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Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 4:03:33 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Ok, I have got a serious problem when it comes to roleplaying.  I just can't seem to get into it, I start with the giggles and then its full blown laughter.  I don't know why but I feel so stupid doing it.  Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anyway that I can overcome this?  I really want to get into it, but it just seems silly to me. Help! 

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 4:12:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps doing the same role over and over again until you stop laughing?

Or maybe accept the laughter as part of the scene if the dom you are with has a sense of humor about such things. In fact if you give yourself permission to laugh and be light hearted and not take it so seriously I bet sooner or later there will be no laughter at all...

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 4:29:17 PM   
SCORPIOXXX


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Status: offline 		A couple of subs I played with had the same problem... I like writing and my Role Play Scenarios are actually 10-20 pages short stories (settings, dialogues, etc.), someof them with dialogue that can turn slapstick (no pun intended, groan) i.e: the outraged priest condemning the salacious shlong sucking slut of satan, brazen boner blowing bitch of beelzebub, and so on with strings of words on the L, H, M, V 1st lettter theme... As with cuddleheart50, laughter is a distraction -- and guess what: it's true that a good belly laugh is orgasmic in itself! Which explains why the mood can, uhm, soften... Of course, we all know what to do to refocus a distracted sub... But also true, as Julia says, do it enough times and you get over it... Practice makes perfect! ENJOY!!!

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 5:51:15 PM   
HisTicia


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Status: offline 		I am so glad I am not the only one that suffers from this... I thought that I was the only one that couldn't get into it.  I had a vanilla guy..that wanted to play nurse/patient... I started to "examine" him..and I could not keep a straight face... finally I just pulled the covers back and started a bj...that pretty much ended his interest in whether I was a nurse...and I was able to save myself any more embarrasment.
 
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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 5:53:39 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Dang good timing for this have to role play a classy chick instead of myself who loves jeans.  Imagine a dress a sexy dress oops not wanting to laugh want to puke had the same reaction buying one cause i am me and that is not me.  Now the sexy underclothing was not problem hmmmm already had that love it wonder what that says about me.  No please don't say it lol.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 6:02:54 PM   
trippingdaisy


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Status: offline 		You know...it's funny. i never actually did any roleplaying in the bedroom until i began my relationship with my current Master. None of the others ever actually seemed interested.

How it happened, though, was interesting.

He and i (and our roommate) are all running an online text-only roleplaying game, based on WhiteWolf games. One of those games is called Vampire: the Masquerade.

Yes, we're all gamers. Huge gamers. Geeks even.

But ANYway.

He and i were playing in a highly political game. He a vampire, i played a ghoul (for those that don't know what that is, it's basically a human that's bound to the vampire by drinking their blood). The dynamic was interesting during the game, and these were characters we'd played for a very long time.

So, one night, He decided that we should bring it into the bedroom, just to see if it was fun. OH boy, was it! i think it had everything to do with the familiarity with the characters.

Now, it would be sorta silly of me to suggest something along those exact lines. However...practice makes perfect. If it helps thinking about the role you want to take, giving it a personality, wants, desires...all sorts of stuff, and just keep trying...maybe you'll be successful!

Good luck. :)

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 6:39:43 PM   
desertdancer


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Status: offline 		Cuddle, if your finding yourself wanting to giggle, maybe you can create your character around a sweet kinda innocent girl that giggles, maybe a jessica simpson type and try throwing her into the different rolls? So in other words, you play one PC (that's player character, see my geeky-ness is coming through) Then move that one PC into different scenarios, like...one day your giggly sweet girl is a school girl, the next she's going for her first gyno, then the next she's a naughty, but giggly nurse.  If you get used to playing one character, then you can expand and play others.  I've found when roll playing it's easiest (for me) to learn with a kinda silly naive character, one that can kinda dance through any scene.

Good luck, relax and just enjoy yoruself

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 6:46:07 PM   
trippingdaisy


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ORIGINAL: desertdancer

So in other words, you play one PC (that's player character, see my geeky-ness is coming through) Then move that one PC into different scenarios, like...one day your giggly sweet girl is a school girl, the next she's going for her first gyno, then the next she's a naughty, but giggly nurse.



Heheh, PC. Another geek! How wonderful!

i agree with this, too. If you manage to work the giggles into a scene in which you're roleplaying....it might make it easier for you to take on more serious roles in the future.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 7:00:25 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Great idea desertdancer...at least that way I would be giggling for the right reasons...

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 7:18:24 PM   
desertdancer


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Status: offline 		It's how I learned to Rp, I was thrown into a world, I OOC (that's out of character) knew nothing about, and had to learn it while in game, so picking a naive giggly girl was my best bet, it's also how I met my Master years ago!  With that PC, I learned how to RP (roll play) and went on to run one of the worlds most played servers for NWN.  I no longer play, as my RL (real life) is much more interesting since Master and I are RT now.

I know as subs/ slaves we're to let our Dom's run things, but maybe if you felt OK with playing an innocent PC you could initiate the first few RP sessions to set the tone and scene until your more comfy?

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/19/2006 9:39:18 PM   
hizgeorgiapeach


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dancer, daisy - the two of you aren't the only geekesses  here.  Yes, that's right, the 40 yr old divorced mom of two was a major online RPer for years in the WoD games.  VtM and WtA - heck, I was even an ST for a couple of different online groups that I used to RP with regularly.  (btw - I'm looking for a good WoD RP group to get involved with again for some of my free time.... contact me on the other side if either of you have any ideas of where I can find one... )
 
*now returns you to the regularly scheduled thread*
 
Cuddle - the suggestions they've given you are fantastic ways to get yourself comfortable with the idea of adopting another persona than your own.  I never had much difficulty - I've done RPGs since I was 12 (yep, started with 1st ed D & D when it originally hit the states!) and spent about 15 years doing live RP with a medieval recreation group.  Every weekend, we would dress up in costuming from any point in time prior to the reign of Elizabeth I to camp out, party, whack each other repeatedly with big sticks that were mocked up swords.  Thing is, for that group I had to create a "character"... personality, name, habits, etc, and study the culture that character came from - whom I was supposed to "be" while I was at the events.  It was incredible fun (especially learning to belly dance, and seeing how much attention the belly dancers get and how welcome we are at Everyone's camp!) .... while also being educational - not simply from studying the history to create the persona, but also in learning how to stay in a role effectively regardless of the situation thrown at me.
 
If you have a lot of time on your hands... and some money that isn't wrapped up simply in living life... you might also consider a workshop or class at the local community college in the drama department.  Those can really help at the oddest of times, and in the strangest situations - from learning how to present yourself, to learning various tricks of how to maintain a character's persona rather than your own.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 5:56:48 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		Some roleplaying i find very easy to do other not. I am really bad at rape or resistance scenes because at the first touch no matter how hard i try to fight or pretend i melt into a puddle.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 6:18:08 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		I can't roleplay to save my soul. I've tried...but never managed it convincingly. I think it because in my head it is just so closely related to dishonesty. It feels fake and awkward. I get about the same reactions out of myself that I do when I try to lie...my face freezes in the goofiest expressions and then I usually bust up laughing. Just one of those things that I am not good at.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 6:33:00 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Well if it is all laughing, just keepa going!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Laughter can't be bad can it?  It is interaction........not everything has to end in making the beast, does it?

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 6:48:21 AM   
wild1cfl


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Status: offline 		My current slave starts to giggle and laugh whenever she goes into subspace so I know then that I have done my job well.
   I think that perhaps your roleplay situations are not very believable. I have done many roleplay scenes over the years dealing with kidnap, interogation, being sold into slavery and a few more. We spend a lot of time working out these scenes to make them believable and the key is that they subject of the roleplay(the submissive) knows the least, she knows that she will be the subject and she knows the time it will happen, but we often surprise them with how they are brought into it and what happens after they are involved. We give them a set of instructions that includes a safe word or phrase that fits the scene. This will stop the action completely.


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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 6:57:48 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50
Ok, I have got a serious problem when it comes to roleplaying.  I just can't seem to get into it, I start with the giggles and then its full blown laughter.  I don't know why but I feel so stupid doing it.  Does anyone else have this problem? Is there anyway that I can overcome this?  I really want to get into it, but it just seems silly to me. Help! 

Yes.  It's very rare for me to be able to get into it.  I'm horrible at LARPing also and I think that's related. 

It's just a kink, not everyone gets into it.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 7:16:15 AM   
hizgeorgiapeach


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Status: offline 		I guess this is something that I see a tad "differently" - rather than seeing it as Deceit, I see it as Acting.  No different, in it's place, than being on stage or screen in a play or movie.  Is it real? Of course not.  Is it lying?  Again, no - because everyone involved knows up front that it's an intentional work of fiction created to be enjoyed.
 
Would you, Erin (or LA, or anyone else who has problems with it for the possible deceit factor) refuse to watch a movie or stage play because it wasn't "real"?  (Not real in the sense that you know going into it that it's fantasy/make believe/pure imagination created for entertainment.)  Would you watch, but perhaps be uncomfortable with the idea of ever joining the troup and taking on one of the roles on stage?

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 7:32:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach
Would you, Erin (or LA, or anyone else who has problems with it for the possible deceit factor) refuse to watch a movie or stage play because it wasn't "real"?  (Not real in the sense that you know going into it that it's fantasy/make believe/pure imagination created for entertainment.)  Would you watch, but perhaps be uncomfortable with the idea of ever joining the troup and taking on one of the roles on stage?

The thing is, I LOVE movies and plays.  I also am a fairly good actress in terms of being malleable, manipulative, able to control my voice, body language, tone, movements, expressions and more in order to convey and become something to someone else.

But when I'm in a scene, or some intimate situation I want to be open and MYSELF in, I can't get into that headspace.  When someone uses me for their fantasy, I can become whatever they need me to be, but it's very tiring for me.  It's me submitting to their desires, but I'm not getting anything directly for MYSELF.  When I've done LARPing, I can't feed off of the other people's energy because what they are projecting isn't really who they are either.  I suppose if I were with someone very good at projecting their energy and wrapping me up into it, then I could let go into the role play- but really, it's dependent on how good the other person is for me.

If I'm in a scene where I want to enjoy it directly, I want to just be ME.  When I do age play, I'm ME at that age. 

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 9:04:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach
Would you, Erin (or LA, or anyone else who has problems with it for the possible deceit factor) refuse to watch a movie or stage play because it wasn't "real"?  (Not real in the sense that you know going into it that it's fantasy/make believe/pure imagination created for entertainment.)  Would you watch, but perhaps be uncomfortable with the idea of ever joining the troup and taking on one of the roles on stage?


I too, love movies and plays. I have a lot of respect for those who can act and those who can do roleplay....I just can't do either with any degree of success. I'm not putting anyone down who likes to partake....it's just not for me. I'm not saying it is dishonesty because of course the parties involved in the roleplaying realize that it's roleplaying. It just "feels" like dishonesty to me when I try to do it.

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RE: Roleplaying... - 6/20/2006 10:02:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
It just "feels" like dishonesty to me when I try to do it.


Ok - that makes a lot more sense to me, both this responce from Erin, and what LA mentioned.
 
It's simply a case of every kink (or hobby) isn't for everyone.
 
Oddly enough, even though I love doing LARP and RPGs, and I love being on stage as a performer (both as a singer and an actress) - I've never particularly gotten anything out of doing strictly bedroom RP myself.  I considered it "stupid" (yes, I know, harsh word, shame on me) for the longest time - until a friend of mine who appreciates my sadistic streak drew me into helping out as a co-top in a couple of Interogation Scenes that he set up with sub friends of his who wanted that sort of thing.  It's still not something that I do with any sort of regularity, bdsm wise.  It's probably not something that I will Ever do with any great regularity bdsm for that matter! 
 
I can definately understand your comment, LA, about it taking a lot of energy out of you.  Being on stage in any capacity can be Very draining - and if you're not particularly enjoying being there, that multiples by orders of magnitude.

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