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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 3:32:03 AM

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@ TAFKAA I made up my mind thanks

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 9:38:55 AM

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I think Master would probably like it if I woke him up in the middle of the night to give him a bj or for sex but I'm usually fast asleep plus he has to wake up extremely early in the morning to get to work and he doesn't sleep well as it is and I don't feel he gets enough sleep so if I am awake I try to do whatever I can not to wake him.

I did however, tell Master a few weeks ago that I'm always surprised he doesn't wake me in the middle of the night for a little nookie but his response was that he knows I don't sleep well and doesn't want to wake me. He finds it rude to do so. The answer surprised me because he's the only man I have ever been with that has never woke me up to give him a bj or sex. I always thought it was just something that happens in a relationship. I always used to think there was something wrong with me because he never did it. It was just always normal to me.

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 1:10:20 PM

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@ littlewonder I know what you are saying-- I was with my ex husband for 23 years and before even knowing anything about this lifestyle we was living the life-- it was so easy to submit to him--but as the years went on, he lost his company and I moved up in mine-- I became the dominant one and he became the sub-- for the last eight years I have not been happy because I felt something was missing and that was a man in control-- I wanted to try new things and he didn't -- it is sad but our marriage is ending and we are not together, but I just wanted to find out if real Doms have a problem with being top from the bottom (sometimes) lol

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 1:27:27 PM

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Dear Master I am very new in this lifestyle but I know it is for me but my question is how do a woman know if she is a sub or a switch? I love to submit but I do have a strong side as well-- from what I have read so far I will not be able to just touch my Dom when I want to-- and honestly that bugs me--- do some Doms allow their subs to touch them sexually? Like would I be allowed to wake in the middle of the night and take him?

Yeah well... honestly... it'd bug me too. This sounds like "online wisdom" -- in other words... bearing no resemblance to most BDSM relationships whatsoever.

If Carol were to wake up in the middle of the night and "take me", I guess we'd see how it goes. I might be too tired. On the other hand, I might be way into the idea. In the end, I'm the boss so unlike if the situation were reversed I get a vote in the matter. But seriously? Assuming your timing was non-stupid why on earth would I vote nay?

Insofar as the sub/switch labelology.... yawn. You are you. Find someone you love and who loves you. Proceed from there.

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I see where you're coming from though. When I'm hanging out with the boys down at the local sports pub I hear this complaint constantly. 'Man, that bitch just woke me up again last night for another freakin blowjob. God I wish she'd just let me sleep for once."

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 2:33:42 PM

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@ JeffBC lol I hear that but it would be once in a while, I would not want to make him upset with me--plus I don't think there would be any complaints (wink)

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 7:03:45 PM

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From the wording of the OP, I'm wondering if she knows that some women are dominant and some men are subs?

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 9:11:48 PM

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From the wording of the OP, I'm wondering if she knows that some women are dominant and some men are subs?

I kind of wondered that myself.

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 1/31/2013 10:21:02 PM

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obviously she does since she said their roles reversed after she started working at a higher level than him, which for me I personally don't get why that would change anyone or anything.

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/1/2013 2:02:47 PM

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@ TAFKAA I made up my mind thanks

This is your first mistake. You should be looking to a man to make it up for you.

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/1/2013 9:34:55 PM

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@ TAFKAA I made up my mind thanks

This is your first mistake. You should be looking to a man to make it up for you.

hahahahahahaha

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/1/2013 11:09:54 PM

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Silence!

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/2/2013 5:40:54 AM

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@ TAFKAA I made up my mind thanks

This is your first mistake. You should be looking to a man to make it up for you.

Lmfcao Thanks after my work out I needed to unwind and have a good laugh!

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/2/2013 8:31:28 AM

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Dear Master I am very new in this lifestyle but I know it is for me but my question is how do a woman know if she is a sub or a switch? I love to submit but I do have a strong side as wel

As a few posters have said, there's a difference between being a switch, and being a strong minded sub who likes to make the first move sometimes.

Either is good, but don't feel you have to call yourself Dom just because you have a mind of your own. So have all the subs I respect.

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RE: SWITCH OR SUB - 2/2/2013 2:52:22 PM

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@HarryVanWinkle I am aware that some woman are dominant and some man are sub--but that is not me-- I am no Domme-- much respect to them but that is not for me--

@ littlewonder it was much more than that-- not only did his company folded and I moved up, I took care of him and my kids only for eight years-- I was not going to tear my family up of this --but as time went on he total changed to where he would do anything without getting the ok from me--even when it came to the kids, everything was ask mommy--speak to your mother first-- so time is still going on and thing he started to mentally abuse me--calling me names (in front of my kids) and that is when I said enough is enough he has to go 23 years of marriage 8 years of holding it down on my own--(mind you I gave him an allowance) and I loved my husband but no one has the right to be abused so that is want ended my marriage

@TAFKAA-- I don't need a man to make anything up to me-- I need to make it up to myself first--I allowed myself to go through pain too long now it is my time.

@ leonine thanks but trust me I am no Dom -- I am a very straight forward, no nonsense, dominant manager at work, I don't want to come home and be the dominant one--being new to the lifestyle I believed that everyone had to be labeled but now I know this is not true so I am good. Thanks

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