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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Why BDSM isn't Abuse (12/22/2012 7:10:02 PM)
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Consent is the only thing that separates BDSM from abuse. Without it, you simply have an individual putting another person down without their expressed permission. And it will hurt and denigate just like abuse.
Please take this into consideration... A lot of people come here for cybering and to get a mild kink fix or D/s fix. Just this past year alone there had to be close to a thousand guys trying to get me to humiliate them. Since I do not see most of them here in the message boards, they are likely trying to get their humiliation fix somewhere else at Collarme. Through letters and chatrooms.
I don't know if you frequent the video chat room just to talk with fellow kinksters or if you are there to enjoy some roleplay. If it's for the first, see if you can block the ones trying to instigate roleplay without your consent. If it's for the second, consider that letting others get their groove on might be the price you have to pay to get your own groove on.
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The same goes for submissives and slaves who message Dom/mes and act as if they are entitled to being dominated. Dom/mes usually get angry and send harsh messages in the public channel.
Um, yeah. [:D] When I used to be in the regular chatroom, before the chatrooms all changed and the Lobby disappeared, there were unwritten rules. As a Domme I would often be juggling 3-5 private chats while also keeping up with the main room. It was considered polite to ask in the public room if someone may send a private message or not...I used to even do this myself, because friends of mine might have been too busy in private chats to juggle yet another at that time. Sometimes I would have several chats going on and...suddenly be hit with seven to a dozen more private messages.
Dealing politely with each person...I tried most of the time, explaining that they needed to ask first before sending a pm and that I couldn't chat with them at that time but maybe some other time. Most guys wouldn't take the hint and would "demand" that I get rid of all other chats to make them a priority. LOL! It's much easier to say "F*ck off!" than to deal with a few dozen private messages from each person arguing their case why we should talk with them RIGHT NOW.
There are a lot more guys coming into those rooms for some free cybering than there are women who can supply it. (I think we need more pro-Dommes coming here to this site. Seriously. I get tired of the mannerless leg humpers trying to force their kink and sub frenzy on me, and sometimes just wanna kick them in the nut sack instead of blocking them, lol.)
Yes, when someone was making a complete ass out of himself in private chat...I would get irritated enough to mention it in the main room. Usually it was just, "*insert name here*, stop pm'ing me without asking in the Lobby first". If I said something like, "*insert name here*, you are a complete butthead, STOP messaging me!", the mods would pop me on the head for being a Drama Queen and would tell me to either put them on ignore or keep it private. This was something like ten years ago though.
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