Things just seem too good....

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Things just seem too good....

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Things just seem too good....

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 7:22:35 PM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

Okay.. I know this will sound very strange..but things are going too good. I mean.. everything seems to be falling into place for me to be with my Sir. There were many obstacles to this move...it's a few states away...an ex.. money..time..packing.. and so many more things. Yet, time after time...hurdle after hurdle..it is all coming to pass.

So.. why am I posting then? Well.. it just seems in my life..that things don't ever work out..so when they seem to.. I get concerned..almost panicked...and don't know what to do with myself. In my mind.. I am always waiting on the other shoe to drop..no matter how much I try to think positive about the situation.

I so hate this about myself..because it leads me to my bad habits.. the whole bulimia thing..mixed with a few others.. my normal coping mechanisms.

Does anyone else do this..panic when things are too good? I guess I just don't feel like I deserve it..therefore..it will fall apart somehow. I hate this.. I try to be a positive person..then the panic kicks me in the ass... ugh!!!

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

Post #: 1

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 7:43:39 PM

SweetSarijane

Posts: 3788
Joined: 10/7/2005
From: KC area Missouri
Status: offline

I understand believe me. I do the same thing...when things are going so good I find myself too often waiting on the other shoe to drop. So often in the past that is what has happened to me...all is going beautifully and then out of the blue....BAM! Now I have gotten better about that and in the last 2 years I have worked hard to focus more on the positives and push much of the negative aside. It does help to do that, but it's hard to get into that habit. Over time that waiting on the other shoe to drop mentality and feeling has slowly begun to happen less and less. It still does, but as I said not as much now as it used to.

Feel free to email me on the other side if you need to talk or you want to.

_____________________________

Sarah2
Deviant Mind
Wild Side Readers KCSass

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 2

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 7:56:26 PM

HotSubmissive

Posts: 3
Joined: 6/17/2006
Status: offline

HisTicia, I can totally realate to both you and SweetSariJane. I have experienced the exact same thing over and over again. My life has been like a roller coaster. I've noticed at times when I start climbing higher and higher and reach the top of the hill, all hell breaks loose and I plumit to the bottom. I have a tendency to brace myself if things are going to well. However, I've really learned to truly embrace and cherish every moment in life, especially the good times! Just enjoy the ride and live life to the fullest, because it's short and were not gauranteed another breath.

_____________________________

"I'm a very caring, humble, passionate, person who loves to laugh and have fun. I really enjoy life and try to live it to the fullest."

(in reply to SweetSarijane)

Post #: 3

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 8:41:00 PM

Reflectivesoul

Posts: 1777
Joined: 4/25/2006
Status: offline

Ticia,

I went through that for a long time after a very bad string of things happened in my life, that I had no control over. One thing I learned from all of it ( after the fact of course ) is that when I had the feeling of waiting for the BAM to happen I was, not so much knowingly, almost sabotaging the situation to get to where there was a BAM and there didnt need to be.

Please be very careful with that, it ties in so much with the feelings of not deserving good things to happen in your life and to you.

*gives you a great big hug* no matter what things are in your past please know that everyone deserves good in their lives.

Now I could probably be way off the bat here but from my own experiences with this the reason I "felt" like I didnt deserve good things was because in a way I was locked into a self punishing mode because of things I had gone through. If this is the same for you just know that it doesnt have to be that way and you are finding the good things again, allow that to flow freely, because the other side of the coin is staying in that bad mode and thats no fun....

_____________________________

ooooo..I bet THATS gonna leave a mark!!!!

Equal opportunity pisser on-er ... heh..

Gimme some crayons, I want color and I want it now DAMNIT!

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 4

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 8:55:03 PM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

I have read many of your posts and think you seem like such a nice person Ticia. I know from experience how these feelings of insecurity can lead to panic attacks and anxiety. It has not been that long ago I overcame it myself... and I still fear its return sometimes. I know you feel that the other shoe is going to drop, and you are holding your breath waiting to hear that thud when it lands.. it is such a negative place to be.

I want to suggest a book to you, it is called "From Panic to Power". It helped me to realize how I could come to change my perspective to make my panic and anxiety connect with different emotional states besides fear and anger. I know a lot of what you are going through, and there is a way to own your life in a way that makes your submission of that life even fuller. It truly is possible to not live in fear of what you are going to lose, or expecting to lose. It is Hell to think that at any given moment it could all be taken from you, and I suffered many loses when i was younger and it set me up for fearing the lose of anyone I loved.

There are ways to learn to live in the moment, plan for the future and learn from the past, and even though it takes a lot of work it is well worth doing. If you ever need to talk please email me. You are not alone... never think that you are, many people have suffered from panic and anxiety and reclaimed their lives....Peace!

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 5

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 9:10:24 PM

Misstoyou

Posts: 1149
Joined: 9/4/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: HisTicia

Okay.. I know this will sound very strange..but things are going too good. I mean.. everything seems to be falling into place for me to be with my Sir. There were many obstacles to this move...it's a few states away...an ex.. money..time..packing.. and so many more things. Yet, time after time...hurdle after hurdle..it is all coming to pass.

Syncronicity! Sometimes the universe *does* come together. We just have to be alert to those times, be grateful, and take advantage.

_____________________________

~ Miss Marie

a.k.a. "mean Lady"

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 6

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/17/2006 10:26:09 PM

timeoutgurlie

Posts: 588
Joined: 3/21/2006
Status: offline

Manifestation is a powerful force, if you *believe* things will go badly and that they 'always' do...this will manifest itself.

The good news is, positive manifestation works just as well. The mind is an extremely powerful thing.

Best luck on your path

(in reply to Misstoyou)

Post #: 7

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 4:03:59 AM

RavenMuse

Posts: 4030
Joined: 1/23/2006
Status: offline

Petal just be careful. All too often when people have low self esteam they can so easily convince themself they don't 'deserve' whatever good thing is happening and that leads them to sabotage it... thereby 'prooving' they weren't worth it.

Of course it proves nothing of the kind, because if they could have simply believed in themselves just a little then they would have the good thing they where getting into.

Hang in there, focus on the enjoying the ride and don't give in to negative thoughts. Rember, HE sees you as worth it, even during the times where you loose sight of that for yourself!

_____________________________

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Owner of metalmiss

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 8

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 4:13:01 AM

darkinshadows

Posts: 4145
Joined: 6/2/2004
From: UK
Status: offline

Hello Ticia

You are a natural beauty - shines through your posts. It can be difficult when you feel like this - when things are going wonderfully you wonder when the storm will begin. But even the storm can be positive at times.

I won't suggset to not worry - because that won't assist you. You could try and pour your negative emotions into something positive like chanting or meditation (I know you have some interest in buddhism etc) - meditation can be very empowering and can assit you find your centre - and its wonderful to assit with panic attacks.

If you need any information or relaxation techniques/music - you know you can contact me whenever.

Thinking of you as always

Peace and Rapture

_____________________________

.dark.

...i surrender to gravity and the unknown...

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 9

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 4:38:04 AM

meatcleaver

Posts: 9030
Joined: 3/13/2006
Status: offline

You are taking out an insurance policy for when things go wrong so you don't end up too disappointed but such thinking can end up being a self fullfilling prophesy. Think positive which I know is easier said than done and no matter how good things are think about making them better and not how to prevent a fall. It's a state of mind.

There have been psychological experiments on this sort of thing and a positive outlook does work just as a negative outlook does in its own way. There is actually exercises you can do where you can train yourself to think positive. They work too!

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 10

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 6:46:56 AM

pahunkboy

Posts: 33061
Joined: 2/26/2006
From: Central Pennsylvania
Status: offline

I heard from this- moving a few states away.

IMO- this is a risk. Thats just my opinion. [a risk I wont take, nor let the other guy make- if it crashes- it is all on me then...] [the person moving must find a heck of a lot to anchor them to the new area]

Bulimia? Girl....I have no clue as to why ladies do that. Take good care of yourself please. You wont be able to hide this- if you live with someone.

On the otherhand- plenty will rain on your parade. Dont rain on your own parade. Keep us posted...

Kindess regards-

(in reply to meatcleaver)

Post #: 11

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:08:12 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

I understand believe me. I do the same thing...when things are going so good I find myself too often waiting on the other shoe to drop. So often in the past that is what has happened to me...all is going beautifully and then out of the blue....BAM! Now I have gotten better about that and in the last 2 years I have worked hard to focus more on the positives and push much of the negative aside. It does help to do that, but it's hard to get into that habit. Over time that waiting on the other shoe to drop mentality and feeling has slowly begun to happen less and less. It still does, but as I said not as much now as it used to.

Feel free to email me on the other side if you need to talk or you want to.

Thanks.. yes.. that is what it is..I just know it has to end..glad I am not the only one that feels that way. I fooled myself into thinking I was better about it.. WRONG!..lol

Thanks for the offer... I am going to have a long week.. so you may be getting an email from me...I leave on the 24th of June..ugh!... if I can make it that long.

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to SweetSarijane)

Post #: 12

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:09:53 AM

cuddleheart50

Posts: 9718
Joined: 2/20/2006
From: Kentucky
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: HisTicia

Okay.. I know this will sound very strange..but things are going too good. I mean.. everything seems to be falling into place for me to be with my Sir. There were many obstacles to this move...it's a few states away...an ex.. money..time..packing.. and so many more things. Yet, time after time...hurdle after hurdle..it is all coming to pass.

So.. why am I posting then? Well.. it just seems in my life..that things don't ever work out..so when they seem to.. I get concerned..almost panicked...and don't know what to do with myself. In my mind.. I am always waiting on the other shoe to drop..no matter how much I try to think positive about the situation.

I so hate this about myself..because it leads me to my bad habits.. the whole bulimia thing..mixed with a few others.. my normal coping mechanisms.

Does anyone else do this..panic when things are too good? I guess I just don't feel like I deserve it..therefore..it will fall apart somehow. I hate this.. I try to be a positive person..then the panic kicks me in the ass... ugh!!!

Enjoy the ride, you are lucky! It doesnt happen to everyone.

_____________________________

Dance like no one is watching,
Sing like no one is listening.
Love like you've never been hurt
and live like it's heaven on Earth.

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 13

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:13:31 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: HotSubmissive

Just enjoy the ride and live life to the fullest, because it's short and were not gauranteed another breath.

Yes, I am very much trying to do this. I keep thinking.. I only have so many years to be this happy...I should quit bitching about it going to end..and just enjoy them. It's just convincing my brain to do that .. that's the problem.

Thanks for your input... Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to HotSubmissive)

Post #: 14

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:15:48 AM

reticence

Posts: 180
Joined: 2/28/2006
Status: offline

Ticia

I so understand that waiting for the other shoe to drop mentality. As other posters have said, it is often due to insecurity. You have received some really good advice here, I am afraid I would only be repeating what others have said. I know that I have been guilty of that self sabotaging behavior, and it was because I felt I did not deserve anything good to happen to me. Pay attention to that negative self-talk that is going on in your head, replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. I know it sounds silly, and will feel silly as you are doing it, but it was very helpful for me.
I am here for you, too, should you ever need to talk.

(in reply to HisTicia)

Post #: 15

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:25:47 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul

Ticia,

I went through that for a long time after a very bad string of things happened in my life, that I had no control over. One thing I learned from all of it ( after the fact of course ) is that when I had the feeling of waiting for the BAM to happen I was, not so much knowingly, almost sabotaging the situation to get to where there was a BAM and there didnt need to be.

Please be very careful with that, it ties in so much with the feelings of not deserving good things to happen in your life and to you.

*gives you a great big hug* no matter what things are in your past please know that everyone deserves good in their lives.

Now I could probably be way off the bat here but from my own experiences with this the reason I "felt" like I didnt deserve good things was because in a way I was locked into a self punishing mode because of things I had gone through. If this is the same for you just know that it doesnt have to be that way and you are finding the good things again, allow that to flow freely, because the other side of the coin is staying in that bad mode and thats no fun....

I think I may be the queen of sabotage.. really. I find myself sometimes saying things to Sir..things I don't want to say.. in a way I don't want to say them. In a way.. maybe I am trying to mess it up.. not because I want to..but because if I do it..then He won't have to leave me later. That scares me that I would even do that..with someone that I love so much. I guess because I have tried to be happy..and tried for things to work..and then I just end up hurt so much later.. I am trying to hurt myself..before they hurt me. This probably does stem from the abuse..emotional..and other in my past. How I have given my heart before.. to only find it crushed on the floor a short time later.

You are also right..that I feel I deserve to be hurt.. to not be happy.. why should I get it? Why should I have that finally? There is no reason.. I haven't done some great thing... or been some saint in this life.. why would I finally have anything I wanted?

Thanks for the hug.. I am trying to pick myself up today.. and talk to myself about not screwing it all up...
~Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to Reflectivesoul)

Post #: 16

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:30:12 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Misstoyou

quote:

ORIGINAL: HisTicia

Okay.. I know this will sound very strange..but things are going too good. I mean.. everything seems to be falling into place for me to be with my Sir. There were many obstacles to this move...it's a few states away...an ex.. money..time..packing.. and so many more things. Yet, time after time...hurdle after hurdle..it is all coming to pass.

Syncronicity! Sometimes the universe *does* come together. We just have to be alert to those times, be grateful, and take advantage.

I wonder that also.. in some strange way. Could it be that "simple" could the stars and circumstances have finally just aligned just right for me to have these things..and for us to find each other? It's very possible.. and am trying to just get that in my mind.. how likely were He and I to actually find each other..and things to go as they have.. Not very.. so maybe it is that in a nutshell.

If I could just keep my silly brain out of it.. it would help...
Thanks ~Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to Misstoyou)

Post #: 17

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:33:59 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie

Manifestation is a powerful force, if you *believe* things will go badly and that they 'always' do...this will manifest itself.

The good news is, positive manifestation works just as well. The mind is an extremely powerful thing.

Best luck on your path

That is true.. I do try to think positive..then I wonder if I am trying to think too positive..therefore missing something I would otherwise catch..then worry I am doing that out of fear... merry-go-round again... I hate those and have faced that damn ride enough to last me a lifetime.

Think positive...think positive...etc.... got it..

Thank you, Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to timeoutgurlie)

Post #: 18

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 8:43:06 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Petal just be careful. All too often when people have low self esteam they can so easily convince themself they don't 'deserve' whatever good thing is happening and that leads them to sabotage it... thereby 'prooving' they weren't worth it.

Of course it proves nothing of the kind, because if they could have simply believed in themselves just a little then they would have the good thing they where getting into.

Hang in there, focus on the enjoying the ride and don't give in to negative thoughts. Rember, HE sees you as worth it, even during the times where you loose sight of that for yourself!

I found myself asking Him time and time over the last couple of days.. if He was sure me coming was a good idea with all going on..and time after time He said yes..things are working out for us..and falling into place. That is when I started to panic the most...yeah.. they are..but why? hmmmm

I don't think I deserve Him..that is probably part of it..He loves me..gives me attention..wants to spoil me..do things with me... I am just not use to that from men. All they have ever wanted is to use me..whether as a stand-by.. or for sex. Having Him actually know me..and things about me..and enjoy them.. is just so strange for me.

I keep asking though..still... are You sure..are You sure?? Yet, each time He says He very much is. If He actually said "no" it would crush me.. so why I open myself up to Him saying that I have no idea.

I will try to keep good thought's about it though.. about Him..and trust Him..knowing that He really would never hurt me..never. It's not been ever I could say that about any man....so that is a big step.

Thank you for your kind words, Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to RavenMuse)

Post #: 19

RE: Things just seem too good.... - 6/18/2006 9:12:30 AM

HisTicia

Posts: 203
Joined: 5/31/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

Hello Ticia

You are a natural beauty - shines through your posts. It can be difficult when you feel like this - when things are going wonderfully you wonder when the storm will begin. But even the storm can be positive at times.

I won't suggset to not worry - because that won't assist you. You could try and pour your negative emotions into something positive like chanting or meditation (I know you have some interest in buddhism etc) - meditation can be very empowering and can assit you find your centre - and its wonderful to assit with panic attacks.

If you need any information or relaxation techniques/music - you know you can contact me whenever.
Thinking of you as always

Peace and Rapture

Thank you.. you are very kind to me.. even on the other side with your help on my other issue.

Yes.. He is Buddhist..and is trying to teach me things from it in order to help me cope. I have noticed in some ways it has helped..but it's something so new to me..that I am sure that will take a lot of time. I am very careful though in what I learn..because it is not my faith..and I don't want to let it take over as what I totally believe..and I find that can happen very easily. Most things though..do seem to help.. the way of thought..the meditating..(which I have done as a Christian also)..but I haven't even been able to stay still long enough to make that worth while to me at this point.

I am going to try and do that this week..when I am alone (which seems like never)....I need to find that part of me again... If not.. I know I will probably have a meltdown by the end of the week...I think that I can though.. I just keep telling myself..it's way better to be trying to get thru something wonderful...than one of the horrid things I have been thru before.

Thanks again for your thoughtfulness, Ticia

_____________________________

All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours. ~Browning

Believe nothing just because someone else believes it. Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true. ~Buddha

(in reply to darkinshadows)

Post #: 20

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Things just seem too good....

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.109