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Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:12:53 PM

saucyangel

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Hello everyone, my first post here and I have a question. I just put up my profile and I got a response from a Dom - "I want to own you full-time". He left me his email address and said if I'm interested I should contact him. He has a well-written profile and looks distinguished and well-dressed in his picture.
Normally I would just chuckle and delete, but he's a francophone and his profile is written in French - the google translation follows. So I'm wondering if he can't write much in English and that's why he's so brief and direct. But I'd like to know, is it common for Doms to be this direct and to move this quickly, or is this WAY out of line? To me, to use a vanilla analogy, it would be like a man asking me to marry him on the first contact. Which is, of course, ludicrous.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:16:04 PM

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If he can't be bothered to get to know you on a person to person level before telling you he wants to own you full time then don't waste yours.
There are way too many ways to translate between language barriers and he could have asked you many other things aside from "i want to own you full time here's my email" so no...I don't think that's a proper excuse.

good luck finding one that doesn't have his head up his ass...they're out there, just gotta keep looking ;)

hth

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:16:35 PM

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You have two options, as I see it. Either change your main profile photo, or strap in for an email ride over the next few weeks.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:17:05 PM

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p.s.

nice tits <3

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:23:18 PM

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He's just another man wanking to his porn fantasies. Delete, move on.

ETA: Oh yeah, as RedMagic said, you may wanna change your photo. All that does is attract all the wankers. Post a normal photo. If you don't want your face showing, the either just show your body or blur out your face.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:26:55 PM

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If you aren't interested in sex first and foremost, don't lead with it. Chances are he didn't even read your profile, just looked at the two pictures, both of which are leading with your sexuality. Yea, you have great tits, but you are more than that, based on your profile. Many here want to keep this part of their lives out of their "public" lives. Sorry but leading with a tit shot and the other one talk only of your kinky, sexy side. Men see that and won't read your profile.

The guy is a wanker, and if I were you, I would tell him to fuck off. In French. And German, Italian, Japanese, Spanish....

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:28:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel
I just put up my profile and I got a response from a Dom - "I want to own you full-time". He left me his email address and said if I'm interested I should contact him. He has a well-written profile and looks distinguished and well-dressed in his picture.
Normally I would just chuckle and delete, but he's a francophone and his profile is written in French - the google translation follows. So I'm wondering if he can't write much in English and that's why he's so brief and direct. But I'd like to know, is it common for Doms to be this direct and to move this quickly, or is this WAY out of line? To me, to use a vanilla analogy, it would be like a man asking me to marry him on the first contact. Which is, of course, ludicrous.

You have your answer right there.

I would say that he's someone that doesn't have any experience with a real life D/s BDSM relationship.

And to answer your question: Some people are desperate or inexperienced enough to make statements like that. Just ignore them and move onto the next prospect.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 6:34:41 PM

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Google his well written profile and see who the idiot stole it from.

Seriously, if he thinks that slapping a collar on a complete stranger is a good idea, he's inexperienced like OsideGirl said AND also dumb as a brick. OR desperate.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 7:07:17 PM

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Thanks for the replies. I only know "fuck off" in Ukrainian. Thanks for the comliments on my tits but I will dhange the photos. I don't want to attract the wankers. My bad.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 8:54:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Seriously, if he thinks that slapping a collar on a complete stranger is a good idea, he's inexperienced like OsideGirl said AND also dumb as a brick. OR desperate.

Oh lord yes... except for the desperate part doesn't exclude the "dumb as a brick" part. Owning a woman sounds so good on paper...

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 8:57:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel

Thanks for the comliments on my tits but I will dhange the photos.

*Sobs*

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 9:14:44 PM

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quote:

*Sobs*

*hands DarkSteven a tissue*

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 9:35:27 PM

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I'd take him as a moron and move on.

Apparently I missed your other avatar pic but those are some cute shoes, chicky!

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 10:02:01 PM

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Thank you NuevaVida - I'm a self-confessed shoe whore. And I didn't even bother to reply to his message. I'm learning fast.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/14/2013 10:03:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel

I'm a self-confessed shoe whore.

I can relate!

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/15/2013 2:38:45 AM

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I really like getting those ones where no one has even bothered to look at my full profile. I don't answer. They always sound like something that has been cut and paste to multiple recipients

DK

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/15/2013 3:48:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel

Thanks for the replies. I only know "fuck off" in Ukrainian. Thanks for the comliments on my tits but I will dhange the photos. I don't want to attract the wankers. My bad.

It's been a while since highschool French, but I think you're looking for something along the lines of 'va te faire enculer'

It actually means 'go buttfuck yourself' but it's the closest I know.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/15/2013 4:47:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel

Thank you NuevaVida - I'm a self-confessed shoe whore. And I didn't even bother to reply to his message. I'm learning fast.

:) I have a dear friend with a teenage daughter who is also a shoe whore. The higher the heels the more she loves them. I do not think she ever stops looking at shoes. I can be talking to her and out of nowhere she will grab my are and say oh my god. I look around for something going on and see nothing. She will point to some woman say look at those shoes! LOL

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/15/2013 5:03:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucyangel

quote:

*Sobs*

*hands DarkSteven a tissue*

Thank you. You may not want tissues around here after they've been used. Just saying.

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RE: Dom too forward? - 1/15/2013 5:55:55 AM

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Oh my what a picture to have in my head this morning.

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