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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:41:31 PM

RedMagic1

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Red, you must leg hump half the fucking women here.

Eh. Other people on the boards have met more. Also, not every face-to-face meet has led to leg humping.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:42:02 PM

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In response to all... what if she is a 300 lb 6 foot lady and you are into 5 foot skinny midgets? To me it's really tough to take the time to get to know someone and meet them prior to seeing at least 2 pictures .

So you meet her in person and if you don't like her, so what? You finish your coffee, shake her hand and just tell her you don't think you're compatible but it was nice meeting her. No big deal.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:42:05 PM

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I find it odd to refuse giving a picture and I'm not sure I'd meet someone that couldn't show a g rated picture of themselves. Seems like they are hiding something. In your case, it might be a guy. Who knows.

Depends though, if I were really interested I'd do coffee anyway, why not? It's just coffee and it might work out to my advantage. If I got to the coffee and he was not something I'd be interested in, I'd just say goodbye and leave- not too much invested, and at least I'd know the answer to whether or not I'd be interested.

I find pictures to be misleading at times anyway. So even though the initial refusal to give me one sets off me wondering what was up, there is not guarantee that the picture is representative of that person in the end. We're always kind of taking a chance with any meet and greet.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:44:33 PM

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Frankly, I think it's weirder that you need the body pic more than the face pic.

For goodness sake, if you're into petite and she's 300 pounds, you think she doesn't already know this isn't match?

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:47:11 PM

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Here's my thing. When I talk to people online, it's not to find a date, even when I was single. I simply talked to people and if I met them it was just to meet them...not to meet them and see if we had anything compatible.

Don't put so much stock in a person until you meet them. Chat with them online like you would anyone at all. When you talk to people in line when you are at the grocery store, do you talk to them just because you hope to get a date out of them? Or just to waste time until it's your turn to check out? Do you only talk to the cute girls in line? Or anyone who happens to strike up a conversation with you?

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 3:52:49 PM

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I could care less if we are compatible... all i wanted to know is if you think it's weird to never see a picture prior to meeting someone?

C

Case in point: A male friend was fired from his job in the aerospace industry because someone sent his picture and a print out of his profile to his employer. It took him almost two years to get another job....and that was when the job market was good.

So, no, it's not entirely weird to refuse to show a photo.

Talk on the phone, set up a meet for coffee and if you don't like her, be polite, shake her hand and go home.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 4:05:33 PM

ccc3333

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Noted!

So noted.

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I could care less if we are compatible... all i wanted to know is if you think it's weird to never see a picture prior to meeting someone?

C

Case in point: A male friend was fired from his job in the aerospace industry because someone sent his picture and a print out of his profile to his employer. It took him almost two years to get another job....and that was when the job market was good.

So, no, it's not entirely weird to refuse to show a photo.

Talk on the phone, set up a meet for coffee and if you don't like her, be polite, shake her hand and go home.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 4:13:28 PM

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Prior to meeting... she says she never ever gives out her picture ever prior to meeting.... for "identity reasons" this sounds like a conartist.

It doesn't to me. You are entitled to your desires, process and needs. But they are not mine.

I don't bond with boobs. I bond with people. I also don't leap into relationships because my primary relationship is the most important thing in the world to me by far. So for me, by the time I want to meet with someone I've already decided I like them as a human being. I think they are honest and honorable. why would I assume they are lying about their physical characteristics? And if they are, so what? It's good for me to know that right now, eh?

Just to point out how far this goes people all the time are surprised by the fact that I have never even looked at their photos. Some times people that I have considered friends for multiple years I still haven't looked. Why would I? I don't need to know what someone looks like to like them. I've been chatting in private with a young domme here and she has a SMOKING HOT avatar picture (that is really her I'd bet a bajillion dollars). And note my confidence that despite how smoking hot that photo is that I know it's real. I'd be utterly stunned if I found out that weren't true. The reason I know that is that I've already sized her up as a human first. Had I not, I wouldn't be wasting my time with her.

Anyway, we've been chatting back and forth about her profile. So I've gone into it several times to review it in-depth. She just made an assumption that I, of course, knew what some of her kinks were. I don't. It wasn't listed in the text I was reading or else I was not interested in the list o' kink so it's not even in my brain. I never looked at her "likes" section. Nor do I even have a clue if she's got a profile photo shown. I know there's that photo I see when I open up the cmail. That's it.

That's what I mean when I say I bond with people not boobs. My interaction with her or anyone else is about the human I'm interacting with. The body doesn't even get into the picture until much, much later and my standards there aren't complex... something roughly HWP works. If she'd lie about such a basic and simple thing then I need to review my own spidey sense because it failed me.

So no, it wouldn't phase me one bit if a woman didn't want to send a pic. Matter of fact, the only reason I could even think to ask for one would be to help identify her when we met and that's not a very strong reason. I most likely would not have even thought to ask for one.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 5:42:31 PM

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Frankly, I think it's weirder that you need the body pic more than the face pic.

For goodness sake, if you're into petite and she's 300 pounds, you think she doesn't already know this isn't match?

It's naive to think that people pay any attention to what others say they want in their partner. There are plenty of examples of both genders lying about weight, age, height, penis size, etc. Yes, they should know that they are not a match, and yet this doesn't seem to deter people from doing it all the time. I guess they think magic is going to happen and that their sparkling personality will win the day for them.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 5:53:32 PM

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I could care less if we are compatible... all i wanted to know is if you think it's weird to never see a picture prior to meeting someone?

C

I don't for people on here. Mostly because I don't want kink & professional lives to cross. I will say will be at starbucks 12 & 15 promptly at 230 wearing cream sweater, tan shorts & a doberman. Will leave if you don't show by 3

Bullying for cam, pic, yahoo chat "or else" pretty much save me time & effort NEXT! Leaving it open allows them to pass or me to leave (the newbie sub ALWAYS seems to be the one walking back & forth from car talking to themselves)
Without a bunch of drama, blackmail threats, desperate horny phone calls at 3am.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 5:55:16 PM

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I send a picture to men I trust who ask, usually if I plan to meet them. I say "no" to offered pictures of them. I dislike photos; they tell me less than nothing about the man. If he interests me, I want to meet him in person without seeing a photograph.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:02:47 PM

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In response to all... what if she is a 300 lb 6 foot lady and you are into 5 foot skinny midgets? To me it's really tough to take the time to get to know someone and meet them prior to seeing at least 2 pictures .

Then it makes it YOUR issue for not clarifying your preference (seriously you can list what you like up your butt on this site)...why wouldn't you say looking for little person, shorter, bustier, gargoyle faced...you get my drift.
Smart subs won't fall for the "show me you're worthy" scam...that usually end up being pic collectors on other sites. Me personally I saw a private couple picture (with long ago ex) used to advertise a porn site...after mortified was PISSED!!! Didn't take a lawyer letter to get pic down. Was more the principle that I knew who the pic was than actual "outing" of anything but a birthmark.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:07:43 PM

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Have you thought about just asking why she isn't comfortable sending a picture without being pushy about it? It seems to me that if I was asked something and I declined, I would expect the issue to be dropped. If I was asked again I would perceive that as pushy.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:17:28 PM

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In response to all... what if she is a 300 lb 6 foot lady and you are into 5 foot skinny midgets? To me it's really tough to take the time to get to know someone and meet them prior to seeing at least 2 pictures .

Then don't take the time to get to know someone who won't show you a picture.

Easy schmeasy.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:26:15 PM

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I agree with what everyone else here has shared. Many don't post pictures for work or other legitimate reasons. If you meet up for coffee and the situation does not fit you, be polite, leave and e-mail that "Thanks for meeting me for coffee and while I enjoyed meeting you, I'm looking for someone I feel a little more compatible with. I wish you the best in your search"
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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:28:35 PM

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Prior to meeting... she says she never ever gives out her picture ever prior to meeting.... for "identity reasons"

yeah, and i have met guys only to find out the pic they showed me was nothing like they actually look today, some are 20 years older now, one guy (after I commented to him that he didnt look like his pic) confessed that he used his cousins pic "cuz they look so much alike" (major eye roll)..

so really, even if she had sent you a pic, no guarantee that is really her pic.. I sorta wish the guys simply told me they wouldnt send a pic, cuz I would have saved a lot of my time and not met them in the first place.. I mean really, they think I would date them after they deceived me like that???

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:43:01 PM

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If they dont want to send you a picture and thats a deal breaker for you, move along. You have no guarantee whatsoever that the picture you are sent is going to be the actual person as it is anyway. You also should keep in mind that people have to protect their careers because what is done online has ended up haunting either the job seekers or those fortunate enough to have jobs in an economy that has literally hundreds of people waiting to take the place of an employee who got caught up in some online fiasco.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 6:55:02 PM

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I am cautious with pictures for a variety of reasons, but I am asked for them with some regularity and always politely refuse and state that I am not offended if they don't want to pursue talking to me without seeing my picture. I figure that if it's that important to them this early in the game, that tells me all I need to know and I don't mind if they move on. Faces age and change with time, so I'd rather someone want to talk to me for who I am (and no, this is not at all at odds with me posting the pics I have and being a woman who enjoys her sensuality).

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 7:00:19 PM

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It could even be a pic, of just the body ya know? "...

I mean, it's not like her personality alone would interest you so much that you'd meet her, right?

Let me guess, you offered her a photo of your cock in return, so she could see if you were compatible with her.

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RE: She says she will not under any circumstances show ... - 12/30/2012 7:07:22 PM

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I see nothing wrong in asking for a photo and sending one. I am not in the military or politics, so I am not worried about having a face shot online.

I don't think it means you are shallow; we are all entitled to see if there MIGHT be chemistry, which can only be determined in person.

Of course looks are not everything, but it is not so horrible to expect to see who you are talking to prior to meeting.

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