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Begging for forgivenes - 1/14/2013 9:37:47 AM

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I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/14/2013 10:23:05 AM

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It depends.

What does your Mistress want?

Does she want to know that you understand how/why you were wrong? In that case you need to make it clear that you "get it", that you would never do "it" again, and you really get why she is upset.

Does she just like to see you beg, so she puts you deliberately into a catch-22 where no matter what you'll screw up? Then just beg.

Does she need to be fawned over, and told how she's the most wonderful thing since sliced bread and you're just a lowly whatever, and don't deserve her yada yada.

Does she just need the truth? You screwed up and you regret it big time and it won't happen.

In my world, it needs to come from the heart. If you don't mean it, I don't want to hear it. If you really need forgiveness, I could give a rats ass about protocol, what I want is sincerity.

It depends.. on her.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/14/2013 10:44:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71
I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

First off, here's a question that probably sounds really stupid, but I promise you it's not.

Did you really do something wrong?

The two of you might just be incompatible. Just because you don't fit well with her does not mean you made a mistake. Maybe you should look for a woman you click with better.

Assuming that, yes, the two of you are a good match, and you made a mistake that you now regret, I think any genuine apology has the following components.

1. I'm sorry for doing X thing. It was wrong, because of Y reason.
2. I should have done Z thing instead.
3. I recognize I hurt you, and I feel bad about it.
4. In the future, my plan is to do A, B, and C, so I don't do X thing to you again.
5. Please forgive me.

Flowers, or other token of esteem, optional.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/14/2013 11:28:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71
I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

First off, here's a question that probably sounds really stupid, but I promise you it's not.

Did you really do something wrong?

The two of you might just be incompatible. Just because you don't fit well with her does not mean you made a mistake. Maybe you should look for a woman you click with better.

Assuming that, yes, the two of you are a good match, and you made a mistake that you now regret, I think any genuine apology has the following components.

1. I'm sorry for doing X thing. It was wrong, because of Y reason.
2. I should have done Z thing instead.
3. I recognize I hurt you, and I feel bad about it.
4. In the future, my plan is to do A, B, and C, so I don't do X thing to you again.
5. Please forgive me.

Flowers, or other token of esteem, optional.

Agreed. I also want to add, from some of My own experiences with offending subs (and vanilla males):

Did you do something that She told you She found offensive yet you continued to do it? Even in a vanilla relationship an apology would be in order. DO make it SINCERE. If She has given you warning after warning, after warning, and you continued the offensive behavior to the point that She finally BLOCKED or otherwise ceased communications with you, then good luck with that.

Do your personalities clash and She simply finds you not to Her tastes? If this is the case, you need to accept the fact that She's just not into you, and no amount of "negotiation" is going to fix that. MOVE ON.

If you are attaching a Promise to your apology, then FOLLOW IT THROUGH...and a nice gesture is to also attach a distasteful Penalty for yourself if you fail to follow through. I personally enjoy those types of apologies.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/14/2013 1:50:07 PM

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I personally get further annoyed by those who need forgiveness suggesting punishments for themselves... Especially when the suggestion is in reality a "funishment". That's just taking the piss. I'm not keen on mindless groveling either, if it is not accompanied by real awareness and change!

But go ahead and -ask her-, because like you yourself said, opinions vary from Mistress to Mistress, and then really listen to what she wants.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/15/2013 2:47:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71

I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

No. It depends on the Mistress.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/15/2013 5:39:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71

I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

Precipitously, abruptly and...continuously.

(And....no).

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/22/2013 3:45:19 AM

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Sincerely and continuously, but not too continuous cause that shit gets annoying

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 1/24/2013 4:10:19 AM

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I hate begging ... I mostly find it annoying. That being said, We are all different what works for one Domme probably won't work for another.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/3/2013 4:47:46 PM

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I agree with Kaiel.......... a Domme should make their sub/slave accountable for your actions. Maybe she will, and she's just regrouping right now...humm

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/3/2013 5:11:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71

I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

The "proper way to beg" depends on your Mistress and what she wants. Me? I think begging is annoying when it's not sincere. Even when it's sincere, I actually prefer that we talk like the two adults that we are. Apology/asking for forgiveness is one thing but if begging gets too dramatic and "over the top," then that's just annoying.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/3/2013 10:29:55 PM

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I've always been more interested in the why, over the "sorry."

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/3/2013 11:16:55 PM

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I'm surprised no one else has said this but, I know your avatar pic is taken at an angle, but your dick is exposed in your picture. Using sexually explicit pictures is against the ToS of this site. You really should change that avatar pic.

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ETA: That's okay, I already reported the photo for you.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/4/2013 6:06:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71

I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

No...seriously...truly dood....it's all about the Benjamins.

(Trust me on this).

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/4/2013 7:52:10 PM

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I hate begging ... I mostly find it annoying...

Me, too. YMMV, but begging is just too close to whining for me. ("Pleeeezzzeeee?!

)

I'll consider an apology.

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/4/2013 8:11:52 PM

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I'm surprised no one else has said this but, I know your avatar pic is taken at an angle,

I was going to say it is taken at a terrible angle. Like.... He had to work to get it that awful... Is that a fetish?

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/4/2013 10:03:04 PM

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I'm surprised no one else has said this but, I know your avatar pic is taken at an angle,

lol

I was going to say it is taken at a terrible angle. Like.... He had to work to get it that awful... Is that a fetish?

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RE: Begging for forgivenes - 2/5/2013 12:16:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: LegLover71

I realize there may be as many opinions on this as there are people here, but my question is this; what is the proper way to beg a Mistress for forgiveness, assuming She is open to it? Does it depend on the transgression?

No...seriously...truly dood....it's all about the Benjamins.

(Trust me on this).

You beat me to it Ron. Lol

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