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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/24/2013 3:29:54 PM   
MistressSara7


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Status: offline 		It is not necessary to plaster a warning over your website to protect yourself from being sued. For most sites, it is enough to have it completely spelled out on a simple TOS link, however as I stated before, I've stated my observation and experience and no one big or bad can make me change that.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/24/2013 3:31:27 PM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: descrite

Just out of curiousity...has anyone heard of a male findom?


Or do we just call them "pimps," still?



Hell, I don't even know of any pro male het doms.


Which is what happens when S and D curves never meet.






There are some on the other side. I just laugh.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/24/2013 3:38:34 PM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: FinDommeAdy

I don't understand why findommes get more hate mail



If we're talking of men who write to you, then it depends on the kind of man.

Me, I did once findommes irksome. The idea of findommes destroyed all my ideals about romance and relationships. It seemed just about the coldest, most inhuman thing I could imagine. Nowadays, I don't care. I've realised that there are enough of the sort of women who think in a complementary way to me for me to be happy.

I have a hypothesis that sub males as a group tend to be, in no doubt a weird and warped way, very romantic sorts. Women are idealised creatures for them; they mustn't act in an un-idealised way.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/24/2013 6:20:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressSara7


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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It is because the site owners are not findomme friendly and thus encourage their members not to be findomme friendly as well. The reason being either they don't believe money fetish to be an actual and legitimate kink or they believe that all findommes are scammers.


What makes you believe this?




It is my experience and also comparing it to other sites. It appears that proclaiming that you are into the findomme fetish churns stomachs around here and thus the hate messages and reporting ensues. While with other similar sites, it's ok to proudly claim your fetish in financial domination and whether people there like it or not, it is generally accepted and respected enough.

Having a banner across the site specifically warning adults against sending money or tributing someone they fancy (by their own free will of course) comes off as very targeted. I recognize that all sites are not created or managed equally so it's really no skin off of my back and those type of hate messages gets deleted anyway. Matter of fact, this is the only site that I have ever gotten hate messages (period) ... regardless of fetish affinity.


I have no problem with findommes who are in a relationship and control all the money. It's the princess profiles who demand tribute before any contact what so ever. I seriously doubt they have any intention of ever meeting the sub and just want someone to send them money so they don't have to get a real job. To me there is a big difference between the two. As to the message about not sending money. I think it's appropriate. Why should some guy have to pay to send a message on a free site? That and there are a lot of scammers out there. It's a shame that it is necessary to even say that because to me it should be common sense. But from some of the threads I have seen, it isn't.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/24/2013 6:41:39 PM   
TheLilSquaw


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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

Actually, I want to take a moment to say that BEFORE I joined this site I was very much AGAINST FinDomination. However, after reading some of the forums discussing it, I've actually become more accepting of it. The only real problem I have with it now is with the financial-DEPENDENTS (those females who have never been financially independent themselves, and NEED TO BE SUPPORTED FINANCIALLY TO SURVIVE---"Daddy, BUY me something, I don't have any money!") who are posing as DOMINANT women. In contrast a Dominant woman is self-supporting, doesn't NEED a man to survive financially, and often owns Her own home, cars, etc that She has purchased with Her OWN money, not money a man has given Her. She MANAGES Her financial sub's spending, and yes, punishes him by taking some of his money, but a good Dominant never strips Her sub of ALL his money, beyond what he can afford. There are some fin-Dommes on here who fit the latter description and are GOOD representatives of the fetish.

Whatever, that's MY say. You people can duke it out as you see fit.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 2:38:30 AM   
TNDommeK


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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:01:25 AM   
VideoAdminAlpha


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ORIGINAL: MistressSara7


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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It is because the site owners are not findomme friendly and thus encourage their members not to be findomme friendly as well. The reason being either they don't believe money fetish to be an actual and legitimate kink or they believe that all findommes are scammers.


What makes you believe this?




It is my experience and also comparing it to other sites. It appears that proclaiming that you are into the findomme fetish churns stomachs around here and thus the hate messages and reporting ensues. While with other similar sites, it's ok to proudly claim your fetish in financial domination and whether people there like it or not, it is generally accepted and respected enough.

Having a banner across the site specifically warning adults against sending money or tributing someone they fancy (by their own free will of course) comes off as very targeted. I recognize that all sites are not created or managed equally so it's really no skin off of my back and those type of hate messages gets deleted anyway. Matter of fact, this is the only site that I have ever gotten hate messages (period) ... regardless of fetish affinity.



We have no control over what type of mail you get. We do not screen each user to make sure that only "respectful" mail reaches your inbox. The stance is taken that you are an adult and can hit the delete button. I find it truly hard to believe you have NEVER gotten anything but mail that is courteous and full of respect on every other site you have ever been on. I suppose its possible, because you stated it. I'm just saying the probability is very low. I have gotten nasty mails on other sites, and they were vanilla and were not remotely related to bdsm or financial domination.

You are allowed to post an ad in the professional section if you are willing to reciprocate and give US free advertising on YOUR website in the form of a banner ad.

As to the money message, believe it or not, there are scammers on the internet that have nothing to do with financial domination. They are in dire need of BUS TICKETS, other supposed help, and some come from countries that are known to be rife with scams, and like to try to ply THEIR trade with some of our more naive posters. We even have some that offer money for a small, nominal, registration fee etc. The users decide what they will do, and believe it or not, there are a lot of people that do not see messages in BIG RED letters at the top of every email they read. They post all the time, bitter that they feel they were scammed out of their money. Nowhere do we say not to "tribute" someone. There are several posters that are well known on the boards that are financial female dominants. They even state that they have subs that have come from this site. The difference might be they took the time to receive trust from other users.

On the other hand, if you use our handy dandy search feature that actually works at times, you will see there are just as many threads where the site is accused of being pro findomme and that it favors them.

The site takes no stand at all on financial dommes with respect as to legitimacy either way. It sure gets accused of it though. We have rules posted for ALL users, not particular subsets.They also have possible actions available to be taken should you get unwanted mail, have unwanted comments made about you, or if they are breaking rules in other areas. If those are followed, your user experience should be a whole lot more stress free. Whining and moaning ( not saying you are, just using those generic terms) rarely works well in real life, and doesnt work well here either to improve the quality of your experiences attained from such behaviors.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:06:40 AM   
VideoAdminAlpha


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ORIGINAL: MistressSara7

I am not getting all this FREE wording that is being thrown around. I've been active on the internet and many forums and have never had to pay to join a site before. Everyone advertises their fetish and fancies in one way or the other online.... (shrugs)

To continue is pointless, I am not here to convince anyone of anything but I am very opinionated so therefore I do speak up.


Alt.com,Bondage.com adultfriendfinders, hell, match and eharmony.com all charge membership fees. No, you do not HAVE to pay. You also dont get to access all the features like you do here. The fem domme discussion boards do not get you in touch with nearly as many users. Fet Life is free, but there are groups instead of forums, and with all the different groups, again, you do not get your comments and ideas to nearly as many people as the forums. You get a profile on a site that is not as easy to do searches for the type of members you may seek, by intentional design.



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It is not necessary to plaster a warning over your website to protect yourself from being sued. For most sites, it is enough to have it completely spelled out on a simple TOS link, however as I stated before, I've stated my observation and experience and no one big or bad can make me change that.


It is also a simple TOS link that some ignore and put items in their profile that is ignored, and the poster puts them in there anyway. Some examples might include financial reparations from white clients for black supremacy( 2 violations there) and saying if payments were handsome enough the member might consider a real life meeting. Or that tributes are required but do not count towards any part of a session, that will be seperate. Any of that wording sound familiar???? That is just one possible example of possible wording that a user might use if they ignored that ENORMOUS tos passage they were supposed to read before signing up for the site.....Just sayin........

< Message edited by VideoAdminAlpha -- 1/25/2013 5:12:37 AM >

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:20:52 AM   
imdoingitagain


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Status: offline 		"They are in dire need of BUS TICKETS"
HAHAHAHAHA

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:23:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		It was actually on a users journals that posted very recently on these boards somewhere. They wanted a ride too......

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:27:36 AM   
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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:33:47 AM   
imdoingitagain


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Status: offline 		I do believe it was the OP, that's why I found it so funny.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 8:05:21 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		She didn't need a bus ticket but a ride to the bus station.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 8:09:26 AM   
poise


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Status: offline 		Her "unedited" profile actually stated she needed $240.00 for a bus ticket, and was willing to cam for an hour to get it.
If you google her user name, there are caches to her original profile and journal entries.

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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 9:46:10 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: poise

Her "unedited" profile actually stated she needed $240.00 for a bus ticket, and was willing to cam for an hour to get it.
If you google her user name, there are caches to her original profile and journal entries.


I am continuously impressed by your internet detective skills.

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminAlpha

We have no control over what type of mail you get. We do not screen each user to make sure that only "respectful" mail reaches your inbox. The stance is taken that you are an adult and can hit the delete button.


Thank goodness! Who would want to be a member of a site where your private messages were all vetted? Who wants someone to 'protect' them in that way? And can you imagine all of the controversy about which messages were and weren't allowed through.... oh my head hurts thinking of it.



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RE: Financial dominant women get nor hate mail than the... - 1/25/2013 5:37:33 PM   
TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

She didn't need a bus ticket but a ride to the bus station.


No no, her profile said she needed the ticket, then in her journal she asked for a ride. I think I said something on the thread about not begging for a ticket....if we are talking about the same chick. It was the Sissy Training post.

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