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How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 2:01:58 AM

sparky77

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Hi I have only recently started getting into this and see myself as a bit of a Domme but I am not sure where to start and I want to be the best Domme that I can be, how can I learn and where can I get more info?

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 2:29:52 AM

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Um, if your profile is written correctly, you're male. So, are you:

1. A straight woman who filled out her profile wrong, or
2. A gay man who posted in the wrong forum and used "Domme" in place of "Dom"?

The course of action depends on your gender and orientation.

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 1:16:18 PM

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No I am a woman who see's herself as Dominant but doesn't know where to start.

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 1:26:26 PM

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Use the Search feature to find posts by ResidentSadist. He has a link in his signature line to a book list with some excellent reading material. Start there. You should also try to find a kink group in your local area (FetLife is excellent for this) and attend some demonstrations.

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 1:46:02 PM

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First, join FetLife.com. Second, use it to find your local, real life BDSM community. Join it. Go to events. Meet people who are also into WIITWD. Make friends. Find mentors. Go to munches, seminars and play parties. Have fun.

And one more thing. If anybody gives you advice and uses the words "real" and "true" as in "Real domme" or "true submissive", ignore him, he's full of it.

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/12/2013 10:10:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

First, join FetLife.com. Second, use it to find your local, real life BDSM community. Join it. Go to events. Meet people who are also into WIITWD. Make friends. Find mentors. Go to munches, seminars and play parties. Have fun.

And one more thing. If anybody gives you advice and uses the words "real" and "true" as in "Real domme" or "true submissive", ignore him, he's full of it.

However real male or true female in your profile are pretty darn important unless TG solves the male Domme mystery

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/13/2013 3:50:33 AM

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Practise, practise, practise and learn from what doesn't work.

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/13/2013 6:14:07 PM

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Some people say the best way to learn to is sub for a domme/mistress. Talk to dommes about mentoring you. But the important part is experience. Find something such as a workshop, play party, etc where you can observe participate and learn. You may have to travel a bit if you live somewhere with a small or non existent fetish community.

And Yes fetlife.com is a great place to start

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RE: How can I learn to be a domme? - 1/15/2013 1:39:44 AM

sparky77

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Hi thanks all for your comments, it is all helpful to me.

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