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What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 6:43:47 AM

chains314

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I think when some one seas thy or a 24/7 sub/ slave or Dominate thy or saying that it is how thy live life one can be 24/7 in line or in person or a live in ,.I think its how one thinks and acts I am a sub/slave all the time weather i am with a Mistress or not

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 8:13:40 AM

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I'm not sure I agree, mainly because I'm not exactly sure what it is you said. However, what I will say is that there is a dichotomy that exists within the 24/7 world. There's the fantasy of it, and there's the reality. Quite often, people are seeking the fantasy and are given the reality. In the fantasy, you live 24/7. You are a slave at all times. You live your whole life for her. Sounds great. It might work if the two of you lived on an island without outside distractions. Even then it might be difficult.

The reality 24/7 is a bit different. It almost has the same definition but a different understanding of what that definition means. Let me put it this way: As a slave, you live every day for the woman you have given the power. Your needs are hers, and you do whatever you can to make sure that her life is better for it. What it doesn't mean is that you live in stereotypical slavery 24/7 with the whips, the chains, the cage and all of that other great fantasy stuff. She dresses as she desires, and if she wants to dress hot to turn you on, that's pretty much her choice. Her part in the relationship is control and ownership. You exist for her, but (and here's where most people miss it) she also exists for you. She may be in charge, but without her, there'd be no reason for you to be a slave in the first place. Where a lot of these relationships go wrong (aside from the usual suspects that can be blamed on the submissive side) is the dominant expects servitude and stops reinforcing it. In my experience, and I have extensive observable and livable experience on this, this is where it falls apart. 24/7 means that the two are part of each other. Often, in the situations that fail due to the dominant (many fail for the submissive, but we hear about those every day, so there's no need to keep going into those), it's due to unrealistic expectations, meaning that the dominant just assumed that because she's in charge that she no longer has to do much interaction with her slave. I've seen submissives finally just give up and leave because of this, and almost always the dominant is shocked because even though the warning signs were there, both in actions and words, the expectation was that leaving would never happen.

24/7 is work. On both sides. Where they fail is in both false expectations of the parameters of the relationship and in false expectations of what it takes to make it work.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 8:39:19 AM

chains314

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Well that is a raft of information and it is good to know but some time we put way to much into a simple thing ..I know that living 24/7 as a live in is best but one cant say because to people or not to togather all the time the power exchange changes. That war trust and respect play a big part and thy or the foundation to the haul life style

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 8:54:02 AM

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Here is how I see it:

24/7 means, of course, twenty-for hours a day/seven days a week. To say you ‘live a D/s lifestyle’ 24/7 means that …however you define it; you live it that way all the time!

IMO this is the ‘exact opposite’ of the bedroom submissive and pleasure top thingy…and is yet another attempt to discern the differences in kinds of commitments different people have. WHY attach judgement to it? How else do we communicate?

ALL relationships are interdependent, ALL relationships have value, ALL relationships are different… HOW one lives a 24/7 relationship is not what 24/7 is about…but rather that they live it all the time; not just on weekends, not just when the kids are gone, not just at parties, not just when it’s fun.

MOO YMMV

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 11:44:01 AM

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24/7, to me, simply means that there is never a time when I am -not- his. That at any moment of the day, no matter what I'm doing, I am -his- girl. If he felt the need, he could take me away from anything I was doing at any given moment, to do something else. That even if you can't see it, there is never a moment when I -don't- belong to him utterly.

It makes no comment on the way we act, or what we do. It's simply who I am, who he is, and who I am to him. It isn't how I behave with others, or whether I'm always "submisive." It encompases our relationship and who and I what I -am-, no matter how others see me.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 2:22:39 PM

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24/7 to me means that at all time I am a slave to my owner. This means there is no on/off switch. I can perfectly function at work and be around freinds and family but at all time my brain is working in some level of slave mode.

It is about not needing to be dressed a certain way, to have markings or a collar around my neck. It is about discipline, rules and rituals that helps keep me mind in the proper mind frame so when I am actively in regular world mode, my mind still has the ability to focus and remind me of what I am.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 3:31:54 PM

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24/7 means it is an always identity.

Much like I am a 24/7 wife to my husband, I am also a 24/7 owner to my slave.

For me there is also the added foundation of the relationship. I start off a 24/7 Ms/Ds relationship with the hierarchical dynamic at its core. The relationship is Ds because it was created to be Ds.

I think too many people think that 24/7 Ms/Ds is something very different from a vanilla relationship or marriage but in reality the differences are matter of authority and just an understanding of who has what authority.

The vast majority of time it has to be pretty mundane cause life is pretty mundane. It can have these periods of greater intensity but I think any situation that is also high on the intensity scale risks burning out. Better in my opinion to have the foundation and maintain the foundation while you encourage each other and work together.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 3:43:19 PM

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Fastlane told me this and I'll pass it on, when I asked him for a 24/7 relationship. For 24 hours each day...be good...very, very good.
However, come the weekend....For 7 hours a day...be bad...very, very bad!
Thus, you will have your 24/7
Damn, I love weekends!
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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 7:22:27 PM

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Dear chains314, Ladies and Gentlemen;

What does 24/7 actually mean to me.

What it means to me that "I am." Just like once a father, no matter how young or old the child is--you're a father. To me, I am who and what I am around the clock, year to year. I choose this lifestyle as a preferred way of life but, I don't stop living because of it; which means I go to work, I eat, I sit on my throne and look regal, I sleep and do what others do. However, I also am dominant when I do these things, regardless if I have a slave/submissive or not. Like a father, I am a dominant and exists because it is a fact.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 6/18/2006 8:27:49 PM

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For myself, 24/7 is a live in relationship where he relinquishes control of his choices and authority to me on a full time basis. This can mean very little control on my part (if we think alike, and he behaves in a way that I deem gentlemanly/respectful) or a lot of control if he needs a lot of training to learn how to be around me in a way that suits me as far as courtesy and respect go.
For myself, unless/until we are living together under my 24hour rule, than it isn't 24/7 or TPE. Unfortunately a multitude of folks believe that 24/7 means one is tied up, beaten, in chains, etc 24/7. I don't know about you, but with life to be lived, family to be tended to and bills to be paid, 24/7 cannot be about play. M

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 6:58:12 AM

chains314

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Well sed every one is right

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 7:19:03 AM

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well since you want to know what it means to me I won't read responses before I post...so if I duplicate that's why.

24/7 means living a life time together. It means being kinky, being vanilla, being happy, being sad. It means being a family and a couple. It means bedroom time and dinner with friends time. It means learning my wants and needs day in and day out and not every day is "playday".

It means learning his wants and needs day in and day out. It means paying bills, going shopping and snuggle time with popcorn and a movie in the living room. It means laughing and crying and sharing and knowing...knowing completely, fully, totally. It means good days and bad, holidays and weekends. It means working and playing. It means loving, appreciating and growing. It means sharing private jokes and disagreements.

24/7 means down times and hectic times, it means letting go and thriving on change. It means surprise and shock, it means life, love, committment and bliss. To have that one person who just does it for you day in and day out is the most beautiful art imaginable. I've had it...I've been there....If I lived my life a thousand times over I'd do it again, just as before and one day I will welcome 24/7 again with another.

It is, in its very own right 24/7 is Perfection in imperfection and I love it.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 7:37:43 AM

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(deleted because I realized I all ready replied in this thread)

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 7/29/2007 7:45:54 AM >

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 7:40:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

24/7, to me, simply means that there is never a time when I am -not- his. That at any moment of the day, no matter what I'm doing, I am -his- girl. If he felt the need, he could take me away from anything I was doing at any given moment, to do something else. That even if you can't see it, there is never a moment when I -don't- belong to him utterly.

It makes no comment on the way we act, or what we do. It's simply who I am, who he is, and who I am to him. It isn't how I behave with others, or whether I'm always "submisive." It encompases our relationship and who and I what I -am-, no matter how others see me.

Now that I did my own unbiased reply...I read yours and it is very good. There is never a time during any of those things I mention in my post where he isn't as you say -mine- and never is there a time when he isn't submissive to me...even if you can't cast your eyes upon us and see it...It just is, it is there and doesn't go away. Together or apart. It just is.

Excellent addition!

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 2:15:12 PM

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For Me, 24/7 isn't as much about physical location as it is a state of mind. In My submissive's mind, I am always his Mistress, even if We are not physically together. There is always a part of Me that is with him, just as he always has the reassurance of knowing that there is a part of him with Me.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 4:02:08 PM

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there's a bracelet on my wrist that reminds me i always belong to Sir. always. just because we dont share living space doesnt mean i dont belong to him....it means that i have to try harder to please him with my actions when he isnt here to supervise.

kitten

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 4:05:20 PM

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To me it means that someone wants to freeload and wants free pussy.

Diane

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 4:06:49 PM

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To be with a Mistress 24/7 means exactly that, living in the same location. To belong to a Mistress24/7 doesn`t need a specific location, it just needs a meeting of the minds. To know that 5 miles away or 5,000 miles away i am still Hers.

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RE: What douse 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 8:09:20 PM

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Wow. I always saw 24/7 as meaning living together, but the replies here make so much more sense. Thanks for opening up my mind!

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RE: What does 24/7 Acutely mean to You - 7/29/2007 8:11:04 PM

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douse=does???

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