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For female submissives/slaves - are you this way because you have no fucking idea what you want?

True - I have no fucking idea what I want; tell me what I want

11% (5)

False

88% (38)

Total Votes : 43

(last vote on : 2/25/2013 11:20:28 AM)
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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 12:23:31 PM

TwoHeartsBeatOne

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@NuevaVida
You hit the nail on the head! Ignorance personified!

Although, if the OP had asked the question in a different way, I would think, okay, this person needs to do some reading about submissives because they're ignorant of the subject.

Because the question is written in such a hostile way, I suspect either the OP just felt like being confrontational for attention's sake, or worse, simply meant to offend.

OP - either way, it's time for you to do some homework. And, I don't mean just reading about the psychology of submissives or BDSM theory; rather; begin with communication skills and tact.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

This post is going to go against my general rule of keeping things positive, but that post you quoted was one of the stupidest things I've seen on Collarme in a very long time.

I knew and still know exactly what I want. As do the women in my life. And whining isn't something we partake in.

Ignorance at its finest.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 12:28:00 PM

DomMeinCT

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False.

I know about 95% of what I want, and the other 5% I CHOOSE to leave undecided, because you never know when you might be surprised/delighted by the unexpected.

Also, I have a big sign in my home that says "Thou shalt not whine", so you know where I fall on that as well.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 12:31:55 PM

MissToYouRedux

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I love the title of this poll. I wish it would be amended to add

"as opposed to male submissives/slaves who know exactly what they want and are anxious to explain it in excruciating detail".

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 1:16:03 PM

LaTigresse

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Though I haven't a submissive bone in my body when I read the title to this thread I thought to myself.....

I ALWAYS know what I want.........until I change my mind!

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 1:30:12 PM

Phoenixpower

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

I know exactly what I want.

indeed...hence why I'm happy to let the man believe he would be in charge

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 2:34:34 PM

Spiritedsub2

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

...I ALWAYS know what I want.........until I change my mind!

Yep. I can get behind this idea. Though I like to think of it as "flexible"

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 2:39:41 PM

NuevaVida

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TwoHeartsBeatOne

@NuevaVida
You hit the nail on the head! Ignorance personified!

Although, if the OP had asked the question in a different way, I would think, okay, this person needs to do some reading about submissives because they're ignorant of the subject.

Because the question is written in such a hostile way, I suspect either the OP just felt like being confrontational for attention's sake, or worse, simply meant to offend.

OP - either way, it's time for you to do some homework. And, I don't mean just reading about the psychology of submissives or BDSM theory; rather; begin with communication skills and tact.

It wasn't a nice thing for me to say. But to clarify, it wasn't the OP who asked the question in that way; it was the post that the OP linked to that prompted me to react like that.

In any case, now I'm singing "Tell me what you want what you really really want"

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 2:54:41 PM

poise

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
I am glad not to limit myself only to what my own imagination can craft.

I really can't imagine there being "a vast majority of men" out there that would have an interest in
"the vast majority of women" that have no clue what they want, and who whine all the time too!
But, I imagine the number of men out there that want a woman who knows exactly what she
wants but who isn't open to being swayed to be even less.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 3:03:35 PM

TwoHeartsBeatOne

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Oh, shoot, I didn't realize that was a link. I thought you were using a different color to highlight your own opinion.

My previous response was meant for the OP you linked with.

Please accept my apology. And, my thanks for the chance to respond to the message you are polling.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 3:04:37 PM

TwoHeartsBeatOne

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Thanks NuevaVida... I'm glad you pointed that out. My bad!

And, I love the song!

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― Anaïs Nin

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 4:20:32 PM

NuevaVida

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/21/2013 8:36:45 PM

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I just think it's hysterical that the person saying all these nasty things about women while pretending he's God's gift to us is single and searching. While a great many of us who do know what we want, despite being submissive are in long term happy relationships.

I've never wanted a man who puts me down. I doubt too many others do.

It takes a lot of energy for me to make decisions. And when I do, I try to satisfy everyone else at my own expense. He makes decisions easier than I do and his criteria includes my well being. So I come off better when he has the responsibility instead of me.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/22/2013 2:27:41 PM

LaTigresse

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I saw this and it immediately reminded me of this thread.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/22/2013 2:33:42 PM

PeonForHer

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The thread also reminded me of Johnny Rotten's immortal lyric in "Anarchy in the UK":

'Don't know what I want, but I know how to get it'.

However, Mr Rotten isn't either a female or a femsub.

I hope I've added something useful to this thread with this post.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/22/2013 2:35:06 PM

LaTigresse

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I definitely always know how to get what I want. Whether or not it's legal.......and do I want to take the chance if it isn't..... That's a whole different kettle of fish.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/22/2013 2:36:22 PM

PeonForHer

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I wonder if femdoms generally are much clearer about what they want in life than vanilla women? Hmmmm. I shall masticate on the matter.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/22/2013 2:52:55 PM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I wonder if femdoms generally are much clearer about what they want in life than vanilla women? Hmmmm. I shall masticate on the matter.

I don't know. My guess, it depends upon the individuals.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to PeonForHer)

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/24/2013 1:59:25 AM

Cupcake5133

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I'm difficult. I make choices all day. In my private life, my mood is mercurial. It's often been a release to hand off the reigns privately. I can be focused solely on someone else ,and get out of a mind mousetrap . I can be apathetic . I like someone else to decide.

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/24/2013 3:51:02 AM

needlesandpins

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i know what i want unless it comes to eating. i have had to make the choices for so many years because others wouldn't that even for myself it can be a chore. add my playmate into it and we can both um and ar about it 'til the cows come home (ooooo a saying for another thread there). however, he should be here over the weekend and i already have one meal sorted.....roast duck, result

as for the rest of my life. i've always known what i want i just don't have the money to do it. some things would depend on other people, and i can not responsible for what they are capable, or not, of giving me.

needles

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RE: For female submissives/slaves - are you this way be... - 1/24/2013 8:55:33 AM

graceadieu

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I'm "this way" because I know exactly what I want. I want to serve and submit. That's what gives me "warm fuzzies" and what turns me on.

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