perfect', which applies here. It is certainly true that for some submissives the marginal difference in the physical phenomena can have a greater impact on the mental one, thereby increasing the return on investment from the activity.
3) Security, and broken down...
A) Financial. Dunno what you're doing with your life mate, but I can tell you, grad school is fucktons of expensive. While I have no personal doubt yachts are in my future, my financial situation can only accurately be described as volatile. Older gentleman on the other hand, regardless of where they are in life, are more likely to be stabilized (living at their means with the realistic assumption of continuity). Now this one shouldn't shock you, as since the dawn of time and of our country, women have married older men who have earned this security.
B) Social. Suppose temporarily that you are older, you can then have a certain expectation based on how well you've aged, what you d got going for you, etc. on the quality of woman you can attract. In real life, people are much more hesitant to bypass a certain age gap, if for no other reason the social connotation of it. This means your selection of mates is more limited, and you theoretically be very happy to enjoy the nightly company of a woman younger than yourself. Now back to the present, and if you forgive me ill have to speak from my experiences being unfamiliar with yours. So in college, bitches be errwhere, and not just in plethora, but in quality of physical attractiveness. Now I personally have a great taste for novelty, and BDSM is not something I absolutely need in my life. So suppose I'm dating my sub... She's kinky and cute. We have a kegger, similar to every weekend, a boatload of fine and morally ambiguous walks in the door. I meet a Theta, she's smart, sexy, and a much more suitable candidate to bring home to mom. You can see that the sub has less social security in this second scenario, and nobody likes being dumped.
Hopefully I've helped to clarify things a bit. In any case bruv, don't let it get you down. Focus on the things you can provide better as a younger Dom... Potential examples being physique, sexual stamina, adventure, etc.
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