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Proprietrix


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Sadists…
What do you do when you get that burning desire to go all primal and beat the ever loving shit out of someone, but you don’t have the compatible play partner to do so?
i.e.
I love to kick. I like to kick the bloody hell out of a sub until they are curled up in a ball on the floor crying, and then continue to kick ‘em while they’re down. I am perfectly content, and in a state of primal bliss doing this until my legs get tired, I get too hot and sweaty, or they safe-word.
My current on-again-off-again boy can’t stand being kicked. I have a play partner a few hours away who enjoys it, but we haven’t talked in a long, long time and I think it would be a bit rude to call him up and say "Hey, long time no see. I really have no desire to go to lunch and don’t care to catch up on old times, but I’d like to kick the hell out of someone. You game?"
I suppose I could kick the wall, but that would be almost as fulfilling as a horny man settling for a blow up doll. A punching bag just doesn’t cut it. This isn’t even a sex thing. Even someone sexually aroused could find a bit of satisfaction in at least masturbating. It’s not like I can masturbate the desire to kick out of my leg and foot.
I can’t go pick up one of the local yahoos at the bar and bring him/her home and kick them. There’s just a law suit waiting to happen.
I suppose this is really no different than any other thread about "How do I get my kink on without a partner?"
Just tailored to the specifics of Sadistic kink. How do you get that sadistic streak met when there’s no one to use it on? Any suggestions?

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 10:38:30 AM   
HisTicia


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Status: offline 		Although I am on the other side of the needing a good beating issue.. I totally know what you mean.  I have times..actually.. right now..and the other night also...plus a few before..where I just wanted the living shit beat out of me.  I wanted the bruising..maybe some swelling..redness..crying.. all of it.  The thing is..there wasn't any way to get it out of my system.  I didn't have a partner here.. or anywhere close.. so it's the most frustrating thing.  I don't consider it sexual..though I do think the release that comes with it has a sexual edge to it.
 
I have been trying to find ways to deal with it.. I mean.. beating yourself.. is about as effective as kicking the wall..does no good for me at all.  I used to actually do some self-mutilation (cutting) to get it all out also..but I am trying not to do that any more for the obvious reasons.
 
I guess I really didn't give you any advice or help..but it's nice to know that that someone else is going thru the same feelings sometimes..and I am not a total weirdo..some of one..but not total.
 
                          ~Ticia 

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 10:50:05 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Regular partners are wonderful for releasing 'real life' tensions and anxieties.  Heavy play is definitely one way to work through the day-to-day lumps and bumps, but as you currently don't have a steady partner, you do face a quandary.

Although I don't know of anyone who would be able to fulfill this for myself either, I do have a thought.  As a sadist, might it be healthy for you to deal with your excess stress by 'taking' a beating rather than giving one?  It doesn't have to be a permanent partner, and it doesn't necessarily have to mess with your 'typical' orientation.

As I said above, just a thought.

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 12:59:59 PM   
DesertRat


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Status: offline 		Well, this might be a poor substitute, but it's working for me. I've been channeling my energies into related activities. Investing in the future, as it were.

Specifically: Today, I went to a local saddle/tack maker, bought an eight-foot long latigo leather strap, gave him a couple sketches, and tomorrow I'll be taking delivery on two, 18", double-thickness 'humbler'-type straps. Wicked things they are. Then, I went to Home Depot, bought some oak dowels and a saw, went out into the garage and started work on 2 or 3 spreader bars of various lengths and diameters. I have them cut and sanded; just waiting for my drill to charge up so I can drill 'em and put in the eye bolts. I'll paint them tomorrow.

Like I said, it's not a real good substitute. In fact, it's not even close. It's working for me, though. At least I feel like I'm doing something related to my kink.

Bob

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 1:01:06 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		You might find, if you have the room, to put up a punching bag. You can punch it, kick it, bite it and it will help with some of the frustration. Although nothing is like a real partner, but it can help until one comes along.

~Lashra

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 1:04:30 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Acutely aware of this issue right now...I channel my energies elsewhere, primarily work.  It's frustrating and I'd love to have an outlet for those times when my partner is not around.  I look forward to reading more responses.

The buying and making toys I think was also a great idea

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 1:47:09 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		ok in the past when I have that burning desire to go primal and my eyes roll into the back of my head while I have a cane or paddle in my hands, and that partner just isn't up to the level I need to get too satiate myself ... sometimes I will just go to the level they can go to .. get rid of some of that pent up aggression ... once they are at a point of no more I take a break having alleviated some of the animalization in me .. now when they have regained themselves I will have another session and get rid of more . and keep reapeating the process till it's absolutely all gone ....... or they run the fuck away! ... lmao
 
as of late I have just found channeling that energy into other things .... remodeling my house .. forum posts .... many different things .... as long as I take my mind off the one true fact .. I need to beat the living hell out of some slaves ass right about now

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 4:41:06 PM   
yourMissTress


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quote:

My current on-again-off-again boy can’t stand being kicked. I have a play partner a few hours away who enjoys it, but we haven’t talked in a long, long time and I think it would be a bit rude to call him up and say "Hey, long time no see. I really have no desire to go to lunch and don’t care to catch up on old times, but I’d like to kick the hell out of someone. You game?"

 
I'm not sure why you couldn't do this...
 
But since you don't feel like you can, then you can't.  So now for some possibly helpful advice for the future because none of my advice is anything you can do today.  I have a few "part time subs" which are casual play partners that play as hard as I do and are unattached, or attached to someone that enjoys watching me beat the snot out of them.  I'm also a member of a local club where there are usually a few people that are up for some playtime. 
 
Even though I live with my full time sub, I don't play her hard often, only because I like her smooth, soft skin and want it to stay that way.  When I really want to beat the living hell out of someone I don't ever use her, I call one of my "hamburger boys" and I turn their backsides and sometimes their front sides into just that.
 
Or, if I'm just in need of the physical stimulation and release involved in giving a good beating...I use a heavy bag until I'm dripping wet.
 






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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 4:50:03 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Probably a bit off topic, but kicking is the favorite physical part of martial arts for me, I can really feel the power in it, so can appreciate how some dominant people could like to express their sadism that way.

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 4:55:44 PM   
cloudboy


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You could always try re-watching A CLOCKWORK ORANGE.

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 6:08:49 PM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

You might find, if you have the room, to put up a punching bag. You can punch it, kick it, bite it and it will help with some of the frustration. Although nothing is like a real partner, but it can help until one comes along.

~Lashra


I have a heavy bag and a speed bag, but displacing my desires isn't what I have them for.

Punching a bag in response to an urge to express my sadism would be about as fulfilling as eating a bag in response to an urge for a delicious meal.

There are times when the thing to do is be hungry for a while.



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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 6:11:33 PM   
gypsyssoul


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scary to say ... the feelings i got reading this
for me that i related to you both
the pain .. the humilation at times
the power .. the release
the exchange
haunts
calls .. gets you in the gut
longing for that feeling ... where you can't lift your eyes
your head tilts and you just know that ...
trouble has your name on it
with that little grin and soft sigh
we enter the dance ...
 
i know this won't help you ... Proprietrix
but i write ... poems
short erotic storys
releasing from my mind ... what my soul craves
~~blessed be

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 6:16:36 PM   
MizSuz


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Status: offline 		There's a tension point in yearning for something denied that can be quite a rush unto itself, if you're willing to ride it out.  I read somewhere (and I really wish I could remember the author) that yearning for something is the next best thing to having it because it keeps it fresh.

I have been known to go long periods without a 'fix.'  Rather than trying to find a way to alleviate the not-necessarily-pleasant experience (i.e.: getting the fix met) I try to just acknowledge that the desire for it is happening and see how that feels in my body.  It just 'is.'  Like being in a foul mood, or feeling sentimental, or happy, or being angry, or craving something sweet when there is none in the house.  It either will pass or it will build but I endeavor to ride it without letting it dictate my behavior.

Learn to savor the tension point that's in denial.  It can be powerful and erotic and can often change the way you see things, especially if you do it for a while.  Ask a submissive who knows.  I guess I'm saying it's ok to submit to yourself.



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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 6:56:58 PM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		*bangs my head on the desk*     Thorns won't be home until December.   I so love body percussion.  <sighz>

(now i have this to think about tonight.  thanks!)   *laughs*

~smilezz~

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/19/2006 7:12:24 PM   
Sab


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix


Sadists…
What do you do when you get that burning desire to go all primal and beat the ever loving shit out of someone, but you don’t have the compatible play partner to do so?
i.e.
I love to kick. I like to kick the bloody hell out of a sub until they are curled up in a ball on the floor crying, and then continue to kick ‘em while they’re down. I am perfectly content, and in a state of primal bliss doing this until my legs get tired, I get too hot and sweaty, or they safe-word.
My current on-again-off-again boy can’t stand being kicked. I have a play partner a few hours away who enjoys it, but we haven’t talked in a long, long time and I think it would be a bit rude to call him up and say "Hey, long time no see. I really have no desire to go to lunch and don’t care to catch up on old times, but I’d like to kick the hell out of someone. You game?"
I suppose I could kick the wall, but that would be almost as fulfilling as a horny man settling for a blow up doll. A punching bag just doesn’t cut it. This isn’t even a sex thing. Even someone sexually aroused could find a bit of satisfaction in at least masturbating. It’s not like I can masturbate the desire to kick out of my leg and foot.
I can’t go pick up one of the local yahoos at the bar and bring him/her home and kick them. There’s just a law suit waiting to happen.
I suppose this is really no different than any other thread about "How do I get my kink on without a partner?"
Just tailored to the specifics of Sadistic kink. How do you get that sadistic streak met when there’s no one to use it on? Any suggestions?


Get a kick bag or a punch bag and kick the f*ck out of that - you will soon find that doing such a thing will tire you, very, very quickly. Won't mean you have the response of human meat - but you will find that the latic acid response will kill the desire.


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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/26/2006 11:23:54 PM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		How does one kick (in a *safe* way) until their leg is tired or theyre worn out and sweating?  I would think thats an *awful* lotta kicking.   I mean how many places on the human body can one possibly kick until theyre tired, without doing phyisical damage?

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/27/2006 2:04:47 AM   
zenofeller


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Status: offline 		to answer the original poster, have you considered joining some sort of karate/kickboxing etc club ? on one hand, anyone half good can block your kicks for longer than you can keep em coming, and thus the exhaustion will be there but they won't be hurt at all. on the other, if you actually insist on hurting people, you will probably find some beginner to bash. sure, this means you might get your butt kicked, but how much can you ask for ?

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/27/2006 2:11:52 AM   
darkdays2468


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Status: offline 		The mentality of some of the people on here worries me greatly

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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/27/2006 9:32:34 AM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		the judgementality of some people on this site really astounds me.  .. In a society that had to stay in the dark for so long because of persecution now all of a sudden we're gonna get people who are gonna strut in here and start judging ... might as well take us all in the cellar again.
 
To the OP .... there are mant way you can put off your desire to kick the living hell out of your slave .... what those things are only you can look deep inside and figure out . I think MOST have offered some good suggestions ... you might want to try some meditating too like incense and mood music ... I can only wish you the best of luck at this point Proprietex ... the rest is inside you.
 


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RE: Another "how do I get my kink on?" thread... - 6/27/2006 10:16:54 AM   
Caretakr


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Status: offline 		Satisfy the sexual urge on my own, and master the compulsion.

There is nothing, beyond basic biology, that I "need" enough to allow it to become a monkey on my back.

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