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WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:06:40 AM   
IronBear


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Why do some Dominants post in their requirements for a sub or a slave that said sub or slave must be bisexual?????






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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:12:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Because they want to watch them do the deed with someone of the same sex? I am guessing here..smiles.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:12:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Because submissives aren't the only ones who  are in this for fantasy fulfillment. Most males get off on the fantasy of having two women and watching the two women have each other. I don't think it's any more complex than that.

There seems to be a common misconception that bisexuals are horn dogs who simply must have one of each gender at all times in order to feel fulfilled. Anyone who is bisexual can tell you that's BS but the misconception flourishes regardless. For me, there are certain character/personality traits I like.  It doesn't matter to me if those traits are present in a male or female. It just so happens that it's harder to find those traits in females but when I do find them they're every bit as attractive as when they are possessed by a male.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:13:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have always wondered the same thing, great question....Can't wait to see the answers.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:21:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me...it seems a preference just like any other.  No different than a Dominant specifying that His mate must be a masochist?   Personally.....i'm hoping that my eventual  Mate has a similar preference. 

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:27:59 AM   
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I stipulate it for two reasons.

  1. If the slave is a male, it makes it easier for me to "handle" him, work him over with neets and I may just want to play with him myself when I have nothing else to do.
  2. If the slave is a female and especially if she is a very experienced bisexual lass, I want her as Neets is bi curious and if she decides she likes it that I have someone ready to play as well as helping Neets explore her sexuality....As for threesome with two women, for the 13 years of my second marriage when I was home I slept between , under or on top of my wife and ger bi, subby girlfriend.. Like all good things it stops being a thrill after a while.... One advantage was the neither of them had theor periods at the same time and.. When I was away it meant that Marie had a playmate.. We never had serious problems due to the additional female and the minor ones either sorted thgemselves out pronto or I waded in and settled the matter with a good old fashion spanking or both naked butts....


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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:32:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a bisexual-leaning male submissive, I've found that many Dommes write me off because I identify as bisexual so I think it goes both ways (no pun intended). 

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:34:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		But that's the point I was trying to make, IB. Just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean I'm automatically going to be attracted to someone my dom/master chooses for me to play with. Sure, I can go through the motions if that's what pleases him but he can't make me be attracted to someone I'm not attracted to.  If we're all attracted to each other then great but it can't be assumed that I will be attracted to the other female simply because I'm bisexual.



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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:37:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

This thread was sparked by a few replies in the Sexual Orientation thread.

Why do some Dominants post in their requirements for a sub or a slave that said sub or slave must be bisexual?????



I don't think I say they "must" be but the fact is that I am the head of a household and I have responsibilities as the dominant to consider everyone's needs. My slave is bisexual (I'm scene bisexual) so a man or women who is bisexual will fit in much more easily into our household.

I honestly won't consider someone who would only please me at this point. The stability of the entire household if far more important and pleasing to me.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 8:40:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear
Why do some Dominants post in their requirements for a sub or a slave that said sub or slave must be bisexual?????

Cuz they want to have a fmf threesome, possibly even poly type relationship.

Sadly, most of them have no idea how to responsibly get what they want and are just going on some brainless fantasy.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 9:35:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I always find this very funny. Guys assume that if woman is bi, that women are secondary to her. But, the reality is that it's rarely a 50/50 thing. I happen to be geared more towards women than men. Very few penises interest me on a sexual level.

When I was single, I had a girlfriend. I was amazed that male Doms that I interviewed....almost all of them thought they automatically got access to her. Many got belligerent when I told them that they didn't.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 9:56:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Great topic IronBear and Happy Father's Day. I think for the obvious reason to start; that male fantasy of watching two women then having them both. The second reason i see is that i think most doms believe if the two women are bi they will have an attraction and hopefully affection for each other thereby producing a quieter household. Whether or not this truly works for everyone is in question.

I have always been bi, my primary interest sexually has always been the dominant male but women are so beautiful and seductive in so many ways how could i resist. Plus they are incredibly fun to make squirm and squeal; at least that is how i always viewed them.

Now my situation is slightly different, i came here to be Scooter's slave knowing he had a domme wife, both were aware my interests did not lean in that direction; i always played with other sub females before. We agreed we would just see how things went between she and i.

Seductive, yeah gods! Beautiful beyond a doubt, how could i resist my Mistress Jewel. Lol, only i am the one squirming and squealing now. I like it!



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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 10:11:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't go out of my way to seek a bi- sub, but I have no porblem if she is bi. 

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 10:14:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		The first reason I have noticed is that they want to see two women having sex.. or a FMF. The second reason I have found is they think you are automatically open to a poly relationship and will happily lick anything that is brought before you into the house.
 
This main reason I took bisexual off of my last profile was the jerk-off reaction that was brought into almost every single conversation.  I am bisexual..and being so..does not make me totally turned on to any woman I meet at any time of the day..any more than being straight makes you want to do any guy or girl that crosses your path.  There has to be an attraction factor there..something that sparks your interest. 
 
I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember.. I don't do it as a turn-on factor for men... nor as a curiosity.. nor do I explain my moments with women as a symptom of being a little tipsy that night.  I have what I find attractive..and that is usually found between the ears (ok.. a nice ass doesn't hurt).
 
I know that this was a concern of my Sir's..not because He wanted me to be with another woman for His pleasure..but because He didn't want me to be missing out on the emotional..mental connection that I would get with a woman.  I have assured Him though..that it's not the organ.. nor the sex..it's the person I am in love with and want to be with... and He fulfills all of that to me.. He is the whole package.and if He were female..I would say the same thing.
 
My sexuality.. to me.. is not a factor..and I prefer it isn't to anyone I am with.  I love who I love.. I have sex with the person I want to.. be they man or woman.  I don't feel the need to go thru this life.. trying to turn myself into the playmate movie of the week..with Holly and Heidi... I just love whom I love. Nothing more..nothing less.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 10:26:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I guess i kind of see it like this:  If the Dominant is male......is seeking a female to add to the mix of things.  It's like.......why do men breathe?  *chucklez*
I have never met a man who has not thought of the fantasy....a few who have lived the fantasy....and a few who think about it, but would never do it.   I just think it's part of life.

Happy Sunday...

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 10:31:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think lucky albatross hit the nail on the head for the most deeply-seated thought... men want multiple pussy and if a gal is bi they think that opens the door and gives them the 'in' they need for multiple females.  why settle for one if you can get more!  keep her happy and she'll keep him happy with sluts a'poppin.  i'm not bi and it does rather make the doms that are looking for pussy-to-their-ears run off and i guess i'm happy about that as i won't find out later that they are running around behind my back.  i am of course, referring to the doms that are more in the swinging variety, i've met many doms that are past that type of life or just want one significant female to be theirs.  i seek the latter *s*

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 10:42:43 AM   
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I specify because I seek to form a Poly family & I enjoy watching two or more women together!!!


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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 11:04:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm reminded of something a straight Cornish mate of mine once said when my second wife and I were swinging with him and his wife.. "I know somewhere out there in the whole world, there ia a male who can turn me of and really want to have sex with him. I just pray God that I never meet him!"  I'm strictly limited bisexual but before i sorted this out I was very bi curious. Once I discovered then never again was any male going to have his tallywagger in or near my mouth or arse without having it and the accompanies marbles lopped off and fed to him.. I found that at times I could enjoy playing with another male, and all thet entales. Especially in a MFM threesome. (I always like to have as many options as possible in all areas of life). If I could find and collar a boy and a girl who were both bisexual, I am creating more options for sexual gratification for everyone in the home. I can certainly attest that watching two girls together is not just a fantasy, it is watching something beautiful.... For me in any case, watching a guy screwing a girl is like watching a bull service a cow. it is usually anamilistic without any sence of gentleness and caring. (This is a generalisation and not stating that this the case all the time but is based on the fact that many guys are brought up to believe [thanks to the Male Intelligence Division] that all a female wants to keep her happy is a huge erect oenis shoved into here rappidly and repeatedly [rather like bayonet practice] with no understanding of both communication and forplay to arouse her and to find out what she likes).

OK 'nuff said. I wont go on with Iron Bear's Manual of Seduction because I don't want to be responsible for incapicating too many by their wearing their fingers off masturbating or otyherwise getting  hot and bothered or having an army of people (guys and girls) wanting to do truely evil things to my body.........I do thank all those who have posted for your thoughts, comments and insights......


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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 1:03:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think I have that in my profile but I will have to go back and check.  However, I don't care one way or the other how they identify but I do have a love of playing 2 males in both sexual and non sexual situations.  Some men like that play for the humiliation aspects, obedience aspects, etc. but would never actively seek out another man on their own.

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RE: WhyDo Dominants seek bisexual sub.slaves? - 6/18/2006 1:10:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am the same, I enjoy male on male play both sexual and non. Its just easier to put what I am looking for right out there that way there are no suprises when a sub comes looking.

While I dont have it in my profile, as soon as I get the standard "what are you looking for " question I am upfront and honest about it. If they dont want to further the conversation then by all means, they dont have to.


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