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i need Advice - 12/14/2012 12:24:41 AM

GivingAwaytoHER

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Hi to A/all,

i need advice.

Y/you are requested to kindly read my profile 1st to have a better idea what i am talking about.

Thanks for reading.

being novice here.....and i am ready to take big step.

i am requesting for advice regarding transfer of power to my Lady. What should be detailed mechanism of it. DOs and DONTs.

Any suggestions will highly appreciated.

Thanks again.

P.S : i am open to any queries...please dont hesitate to ask.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 1:31:49 AM

absolutchocolat

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Not to be a douche here, but...shouldn't you be asking her that? It really depends on what gets the two of you off -- what makes her feel powerful and what makes you feel powerless.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 2:18:27 AM

AthenaSurrenders

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I'm not clear - do you actually have a lady or not? Because if you do, only she can tell you what she wants from you. If you don't, we don't know what kind of person you might eventually be with so we still can't tell you.

I will give you some general advice but you will find it very boring and non-sexy.

Take it SLOWLY. Your profile speaks of over excitement. You are scam-bait at the moment, going on about how you can't wait to give all your material possessions over to a woman. That's the kind of stuff that comes way down the line when trust is established and a commitment is made. It's a jungle out there, and navigating by penis will land you in trouble. Once you know you're compatible with someone (which you find out by dating, there are no shortcuts) then you start to talk about power and expectations. Best to start small, talk about it, and build from there.

Get to know a woman as a woman, not as a sex goddess. Even an awesome domme is still a human being. If you are looking for someone perfect in every way, you are going to be disappointed when you realise that she still makes mistakes, gets sick, has grumpy days and bad habits like the rest of us.

If you are still looking for someone as your profile suggests, you might wanna look about how you are selling yourself. For all you say you want her to have things her way, what you describe sounds like a lot of work. What if she doesn't want to take on a business? You're meeting full grown adult women with lives of their own - what about her own career? What if she feels best served by YOU busting your ass running the business so that she can go to school, or do charity work, or create oil paintings or sit at home eating bonbons? You'll find in most functioning D/s relationship, the Dtype doesn't actually make every decision. He or she might have the power to make any decision they wish, but to actually make every single one is very tiring. Generally the sub should make life easier, not harder.

And you might think it's a selling point, but most female dominants I know don't like the 'female superiority' angle. They want you to submit to them as an individual, because you think they are a great person, not just because they happen to have a vagina. It's a little insulting to some people, as it implies that any woman will do. And 'the gynarchy is coming' is nonsense. Women are not planning to take sole control of the world and oust all men from positions of power.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 4:40:51 AM

DarkSteven

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Good Lord, dude.

1. Show a picture of you, not from some porn clip. I understand that you don't want to show your face, so show a pic from the back. Or chopped off at the neck.
2. You don't have the right to offer what your profile offers. You think of your possessions as just that, possessions, but they're not. They're people and livelihoods. You owe it to others to ensure that they're transferred diligently, with the woman trained to run them.
3. Nobody should jump into slavery on day one, especially in their first relationship. Instead of that, start off as a submissive, getting to know your Domme, while still adjusting to each other. Deepen it as time goes on, till arriving at M/s.

That's assuming that your profile is legit, of course.

Welcome to collarme.

Edited to add: If you're such a wealthy multibillionaire, why are you so cheap that you won't help her come to you? Isn't giving money to her the idea?

Edited again to say: Why the hell are you asking a bunch of kinky people about transfer of assets? Ask a freaking CPA or lawyer!

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 12/14/2012 5:12:59 AM >

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 5:12:48 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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Okay let me see. How many times have you insulted dominant women such as myself, let me count the ways.

Strike One: You began a thread supposedly to get advice, what you really wanted was to pull traffic to your profile so dominant women would know how rich you are. I find that hugely manipulative in someone I don't even know - and I'm quite sure most other fem doms feel the same.

Strike Two: The whole point of your profile (and your nick) is to let people know how rich you are, and how you intend to give your money away to the right fem dom. This sounds a bit too much like you want to buy one. Guess what, sparky? Dominant females find even the implication that they can be bought insulting in a big way.

Strike Three: Your avatar and your profile are both something out of a cheesy porn novel. Dominant females don't want to play the lead in someone's cheesy porn fantasy, they want AND CAN GET someone who will treat them like a human being, not a fetish delivery device.

My advice: Don't live your life seeking Mr or Ms Right, live your life being the kind of person Mr or Ms Right would be attracted to. At this point in time, YOU ARE NOT IT.

If that's not clear to you, read my post again; then re-read Athena's. She's far nice than I and has a lot more patience dealing with <searches hard and long for a non-inflammatory term> novices.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 8:47:59 AM

SeekingTrinity

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FRing it...

All due respect, but when I read your profile...it screamed fraudulent to me. If I read it while browsing profiles, I would have ended up discounting it as a scam and moving on. I didnt take it seriously at all. From the fake profile picture to the bragging about wealth, it just didnt feel right. My grandmother had a saying..."if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is."

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 9:30:27 AM

SophiaMaam

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I wouldn't give you the time of day, frankly.

Even if your claims on your profile ARE true (and it comes across as a whole lot of nonsense)...

I am indeed a dominant woman. As such, I'm NOT seeking to fit into YOUR fantasy of what a Dominant woman is. Rather, a potential sub is going to have to fit into MY world. End. Of. Story.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 10:29:40 AM

theRose4U

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Okay let me see. How many times have you insulted dominant women such as myself, let me count the ways.

Strike One: You began a thread supposedly to get advice, what you really wanted was to pull traffic to your profile so dominant women would know how rich you are. I find that hugely manipulative in someone I don't even know - and I'm quite sure most other fem doms feel the same.

Strike Two: The whole point of your profile (and your nick) is to let people know how rich you are, and how you intend to give your money away to the right fem dom. This sounds a bit too much like you want to buy one. Guess what, sparky? Dominant females find even the implication that they can be bought insulting in a big way.

Strike Three: Your avatar and your profile are both something out of a cheesy porn novel. Dominant females don't want to play the lead in someone's cheesy porn fantasy, they want AND CAN GET someone who will treat them like a human being, not a fetish delivery device.

Oh so this!!!

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 3:45:36 PM

RumpusParable

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OP, I won't lie.. I REALLY LIKE money. And power.

And find your profile completely and totally off-putting.

It's basically about how you plan to make a whole lot of work and headache for a mistress... without telling what you, as a person, are offering.

You're rich. Great. Money is lovely to have. Solves a lot of life's problems.

But WHO ARE YOU? What are you like? What are you offering? What do you think an average day with this woman will be like? What do you want her to be like (think reality, think details)?

Why do you think a woman will want to put aside her goals, her life, her interests to take on the massive amount and work and responsibility involved in taking over your company? -Especially as your fantasy is pretty much just dumping it all in her lap? It's not as though you're talking about a situation where a woman creates such on her own or moves up over time to that position with you... you're talking about meeting a woman, liking each other, laying this huge job on her when she doesn't have the background and experience for it most likely.

That's not enticing. That's a nightmare.

At least, IMO.

So, if that's what you really want a woman to do and take on, what do you offer her for doing that? She just took all your work responsibilities off your back... so what's in it for her now?

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 5:05:58 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GivingAwaytoHER

Hi to A/all,

i need advice.

Y/you are requested to kindly read my profile 1st to have a better idea what i am talking about.

Thanks for reading.

being novice here.....and i am ready to take big step.

i am requesting for advice regarding transfer of power to my Lady. What should be detailed mechanism of it. DOs and DONTs.

Any suggestions will highly appreciated.

Thanks again.

P.S : i am open to any queries...please dont hesitate to ask.

i don't know what to say. i think someone ought to have some balls.

But (i) could be wrong.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 5:29:43 PM

theRose4U

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Lookie you just missed the testicle dump truck...it just left!

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 6:30:02 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

Lookie you just missed the testicle dump truck...it just left!

GAWDAMMIT!!!!!

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 10:06:01 PM

came4U

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I don't know if the OP is a fake or otherwise, nor is it my business to care one way or the other..

but the profile is the first I have seen that is sooo darn anti-financial Domme and backassward opposite of Financial Domme or even sub, that I've ever seen. lol

But washing that thought out of my mind, OP you really should think (if this is genuine) before:
1. having a relationship with someone you propose to work with (or employ, or include in such corporate endevours).
2. giving such a position to a person from an inernet (lordy, of all places, here??) hook-up kink site vs going to any legitimate job search site where there are endless amounts of females who are highly educated with degrees and qualifications that you would need one to be effective.
3. hire because you enjoy said person sexually and you will no doubt be broke in short time.
4. if we are to believe such a profile, ...your shareholders will absolutely have you on a stake for your horrible decision processes (don't forget, any money you lose--you drag others down with ya).

5. ignoring all that, the main focus should be on you preparing to learn some Houdini moves to get out of the straight-jacket they will produce at this 'meeting' you will be presenting this Gyno-phenomenon.
6. can you give me a hint of which company this is....just in case I have stock in there--I want to rid of it now before it drops off the DOW.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/14/2012 10:27:58 PM

GivingAwaytoHER

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Thank you very much for your reply.

its a private limited. So no public share holding.

Second i am not signing everything just after receiving a message here. i know its internet.

The transfer i proposed about it EVENTUAL event. Ofcourse i am not stupid to transfer everyhting just to some prostitute , which these days calls themselves Fin Domme too,.

i can search some qualified females on some job portal but who will teach them FLR ??? CM is the only site which i see fit to find a Woman who is well aware of a FLR and wants to live it.

i dont need to mention my business or company name. Thanks but we not some FUN BAR operating in some canadian village , who IPO its shares to its employees only and the one with biggest HOLE gets the WHOLE stake.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/21/2012 5:19:58 PM

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RE: i need Advice - 12/21/2012 6:59:03 PM

searching4mysir

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quote:

i can search some qualified females on some job portal but who will teach them FLR ?

You set yourself up for sexual harassment suits if you attempt to obtain your fantasy that way.

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No longer searching -- found my one and only right here on CM

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RE: i need Advice - 12/22/2012 4:49:12 PM

PranksterBtch

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Okay let me see. How many times have you insulted dominant women such as myself, let me count the ways.

Strike One: You began a thread supposedly to get advice, what you really wanted was to pull traffic to your profile so dominant women would know how rich you are. I find that hugely manipulative in someone I don't even know - and I'm quite sure most other fem doms feel the same.

Strike Two: The whole point of your profile (and your nick) is to let people know how rich you are, and how you intend to give your money away to the right fem dom. This sounds a bit too much like you want to buy one. Guess what, sparky? Dominant females find even the implication that they can be bought insulting in a big way.

Strike Three: Your avatar and your profile are both something out of a cheesy porn novel. Dominant females don't want to play the lead in someone's cheesy porn fantasy, they want AND CAN GET someone who will treat them like a human being, not a fetish delivery device.

My advice: Don't live your life seeking Mr or Ms Right, live your life being the kind of person Mr or Ms Right would be attracted to. At this point in time, YOU ARE NOT IT.

If that's not clear to you, read my post again; then re-read Athena's. She's far nicer than I and has a lot more patience dealing with <searches hard and long for a non-inflammatory term> novices.

Read ^^ this over and over ... and then realize there is nothing sweeter than exercising a denial fetish by ignoring some prick with privilege who thinks he's all that. [edited to keep mods happy]

< Message edited by PranksterBtch -- 12/22/2012 4:51:10 PM >

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RE: i need Advice - 12/24/2012 10:14:32 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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I'm always amused at men who search for a Dominant Woman to rule over them, then go into explicit detail of just HOW They will rule over them.

It reminds me of Oliver Cromwell. After removing King Chuckles I as head of state, along with removing King Chuckle's head, he instituted the English Republic, to be ruled over by Parliament. The problem was, he couldn't get a Parliament that would rule precisely the way he wanted it to rule and thus had to spend the rest of his life acting as military dictator.

You're not going to find a Queen to Rule over you who is going to allow you to dictate to her.

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RE: i need Advice - 12/31/2012 9:48:07 AM

StefanandLucinda

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All you have to do is to have a truly submissive personality and take direction without an ego or bad attitude. Period and End of Story. Go play.

Lucinda

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RE: i need Advice - 12/31/2012 7:01:50 PM

PeonForHer

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Hi GATH,

For an idea of a contrast, please read my own profile.

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